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In reply to the discussion: "Choice 👏🏼 fucking 👏🏼 matters 👏🏼." [View all]CousinIT
(9,245 posts)She has since quit smoking. Doc thought it was dangerous for her to be on BC all that time + smoking -- but he didn't refuse to give them to her. She had a good OB/GYN.
He was very reluctant to do the ligation she wanted after her divorce until she found an article in a magazine explaining why women who don't want kids are NOT "selfish" and all the other crap they're called. She pulled it out, highlighted parts of it and sent it to his office. Then she went in later and talked to him and he agreed to do it.
She's told me many times she never EVER regretted her decision. She's almost 60 now. She never wanted kids. And happily never had them.
My advice to anyone facing this resistance: Find another OB/GYN. Some of them will listen to women - even younger unmarried or divorced women - who tell them they DO NOT want kids (or any more kids).
You have every right to control your body, your life and your future. Don't take "NO" for an answer.
NEVER take "NO" for an answer. It's your decision and only your decision. Refuse to allow anyone else to control or interfere with it.
I know you know all this but - just don't give up. Stand up for yourself because it's your right and you know what you want.