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Hekate

(90,686 posts) Wed May 5, 2021, 12:55 AM May 2021

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I'm having a terrifying experience, as my husband is on the phone fighting w our anti-vax daughter [View all]

I refuse to talk with her about her obsession, but hubby has been patient. Tonight — Mother of God — I don’t know what the hell she started with but I think it was how we all got together on Sunday for a 2 y.o. niece’s b’day party and how she now thinks we must have spread disease to her kids because we have been vaccinated for COVID.

It was a fun day, actually — our first social outing in a year. About half the people there are vaccine-hesitant, but hubby and I had our second shot 6 weeks ago & it is such a great feeling. We hugged and everything.

So, tonight. This loud conversation 3 rooms away from me has been going on for at least an hour and my stomach is in knots. Did you know FDR was crippled by ... DDT?

It is completely down the rabbit hole.

I made myself a cup of tea, then realized I needed something a lot stronger, so poured myself a dollop of whiskey on ice.

Any good vibes appreciated. Really. Or prayers to whatever gods are listening. Thank you for listening, my DU friends.

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I'm having a terrifying experience, as my husband is on the phone fighting w our anti-vax daughter [View all] Hekate May 2021 OP

.. Demovictory9 May 2021 #1

Tell her that FDR was crippled as a child, way before the 40's when DDT was invented Beakybird May 2021 #2

Probably should not tell her anything untrue because she will use it to discredit everything said... RockRaven May 2021 #13

This message was self-deleted by its author DenaliDemocrat May 2021 #54

One could always ask why it is that we don't see a polio epidemic. BobTheSubgenius May 2021 #75

Legend in our family was that DDT-sprayed potatos Backseat Driver May 2021 #86

FDR was 39 years old in 1921 when he contracted Polio, definitely NOT a child. He recovered from The_REAL_Ecumenist May 2021 #35

Actually, FDR got polio as an adult. GoCubsGo May 2021 #60

Actually mgardener May 2021 #110

That would be so hard. I am sorry. I get an headache immediately then comes stomach pain. LizBeth May 2021 #3

Hugs Hekate denbot May 2021 #4

What disease does she think you spread to her children? Irish_Dem May 2021 #5

yes, they believe that vaccinated folk are "shedding" the virus. Grasswire2 May 2021 #18

Where do they hear that crap from? SunSeeker May 2021 #24

FECEbook lagomorph777 May 2021 #94

Ahhhhh, FaceBook, the source of all knowledge. At least for NoMoreRepugs May 2021 #131

People spread complete lies on social media IronLionZion May 2021 #113

Opposite of scientific research. Irish_Dem May 2021 #27

Then they should get vaccinated to be protected, period. Liberty Belle May 2021 #29

Yup, had someone close to me say this shit to me this week Marrah_Goodman May 2021 #50

I'd call him on the "my doctor told me" BS. wnylib May 2021 #56

That one drives me nuts. GoCubsGo May 2021 #61

I think one theory is that vaccinated people can become infected, don't become sick, but spread it. Klaralven May 2021 #91

I think they just have no understanding of how the new-technology vaccines work. GoCubsGo May 2021 #101

Only possible good from this is they start wearing masks to protect themselves from the "vaccine" Nevilledog May 2021 #80

+1 yes Silver lining ..whatever it takes luckone May 2021 #105

Hahaha... an ironic twist that could do some good. The Wielding Truth May 2021 #114

Wait -- If the virus isn't worth getting vaccinated for in the first place, then... Beartracks May 2021 #133

How could you spread it DENVERPOPS May 2021 #25

All you can do is try bottomofthehill May 2021 #6

I hope for you and your husband strength and patience. Solly Mack May 2021 #7

This is awful, Hekate!! cilla4progress May 2021 #8

The same scenario is playing out radical noodle May 2021 #9

I know we are not alone, which is why I dared to post this here. I appreciate the support... Hekate May 2021 #119

Sending vibes and hugs, elleng May 2021 #10

... sprinkleeninow May 2021 #11

FDR was crippled by Polio, a disease that was eradicated by... Downtown Hound May 2021 #12

