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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]RainDog
(28,784 posts)I'm not making a "they did so this is okay" statement. I think would be simplifying too much if I just said it was about an insult toward someone because the overarching issue seems to be about those whose idea of what is offensive is oftentimes very different - as in the example I posted - not the dog insult, but the people on that thread who think laughing at the fundamentalist religious view of porn is an offense against themselves.
Or maybe they were bringing in other garbage to that thread to continue a fight with others that, if someone has not been in that fight, would have no knowledge of. The thread was alerted on, even. I assumed it was because someone thought it was meant as a literal post... i.e. in support. Others assume it's because the porn crusaders share more common ground with religious fundamentalists.
No one has ever apologized for insults in these situations, that I know of. Instead, they've doubled down.
I'm talking about my interactions here and the stereotypical assumptions made by women toward me. I know what they're assuming and when I can step back, it makes me laugh because it demonstrates such a small mindedness. In the midst of being told I support child abuse - as a mother, that one really, really pissed me off. That person has nothing worthwhile to say to me because, instead of acknowledging what a asshole that made the person, it's dismissed... oh, these old grudges. Well, no. The person continues to do the same thing in various ways. The way I dealt with this, initially, was to put those people and those who supported them, often, on ignore until I could get beyond my disgust for their way of conducting themselves here.
For some strange reason, some here think they cannot just ignore people with whom they find no common ground when they can't discuss something without insults. That's one reason I posted the video from a woman talking about youtube comments.
Various people can and do create hostile environments here, iow.