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In reply to the discussion: We must define acceptable and nonacceptable touching [View all]spooky3
(34,525 posts)I think its a very easy problem to solve, and doesnt require hypersensitivity to fragility. It is not a huge imposition for us to learn not to touch without consent. Many DUers have described some simple rules of thumb that everyone can follow, such as dont come up from behind someone you dont know well and touch them unexpectedly. In the case of my relative, we all understand not to hug him without permission but if he is prepared and wants a semi hug, he will say so and all is fine.
The DUers rules also work in our increasingly multicultural society. For example, I did a work project with people from a middle eastern country. Their culture frowns on mens initiating handshakes with women in the workplace unless women offer their hands first. The DUer rules would have worked fine here.
I have been a hugger in my younger days but learned not to presume. Not hard. I have also had younger colleagues (male and female) ask for hugs at times, and while it was risky for me I always gave them. Not hard to ask.