No, FDR was NOT a child when he contracted Polio, He was 39 YEARS old, (1921), a practising atty in The_REAL_Ecumenist May 2021 #19

I already corrected it. Downtown Hound May 2021 #20

Sorry. Didn't see it. The_REAL_Ecumenist May 2021 #36

TY for that info.. & Cha May 2021 #23

get on the phone, tell her she's a brat and tell her to shut up TomDaisy May 2021 #14

I'll second that! (nt) NoRethugFriends May 2021 #43

Tell her to quit disrespecting her father. LakeArenal May 2021 #64

Parents who talk to their kids in that way often lose access to their grandkids womanofthehills May 2021 #124

Can't begin to imagine canetoad May 2021 #15

Am hanging in there. You too. Hekate May 2021 #42

... AKwannabe May 2021 #16

Sanity Vibes coming your Cha May 2021 #17

There should be some changes made to your will. Trusts for grandkids that certain adults cant touch. ZonkerHarris May 2021 #21

Seriously? Over a shot? I know its important for sure jimfields33 May 2021 #47

Kindest thing she can do for the daughter lostnfound May 2021 #51

I guess that's true. jimfields33 May 2021 #52

Post didn't say "take her out of will", only to have separate trusts for grandkids lostnfound May 2021 #115

How did she become an anti-vaxxer with such rational parents? SunSeeker May 2021 #22

Sometimes kids want to be opposite Tree Lady May 2021 #103

Short version: if you lose a baby to SIDS, there is a whole movement to tell you it was vaccines.... Hekate May 2021 #118

Sending good wishes. I know a similar situation, and the 'obsessive' person is bi polar. MerryBlooms May 2021 #26

Sending blessings and good thoughts. I know of very similar situation. It's hard! KatK May 2021 #28

I'm so sorry! Buckeye_Democrat May 2021 #30

I'd hit that bottle one more time. SergeStorms May 2021 #31

That's been my observation too. Buckeye_Democrat May 2021 #37

I'm so sorry. JohnnyRingo May 2021 #32

He is absolutely to blame for this. John Fante May 2021 #39

Thanks for sharing this. I think we've all been through something similar with friends /family C Moon May 2021 #33

Thank you all so much for the support. It lasted an hour & 38 minutes. Gah. I feel better... Hekate May 2021 #34

I'm so sorry, Hekate. Does this mean her kids have Covid pnwmom May 2021 #38

No, and I don't think they are sick. One child already had a rash & it got worse. Another child... Hekate May 2021 #41

All of us adults and our significant others have gotten their vaccines. pnwmom May 2021 #48

She unfriended me 3+ years ago, & I kind of soured on FB as a platform... Hekate May 2021 #120

If you want to be in your grandkids life, arguing with their mom is never a good idea womanofthehills May 2021 #126

I agree completely. I refuse to fight with her, but she has become obsessive about this issue... Hekate May 2021 #135

Is she preventing you from interacting with your grandchildren? I am so sorry! n/t pnwmom May 2021 #127

Not as such, or at least not any more since we moved away... Hekate May 2021 #136

I can only imagine. pnwmom May 2021 #140

How's your husband? mgardener May 2021 #111

He takes it less hard than I do, altho he needed to decompress after he hung up the phone Hekate May 2021 #121

I'm so sorry for you and your husband, Hekate. smirkymonkey May 2021 #40

We need an national detox. too many suffer along with you. SleeplessinSoCal May 2021 #44

I'm late to support you, but I have an adult daughter, too. herding cats May 2021 #45

i know MFM008 May 2021 #46

We laugh around here when it's strangers in Walmart, but it's shocking and tragic when it's in... TreasonousBastard May 2021 #49

What exactly are we (vaccinated people) supposed to be shedding? LisaL May 2021 #53

It's stupefying how reasonable parents can have unreasonable children DFW May 2021 #55

I just heard about "shedding" of proteins yesterday. It's BS. Show this article to your daughter. panader0 May 2021 #57

