However, in most social circles, a guy who's handsy isn't considered someone doing something wrong, and many women don't protest, because they have been socialized to accept strangers touching them ("Give Uncle Peter a hug!"
without complaint.
For heaven's sake, George W. Bush thought it was quite ok to do that to Angela Merkel at an international meeting - in front of photographers. How many times has he not done that before then, without anyone protesting?
Calling the cops on a guy who offers a shoulder massage and starts doing it before he gets consent, will get you cops who laugh at you. The guy, however, may be using that as a strategy to check out who has problems upholding boundaries, and who he can persuade to go along. Giving the victim an out by asking her to show you something, or to explain something to you, or even reinforce her no if she gave one ("Hey, dude, she said no. You don't want to end up being called the Groper, do you?" may be a lifesaver. And it will change our culture, little by little.
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