Seminole County, FL?

That's who/what I'll bash.
No need to go there or even through there.

Just lost a filling this morning and so

I called the dentist's office and they can get me in tomorrow afternoon.
This is just part of life and I'm grateful there are still enough teeth in my mouth to chew most foods and allow me live a fairly normal life in that respect.

I reflect that my mother, a beautiful woman, had her remaining teeth removed and replaced with dentures at age 69, when she was preparing to remarry after my father's death.

I'm past that age now and have no thought of relinquishing my remaining teeth. Fluoride didn't come into common use until I was an adult, so some damage had already been done to my teeth by that time, but I believe fluoride availability has helped me and family retain our teeth.

"God never gives you more than you can handle"?

We who have lived long enough know that this is not so. Many crises, sad or terrible things happen in life which are more than a person can handle. (Just saw the story of Andrea Yates on TV the other night and she surely had more than she could handle.)

The people who "taught" her that weren't lying; they just didn't know better. They need to be forgiven for their naivete, not castigated. Forgiveness takes a certain level of maturity, and that comes with more time of living than we suspect.

I've never read "When bad things happen to good people", written by a Jewish rabbi (Harold Kushner) in 1978. Perhaps there are some thoughts there that might be helpful to her.

Peace.

Congratulations on your 6000th post! nt

I'm convinced there are many types of Aspergers people, many personality types,

from Temple Grandin to the young killer in Newtown CT, whose name I forget just now -(was it Adam?)
The stereotype is the withdrawn, antisocial person, though usually of high intelligence.
Temple Grandin is not withdrawn, nor is my daughter, both of whom were born and raised before the term "Aspergers" was familiar to the public.
Ms. Grandin's mother worked with her and provided necessary training, so that she was able to maximize the tendencies that would serve her well, and minimize the others.

We who have dealt with Asperger's are familiar - now- with the spectrum, though I had never heard the term during my daughter's maturing years. I don't think the public at large is knows much about Asperger's yet.

The public knows something about autism, not enough, and that is only in the last 20 years
It may take some time.
When my other (adult) kids complain about something she does or has done, I remind them - "It's not easy being Amy" -(not her true name). To be frank, I don't even know for sure that the diagnosis/label "Asperger's" is correct, but it's the best I have to go on at this time.

I wish you well, DonCoquixote, knowing it's not easy living in your shoes. May you find your comfortable spot in this world.

The Down survey of Ireland is cited on DU in the Ancestry/Genealogy Forum

On May 15 OP by csziggy refers to maps at Trinity College Dublin that reveal the owners of lands taken by Cromwell and given to (English) landlords.

It's fascinating stuff. I haven't yet had time to give it the attention it requires to hook up to any of my Kellys of Tyrone. (Unfortunately for genealogy purposes, Kelly is the second most popular name in Ireland - very hard to find the correct connections, when so many are named Patrick, etc. and arrived in ca 1820, when records are no longer extant. But I digress ).

Depends on the definition of success

I guess this is what you mean by vague.

I thank God that my husband & I were in a position to buy a modest efficiency condo

for our daughter's use nearly twenty yrs ago, when her then residence in a bedroom of a large mansion, at modest rent, was no longer going to be available to her. Knowing her income would always be modest, we envisioned her having to move every year or so, and that she would be unable to afford a stable safe environment.

Although reasonably intelligent she had had a rough time making friends throughout her school days and holding jobs when a young adult. In recent years, a social worker calls her problem Asperger's, though she would not be typical, in that she's gregarious though compulsive. Also an adult diabetic.

To make a long story short, she was let go by the IRS a few years ago after many instances of tardiness. She was quickly okayed for SSI and now lives on that, paying me the bulk of the monthly condo fee, as well as $100/month on the 2004 Taurus I purchased for her last year. I pay her car and condo insurance and I and her brother are the ones she comes to when her monthly SSI runs out too soon.

She is not good at handling money; in addition she must pay at least something for her meds each month. It's not likely or realistic that she will be employed again, considering today's employment situation, and the fact that the lack of structure in her life has accentuated her psychological problems.

Like those writing in above, there are so many of these people in our nation, dependent to some degree on the kindness of family and on government programs. We who are able must remember the personal story and struggles of the many who limp along (figuratively) requiring, as the OP states, our empathy and kindness.

I wouldn't mind a little of that now and again. nt

Of course, you're correct.

I didn't check, and I admit to getting those two countries confused, and, yes, they are very different, as different as we are from the other North American countries.
I did get the impression from TV spots, though, that he will visit Argentina.
I hope so.