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In reply to the discussion: Contrary to popular opinion, DU is supposed to be for politically *liberal* people. Either that or [View all]Mother Of Four
(1,716 posts)The1onein, I don't know if you realize that your posts make it sound as though you feel you should force a woman to give birth. That because of your beliefs you would put a woman through the emotional pain of carrying an unwanted child, or the devastation of having to continue carrying a wanted child that has no hope of a future or even surviving the first few hours. Living with it, all through your day and have it give you sleepless nights. It's a cruel torture your posts are suggesting, there isn't any miraculous joy that will spring up and make it all ok.
We can't live the life of another, feel their pain or fear. No matter how much we might wish to carry some of that burden for them it's just not possible. The bottom line is even if Roe V Wade was repealed women who find themselves troubled and pregnant will still seek to end that pregnancy in any way they can. We have an obligation to make sure they are safe and cared for. We have an ethical responsibility that no matter what our PERSONAL beliefs are, there will never be another woman dying or made infertile because of using a back alley hack calling themselves doctor.
What would you tell a 14 year old girl raped by her father? I'm sorry dear, but you have to relive him raping you every time you feel your baby kick. Not only that but you have to look into this child's face knowing you were abused and betrayed by the man who was supposed to protect you.? Would you be able to look them in the eye and convince them it was some kind of gift?
What about this couple?
http://www.motherjones.com/politics/2011/07/late-term-abortion-29-weeks-dana-weinstein
Yes I know that the baby will suffer and is badly deformed, and may not live past birth but it's living now so you just have to carry it to term and watch it's pain.?
I completely agree with you on not liking abortion at all, but it has to be tempered. In my entire life I've never known someone to LIKE abortion. This subject needs to be treated with compassion, not inflexibility. Imagine if it were reversed... that you were pregnant and wanted to carry a child to term even though the doctor told you it had a good chance to kill you? What if, in this reverse reality you were forced to get an abortion because someone else felt it was the right thing to do? Horrifying to think about, how dare someone take away your choice to carry your child?
Yes, yes yes yes. We should strive even harder to educate our daughters as they grow up. We should do everything possible to reduce the amount of unwanted pregnancies. Birth control should be easy to get, and unquestioned or stigmatized. We should fight fiercely for all women to get full medical support and guidance so they can make informed choices and reduce the risk for them by having a doctor follow them from conception through delivery.
But please think on this:
No matter how much we educate or support nature always finds a way. It finds a way with rape, it finds a way with incest, it finds a way if the baby doesn't develop right. It finds it way past birth control and no matter how much you try to push abstinence we have these funny things called hormones that are designed to make us want to multiply.
I don't need an answer to this following question, I just would ask that you think on it.
If you are against the death penalty, then why on earth would you be an advocate for repealing Roe V Wade? Because if it happens, you WILL be condemning some women to death. That's not an opinion, it's a fact.