There is no point -- she won;t believe any of it obamanut2012 May 2021 #63

"All you can do" is all you can do. Hang on. nt Atticus May 2021 #58

I so feel for you. We have one of those in our family too. mainer May 2021 #59

I'm so sorry to read that. MineralMan May 2021 #62

As a fully vaccinated person Raftergirl May 2021 #65

Hang in there my friend. sheshe2 May 2021 #66

I have one nephew who doesn't want to be vaccinated malaise May 2021 #67

Sending vibes for protection and peace for you and your husband. niyad May 2021 #68

The lax and anti-vaxxers are very worrisome. ananda May 2021 #69

I want to give you this Hekate bdamomma May 2021 #70

I would give her information about Polio and Smallpox and the devastation it caused Maraya1969 May 2021 #71

Hey! mgardener May 2021 #112

Doing that is what got me unfriended from her FB group. I was naive... Hekate May 2021 #122

Yea, you probably made a very good point and someone became very uncomfortable. Maraya1969 May 2021 #132

Sad to say, there are still cases of polio in Afghanistan and Pakistan womanofthehills May 2021 #125

There are remote places in Pakistan and Africa where public health teams have been murdered... Hekate May 2021 #137

Duplicate, sorry Hekate May 2021 #138

If she reads, ancianita May 2021 #72

I'm so sorry my beautiful friend duhneece May 2021 #73

Sending my best... Snackshack May 2021 #74

Your daughter might be in the Qanon cult sobenji May 2021 #76

Remember when dealing with stressful encounters like this.... KS Toronado May 2021 #77

Unfortunately Anti-Vaxxers are not aligned with Rethugs, they exist in all parties and walks of life Tommymac May 2021 #78

This is very disheartening to hear. Fringe non-science tearing people apart. BobTheSubgenius May 2021 #79

... Nevilledog May 2021 #81

I recommend... jcgoldie May 2021 #82

Glad the party was very nice, Hekate. As for this, it will pass. Hortensis May 2021 #83

You have my deepest sympathy. hay rick May 2021 #84

Had a short conversation with an anti-vaxxer who came to our rummage sale last wknd... Heartstrings May 2021 #85

gah, ive given up on these people. full stop. AllaN01Bear May 2021 #87

I'm sorry seta1950 May 2021 #88

You done your best. You both have kept it coming from a place of love. There comes ... marble falls May 2021 #89

There have been a few times that MOMFUDSKI May 2021 #90

Then why TheFarseer May 2021 #92

You have my sympathy and prayers and thank you for welcoming both into your thread Dreampuff May 2021 #93

I'm so sorry. :( Sending you a big hug, from someone in a similar situation, just haven't reached chia May 2021 #95

If your husband is attempting rationality, it won't work TrogL May 2021 #96

It's heartbreaking when someone you care about chooses fear over science dlk May 2021 #97

Same for my sister's long-time evangelical friend, BUT... Buckeye_Democrat May 2021 #102

Nothing like a good dose of reality to wake people up dlk May 2021 #128

I hope you're feeling better today lunatica May 2021 #98

My best thoughts and prayers to the Gods that be, to help you in dealing w/ this ... SWBTATTReg May 2021 #99

check out this. it might help... Javaman May 2021 #100

Healing vibes on the way! 💗💗💗 SheltieLover May 2021 #104

Not much worse than fighting with relatives lillypaddle May 2021 #106

Don't bother alotus51 May 2021 #107

So sad but he put in the effort good for him some won't come around the first time keep trying luckone May 2021 #108

I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 May 2021 #109

My sympathies. I have a similar situation. NH Ethylene May 2021 #116

Sending good vibes, it will be ok! CaptainTruth May 2021 #117

I am so sorry to hear you and your husband are going through this. crickets May 2021 #123

Two fingers of whiskey. A dollop of cool whip :) . sarcasmo May 2021 #129

Send her this (link) Beachnutt May 2021 #130

I'm sorry about this. It is always difficult when a family member PatrickforB May 2021 #134

It takes two to argue. Set boundries. Kaleva May 2021 #139