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Particularly if the woman who is drunk is seeming to say "Yes" to the person feeding them drinks and doing the isolating.
Put yourself into the situation of someone observing this. First of all, it's not uncommon for people to feed each other drinks and its also not uncommon for two people in bars and parties to then want to go somewhere to be alone with each other. I have been with a mixed (several males, several females) group of folks on several occasions over the years trying to prevent a woman we know from going off with a guy they met, knowing that if they were sober this is not what they would want to do and it's a losing proposition. Then hearing the next day, "why didn't you guys stop me...".
You're in the position of trying to prevent two adults from doing what they seem to want to do. And being that you are not a law enforcement official, psychiatrist, or other authority, you don't have the legal right to assert one or both of the people do not have agency over themselves.
Seeing a few too many of these is what prompted me to stop drinking almost entirely around 10 years ago. I don't want to lose control to the point of doing things I wouldn't ordinarily want to do.
Certainly, if the woman is in any way indicating this may not be something she wants to do, then you can intervene, but even then you can be in for a rough ride. The guys friends may then try to intervene on his behalf to prevent you from getting involved, etc. I've been there too.
I've really learned to hate alcohol.
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