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(870 posts)I can truly empathize with your pains and grief..... there is no replacement for mothers. What helped me, was knowing and thinking gracefully of all that she gave into my life and the lives of others, and what it truly took for her to face all the challenges that came within her life. I continually have many thoughts of remembering her many strengths... it truly helped me to do so. Her laughter and her cares and the endless thoughts of care she demonstrated in how she lived; everyday something reminds me of truly how strong she was, it helps me face many things and be better in being myself. I'm sure as a mothers, those things is what she will want for you. It's a great blessing you were there, and shared the expressions of how much you loved her... being able to do that, even in the last moments means the whole of life to let her know what she taught was made real and lived in your words. I give you my highest regards for such devotion and love sharing.
There are no words that can fill the loss, but there is the good remembrance, and to think and reminds ones self of her true strengths.
I remember the day my mother told me, that she was tired, and she thank God for the span of her life, It was very difficult to hear and even more difficult to deal with, when the time came that she passed. My greatest relief was to know she was not suffering any-longer.
It is a very difficult thing to see the matters and realism and have no power or means to do anything to reverse it, and at these times, it is even more challenging when there may be few one can talk to about what is being felt, and what was felt going through the last days of her life.
I too came home after my mother passed, and sat in the house "silent" and felt the vast void that her passing left. It is the time when tears are ok... and let no one tell you not to let the tears flow and flush out the emotions. It too helps one deal with the realization.
The loss brings a change in our lives, because we see and feel first hand the truth of mortality, and all that she taught of appreciating life, comes full circle to truly understanding in a way only an individual experiencing the loss comes to grasp in their understanding in its own unique ways. you will feel the fragile nature of spiritual feelings in self and over time it strengthen, as it does all the fond memories helps heal your heart and strengthen your soul, and its good to know, that too is her spirit still living within you to help you move forward in being whom she groomed you to be. This too helps, because one comes to embrace her words with even more grace and appreciations.
Appreciate the memories of her love and what it took to give and live it through all that life presents within her living, and know that your life, carries forth all that her heart lived to love and give.
May you be blessed.