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In reply to the discussion: We must define acceptable and nonacceptable touching [View all]Igel
(35,387 posts)Sort of "Uncle Joe Biden."
It's a style that's not really in vogue, and given the incredible open-mindedness of people these days must never have been in vogue because it's not in vogue now in their circles.
If you trust him then you think he's not being a lecher. If not, then he's a lecher and oppressor.
If you're into symbols, he's a symbol of white male oppression. If you're less into symbols and the politics of oppression, then he's not. Had a minister who did this. Knew women who did this. Some white, some black, some Latino. Know women who still do this.
I'm not touchy feely. When a black woman I don't know on parent-teacher night insists on grabbing my arm or touching my shoulder, it bothers me. Same if it's a white woman or a man. Yes, there's an interaction style which even today says, "Make physical contact."
I'd often rather ignore trivial things I find offensive then make sure others comply with my requirements.
I'm also fairly oblivious to power relationships. Even the ones that are actually there.