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In reply to the discussion: Older Americans cope with shock and stress as vaccine effort overlooks them [View all]Ziggysmom
(3,434 posts)As I noted, my own mother refused all offers of help to downsize. It killed her. She laid in her yard with a fractured pelvis for hours. I hate to see others in the same situation and this story triggered many painful memories.
Im over 60 and work full time while I am also the main caregiver for my over 70 husband with late stage COPD & pulmonary hypertension, on continuous oxygen and needing a wheelchair. I know firsthand nothing comes easy and we have to fight like hell for every benefit and service we can get. (Ive had some luck with Eldercare to provide information and they have an 800 number, 800-677-1116.
https://eldercare.acl.gov/Public/Resources/LearnMoreAbout/Index.aspx )
When I am with the elderly, I see them as not just an individual but also someone's cherished parent, grandparent or great-grandparent. I am struck by the sudden frailty of my beloved husband and best friend who now faces his own mortality. If I come across as lacking empathy, please understand its just caregiver compassion fatigue bordering on burnout. There are many days where I feel like a walking open wound.
I spend many sleepless nights here on DU and I am truly grateful when someone takes the time to reply to one of my posts like you have. I am sorry if I came across too harshly. I really do care, but sometimes the self preservation and fear takes over.