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left-of-center2012

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Sun Nov 17, 2019, 10:21 PM Nov 2019

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No. Don't cut ties, don't burn the proverbial bridges question everything Nov 2019 #1
I agree with this! 50 Shades Of Blue Nov 2019 #4
This message was self-deleted by its author Chin music Nov 2019 #2
Trump is not samplegirl Nov 2019 #3
I have the same thing CountAllVotes Nov 2019 #5
If you have any assets, leave him one hundred dollars in your will. keithbvadu2 Nov 2019 #6
I actually doubt that a brother is entitled to any sort of inheritance, although I could easily be PoindexterOglethorpe Nov 2019 #7
I would not send it. safeinOhio Nov 2019 #8
Yes, send a card at Christmas, but ... JustABozoOnThisBus Nov 2019 #9

question everything

(47,265 posts)
1. No. Don't cut ties, don't burn the proverbial bridges
Sun Nov 17, 2019, 10:27 PM
Nov 2019

One never knows. And are there other members of the family? children? nieces and nephews?

But do send the seasonal greetings, also greeting for his birthday.

And that's it. Don't make additional efforts.

Hope you can find solace with other friends and relatives.



50 Shades Of Blue

(9,776 posts)
4. I agree with this!
Sun Nov 17, 2019, 10:44 PM
Nov 2019

Response to left-of-center2012 (Original post)

samplegirl

(11,415 posts)
3. Trump is not
Sun Nov 17, 2019, 10:33 PM
Nov 2019

worth it!!! I’m not speaking to my brother either and has caused much grief in my family as well. Keep some line of communication open because your the bigger person!
Good luck! I know how you feel!

CountAllVotes

(20,854 posts)
5. I have the same thing
Sun Nov 17, 2019, 11:15 PM
Nov 2019

Just heard from him after nothing for a very long time.

He told me there is a new addition to his family.

Sadly, he cannot go so far as to spell the name right.

I wonder what he's been doing?

Decidedly a waste of time and effort.

I gave up a long time ago.

keithbvadu2

(36,369 posts)
6. If you have any assets, leave him one hundred dollars in your will.
Mon Nov 18, 2019, 12:32 AM
Nov 2019

If you have any assets, leave him one hundred dollars in your will.

That way, he cannot contest the will, saying you 'forgot' him and claim that he is due a significant share.

PoindexterOglethorpe

(25,746 posts)
7. I actually doubt that a brother is entitled to any sort of inheritance, although I could easily be
Mon Nov 18, 2019, 03:12 AM
Nov 2019

wrong here. I'm thinking that laws involving those who die intestate (without a will) apply almost exclusively to children and spouses. Maybe parents. Not siblings.

Of course, I could be wrong, but you could leave him one dollar in a will. Jackie Kennedy left no money to her sister Lee Radziwill, and that wasn't contested.

More to the point, while I'm sorry you have no relationship with your brother, try to live with that. I have a brother who is a Trumper and I have almost no relationship with him at this point. And honestly, I don't give a flying fuck. He's always been a selfish, self-centered person who has essentially given nothing to the rest of the family. I see no reason to waste any emotion or sentiment on him.

safeinOhio

(32,531 posts)
8. I would not send it.
Mon Nov 18, 2019, 05:02 AM
Nov 2019

That is his choice, not yours. I like the idea of a card a Xmas and leave it at that. I'm an atheist, but think redemption doesn't have to be a religious concept. I think everyone can change, for better or worse. So, I keep an opening for everyone.
I'm 70 with an older brother and his two kids my only blood relatives. I see him once every couple of years and stay in contact. His wife died a few years ago and now he calls me every week. One thing in life you can always count on is that nothing ever stays the same.

JustABozoOnThisBus

(23,283 posts)
9. Yes, send a card at Christmas, but ...
Mon Nov 18, 2019, 06:24 AM
Nov 2019

... pick a card that wishes "Happy Holidays" or something like that. If the card doesn't mention Christmas or Christ, I notice the "born-again" go batshit.

Happy Holidays!

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