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Stonepounder

(4,033 posts)
Tue Oct 22, 2019, 11:38 PM Oct 2019

They tell you not to cry.

They tell you not to cry.

They tell you that it's just a dog, not a human being.

They tell you that the pain will be over.

They tell you that the animals don't know that they have to die.

They tell you that it's important not to let him suffer.

They tell you that you can have another one.

They tell you it's going to happen to you.

They tell you that there is more pain.

But they don't know how many times you've looked into your dog’s eyes.

They don't know how many times you and your dog have looked into darkness alone.

They don't know how many times your dog was the only one who was by your side.

They don't know how much fear you have
at night when you wake up with your grief.

They don't know how many times your dog slept near you.

They don't know how much you've changed since the dog has become a part of your life.

They don't know how many times you hugged him when he was sick.

They don't know how many times you've acted like you didn't see her hair getting whiter.

They don't know how many times you've talked to your dog, the only one who really hears.

They don't know that it was just your dog who knew you were in pain.

They don't know what it feels like to see your old dog trying to say hello.

They don't know that if things went wrong, the only one who didn't go is your dog.

They don't know that your dog trusts you every moment of his life, even in the last.

They don't know how much your dog loved you and how it is enough for him to be happy, because you loved him.

They don't know that crying for a dog is one of the most noble, significant, true, clean and warmest things you can do.

They don't know when the last time you moved him with trouble... made sure it didn’t hurt him.

They don't know what it felt like to pet their face in the last moments of their life....

In Memory of all those who went over the rainbow bridge. You all have a place forever in our hearts 💕

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They tell you not to cry. (Original Post) Stonepounder Oct 2019 OP
OK now I am sobbing Ohiogal Oct 2019 #1
Me too! BigmanPigman Oct 2019 #5
Me three jlerollblues Oct 2019 #14
This one will be my last since I won't live another 16 years. BigmanPigman Oct 2019 #15
So beautiful a tribute for dogs and those of us who have loved them. emmaverybo Oct 2019 #2
❤️💛💜 onecaliberal Oct 2019 #3
Thanks for posting BigMin28 Oct 2019 #4
Thanks. I just lost my dog yesterday. broiles Oct 2019 #6
There is no way to ease the pain of losing a beloved dog (or other pet). Stonepounder Oct 2019 #7
Oh, no! I'm sorry he's gone...you gave him so many good years!❤ Karadeniz Oct 2019 #8
One of the most touching things I've ever read. Duppers Oct 2019 #9
I know a cat that now sits at the right hand of Jesus. demigoddess Oct 2019 #10
OMG I can so relate gopiscrap Oct 2019 #11
We just said goodbye to my daughter's cat Gothmog Oct 2019 #12
13 years, or so, of unconditional love. Aussie105 Oct 2019 #13
Anyone who isn't heartbroken when they lose a dog The Mouth Oct 2019 #16

BigmanPigman

(51,584 posts)
5. Me too!
Wed Oct 23, 2019, 12:23 AM
Oct 2019

My baby is 16 1/2 and healthy right now but I know...I know how much pain I am going to be in too soon. When my first baby died it was the worst thing I have ever had to experience until my dad died 6 months ago.

jlerollblues

(34 posts)
14. Me three
Wed Oct 23, 2019, 02:54 AM
Oct 2019

I am now on my 4th Golden Retriever. The empathy of that breed is unbelievable. My last one, Chewy, had a habit of barking at Mitch McConnell every time he was on TV. Never thought about using a leash. Was always at my side unless he wanted to explore around the lake or chase critters. I now have a former stray lab, Chester, that is nearing the bridge, probably a couple years away. He showed up at my house 7 years ago when it was -38F and emaciated. He learned Chewy's kind ways. Poop in the woods, bark at Mitch, love, stay within 5 feet of my companion unless I want to chase or explore. Dogs are such a gift that and they also think those that are in kind companions are too. Now my rescue Shiatsu is learning from his big brothers complete with poop in the woods. Still trying to figure out how to get him to stop trying to hump the big dogs heads. I have felt that sadness of losing my baby 8 times (and 2 cats, 4 parakeets) in my life now and it does not get any easier, probably worse as I feel my own mortality approaching.

BigmanPigman

(51,584 posts)
15. This one will be my last since I won't live another 16 years.
Wed Oct 23, 2019, 03:08 AM
Oct 2019

I don't want them to suffer losing me since I know how horrible it feels. I know I will be terribly lonely without her and I dread it.

broiles

(1,367 posts)
6. Thanks. I just lost my dog yesterday.
Wed Oct 23, 2019, 12:27 AM
Oct 2019

He was an 18 yr old poodle and a great friend. Tonite is the second night without him cuddled up at my side.

Stonepounder

(4,033 posts)
7. There is no way to ease the pain of losing a beloved dog (or other pet).
Wed Oct 23, 2019, 01:11 AM
Oct 2019

The only thing I can tell you is that gradually you will get to the point you can remember the good times, the love, the absolute specialness of them.

I do say that when a pet has to leave, they take a piece of the heart with them, and that really hurts. But as time passes you being to realize that yes, they took that piece of your hears, but they left a piece of theirs in yours.

We lost our Bosley on August 13. He was a 17 year old King Charles Spaniel that we adopted from a shelter that had raided a puppy mill where he was standing stud. I still can't think of him without choking up, even though we have 4 other dogs.

Duppers

(28,117 posts)
9. One of the most touching things I've ever read.
Wed Oct 23, 2019, 01:55 AM
Oct 2019

A great tribute to your dogs' love and your heart's sensitivity.

Wish all people were as sensitive and caring.

I miss my babies (damn it, they were) so much. The years go by yet the tears still flow.

❤ Dogs

Aussie105

(5,377 posts)
13. 13 years, or so, of unconditional love.
Wed Oct 23, 2019, 02:41 AM
Oct 2019

It's more that what most people are prepared to give you.

But damn, I thought I was over it. Apparently not. Some feelings run deep, but surface easily.

RIP the Labradors and cats I have known.

The Mouth

(3,148 posts)
16. Anyone who isn't heartbroken when they lose a dog
Thu Oct 24, 2019, 09:31 AM
Oct 2019

probably isn't worth much as a human to begin with. Just my observation.

And that's coming from a Hindu/Buddhist perspective that all beings are different manifestations of the one being experiencing itself, which is where I genuinely find comfort, it still hurts so badly when that one being is gone.

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