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53. I am not a stay at home dad

Sat Jun 1, 2013, 06:38 AM

Jun 2013

but my wife is a stay at home mom and she homeschools our three girls. I consider the job that she does with our brood to be much more important than the job that I do and what she does and how she does it partly enables me to be good at what I do. Because of this arrangement, many people are dismayed when I tell them I cook and clean and maintain the yard and manage the money. They seem to think it should be her 'contribution' to our home. Sometimes I take the time to explain our duties and how they got where they are... sometimes I just laugh and say her job is much harder than mine.

I don't do all the cooking or all the cleaning but I do most. And I wouldn't have it any other way...

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I'm a stay at home husband, or as I call it, a "kept man"... [View all] Recursion May 2013 OP

Sounds like the kind of life I would love... sibelian May 2013 #1

I definitely consider housework torture. Lucky Luciano May 2013 #28

Thanks for your perspective. Sheldon Cooper May 2013 #2

It's a "many" thing, I grant Recursion May 2013 #5

23 yrs Navy Sea Bee 4Q2u2 May 2013 #14

My wife is also a total slob fitman May 2013 #36

Reminds me of this from Jane Austen's Emma: treestar May 2013 #13

Damn, I need to find and marry a man like you! Loved this post! Kicked!!! Liberal_Stalwart71 May 2013 #3

That's sweet, but don't try to replicate this. You have the right solution for you, out there Recursion May 2013 #6

What a great read and insightful piece. Thank you. n/t reflection May 2013 #4

Not only are men willing to put up with more "filth", they are willing to wear the same underwear kelliekat44 May 2013 #7

OK, I'll come clean: even I do that Recursion May 2013 #8

ok. I'll give you that. kelliekat44 May 2013 #9

Nice stereo type MattBaggins May 2013 #23

Look--there's a reason underwear has two sides. msanthrope May 2013 #37

I'm home a lot myself. Inkfreak May 2013 #10

What a great Mom ! marions ghost May 2013 #17

Sounds like a fine life to me. If you're both happy... Triana May 2013 #11

Mr. Dixie was a house husband for many years dixiegrrrrl May 2013 #12

Ha! My husband is the same way ellie May 2013 #15

My wife runs me out of the kitchen madokie May 2013 #16

Division of labor along skill lines marions ghost May 2013 #19

I run my husband out of the kitchen too... a la izquierda May 2013 #35

I think there are men out there that are house husbands NewJeffCT May 2013 #18

Huzzah and Semper Fi JaneFordA May 2013 #20

You sound like a gem. Jennicut May 2013 #21

I would not call you kept, you are a partner... Phentex May 2013 #22

I absolutely promise not to try to replicate that! DFW May 2013 #24

I think that's awesome! hamsterjill May 2013 #25

Great post.. My son spent 5 years in the Navy and became a neat freak.. mountain grammy May 2013 #26

What a treasure of a human being and man you are. Unfortunately one in a million. northoftheborder May 2013 #27

My father did all the cleaning, my mom did all the cooking, my brother and I did laundry xtraxritical May 2013 #29

well there's no need to be nasty. I'm sure he is simply commenting on the comments liberal_at_heart May 2013 #34

This post is in part a response to this thread: Arugula Latte May 2013 #39

"Desperate to get your name on a post?" DU Courtesy Fail. IdaBriggs May 2013 #40

Are you kidding? Are you new here? xtraxritical May 2013 #42

Well, I've been here 10 years longer than you have, and I agree with every word of Ida's post. 11 Bravo May 2013 #45

Don't fuck with Ida. DCKit Jun 2013 #51

not all of us fit the stereotype. liberal_at_heart May 2013 #30

I too struggle with cleaning Skittles May 2013 #47

i have always let my wife/gf pay the bills galileoreloaded May 2013 #31

You have a wife and a girlfriend paying the bills? IdaBriggs May 2013 #41

was married, now w girlfriend galileoreloaded May 2013 #43

that was kpete May 2013 #32

I think your great and it's to bad you don't have children yet. southernyankeebelle May 2013 #33

You make me want to be a better person. DCKit Jun 2013 #52

While never in the military, like you I SCRUB the house rl6214 May 2013 #38

She has some secret Benghazi recipe? ashling May 2013 #44

you want I should kick your kept ass, Recursion? Skittles May 2013 #46

You are obviously manly enough to man-up and pull your weight in your marriage, indepat May 2013 #48

wonderful post Liberal_in_LA May 2013 #49

You are the stay at home partner, not the "kept man" tavalon May 2013 #50

I am not a stay at home dad ProdigalJunkMail Jun 2013 #53