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ForgedCrank

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40. I'm getting

Wed Apr 3, 2024, 12:31 PM

Apr 3

older, but something finally occurred to me similar last year when I had an uncle pass away, my mothers little brother.
There were few people left in his circle, so my mom asked me to help her sort his belongings.
I spend several days going through his stuff, trying to find things that would be important to my mom, photos, legal documents, etc. Plus all of his other belongings.
For the first time in my life, it hit me. All of this stuff that I am accumulating is almost all worthless to anyone but myself. People I leave behind one day, probably my children, will be faced with this awful task. The guilt of throwing away things that were saved and obviously important to the one passed on, but things that no one else is interested in or has space to store for no good reason.
It bought up a lot of emotions for some reason. Things such as what our legacy will really be, and the sadness we leave behind. It's all just mostly junk to others and will be discarded or sold for pennies just to get rid of it.
Our stuff is nothing. All of these tools, furniture, all of it. It's not a legacy nor a memory when we are gone. It's just junk.
Love your family and spend more time with them, that is the only legacy you will have. Make it a good one.

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Shannen Doherty Says She's Preparing for Death ... Giving Away Personal Items [View all] Coventina Apr 2 OP

That is hearbreaking. 50 Shades Of Blue Apr 2 #1

I hope she is at peace Sanity Claws Apr 2 #2

I just lost a friend to breast cancer last year. Botany Apr 2 #3

Jan 2023 MotownPgh Apr 2 #8

Welcome to DU, MotownPgh. calimary Apr 2 #15

I wish more would do this pfitz59 Apr 2 #4

in total agreement with you NJCher Apr 2 #16

My sister & I spent 17 days cleaning out my mother's 3-bedroom place over a summer. CrispyQ Apr 2 #27

i hope i can be so unselfish. barbtries Apr 2 #5

You said it! Elessar Zappa Apr 2 #6

Several doctors DENVERPOPS Apr 2 #29

Then several doctors you know are fuggin idiots or Maru Kitteh Apr 2 #33

Woo woo alert n/t kcr Apr 3 #35

I had to deal with a hoarder's estate after their death JoseBalow Apr 2 #7

Fuck cancer!! My bestie had breast cancer treatment 5 years ago with surgery, chemo and radiation. Ziggysmom Apr 2 #9

Cancer is a scourge. Another reason to vote for Biden TheProle Apr 2 #10

Ooooooo, something to put in the resources section of our Call to Action email! calimary Apr 2 #17

My parents died young MontanaMama Apr 2 #11

I lost my significant other on March 9. Kath2 Apr 2 #14

I'm so sorry for your loss. Nevilledog Apr 2 #20

Thank you. Kath2 Apr 2 #21

You'll find a lot of support here. This community helped me so much when I lost loved ones. Nevilledog Apr 2 #24

Oh my gosh. I'm so sorry for your loss, Kath2. MontanaMama Apr 2 #32

FC👍🏼 spanone Apr 2 #12

Hoping for a miracle Norbert Apr 2 #13

I don't think it's sad NJCher Apr 2 #18

It's a transition but it's still sad for her family and fans. Elessar Zappa Apr 3 #41

I lost... GiqueCee Apr 2 #19

Don't ever wear Docker's khaki sports pants,... magicarpet Apr 2 #30

I have lots of black pants... GiqueCee Apr 2 #31

All the money the US has spent on war machines and weapons FakeNoose Apr 2 #22

I agree with you. Our priorities seem to always be about power and money. ☮ walkingman Apr 2 #26

Early detection is vital DFW Apr 3 #36

Death Cleaning Lilaclady Apr 2 #23

You said it- Fk cancer. n/t iluvtennis Apr 2 #25

She is a very talented actress, and it's so sad about the cancer BlueKota Apr 2 #28

I am an extremely sentimental person BigmanPigman Apr 3 #34

Cancer. She has been so strong. twodogsbarking Apr 3 #37

That's a very caring and difficult gesture she's making... Hugin Apr 3 #38

Loving gift to her mother Wild blueberry Apr 3 #39

I'm getting ForgedCrank Apr 3 #40

Re Death Cleaning catchnrelease Apr 3 #42