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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]Ms. Toad
(34,069 posts)during which I had some behind the scenes conversations with a number of women, who were disgusted at how I was treated - many of whom also stopped (or had stopped) hanging out in the LGBT group for similar reasons. And I have barely been back since then. It is often a point of tension in mixed gender LGBT groups, unless they make a concerted effort to address making women (and now bi adn trans* individuals) welcome. I've responded to dsc's post, since his post doesn't link to the underlying conversation, so people can judge for themselves.
Although I have little interest in the DU LGBT group, I am not willing to allow "It's ok, because it was in the LGBT group," pass given my history with the LGBT group on this issue. As far as I am concerned, it is no more ok there than it is in GD - and some gay men tend to excuse it for the same, or similar, reasons as straight men.