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KitSileya

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7. Except, women are socialized not to slap guys in the face when they do these things.

Wed Oct 30, 2013, 11:15 AM

Oct 2013

There are those who have said it so much better than me, but it is nigh impossible for a woman to slap a guy without facing backlash. Let me illustrate for you - when I was in 5th or 6th grade, two boys in my class decided they were in love with me, and started competing for my attention. They followed me home from school, would run up and pat my hair during recess, would threaten to play wrestle with me and so on. The adult reaction? "Oh, how cute!" "I bet you're proud for being so popular with the boys." "Ignore them and they'll stop." If I had slapped them, I would have been the one suspended.

In Sweden, a women who turned around and slapped a guy who touched her butt was convicted of assault. In Sweden! And then consider how it is in less equal countries.

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Rebuttal to Emily Yoffee: Cockblocking Rapists Is A Moral Obligation; or, How To Stop Rape Right Now [View all] KitSileya Oct 2013 OP

Men rape daybranch Oct 2013 #1

simple. to the point. yes. nt seabeyond Oct 2013 #5

Do I get to wear a cape when I go out and fight those rapists? redgreenandblue Oct 2013 #19

98% per cent of rapists are men, KitSileya Oct 2013 #6

How about "Bob, if you're handsy when drunk, we'll call the cops on you"? Nye Bevan Oct 2013 #2

Oh, I wish. KitSileya Oct 2013 #3

I just thought- maybe he was planting a bug on her! Nye Bevan Oct 2013 #4

Except, women are socialized not to slap guys in the face when they do these things. KitSileya Oct 2013 #7

Luckily, there is so much I just didn't get enculturated with tavalon Oct 2013 #8

Good for you! Nye Bevan Oct 2013 #14

This is much more difficult than it seems both in identifying the situation and acting on it. stevenleser Oct 2013 #9

So, ask them beforehand, while they're sober. KitSileya Oct 2013 #11

Good advice, I'm not going to be in that situation anymore because I avoid places where alcohol stevenleser Oct 2013 #13

Pushing drinks... pipi_k Oct 2013 #10

I agree with Yoffe. Nine Oct 2013 #12

Women already know the dangers of binge drinking. KitSileya Oct 2013 #15

I don't think the suggestions in the article were bad ones. Nine Oct 2013 #18

This is my favorite part redqueen Oct 2013 #16

Women in India get it: freshwest Oct 2013 #17