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[olddots]

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[hollysmom]

1. well, someone has to

I am sure it has rewarding moments. But it is very hard to do. And it is so hard for them to have friends.

[dixiegrrrrl]

2. YOU could write a book, I bet.

"Demanding" would not be a misplaced term for that disorder.

What do you do to cope and recharge yourself?

[No Vested Interest]

3. Oh, olddots, can I relate! Year 50+ here. Yes , it's my "child."

My experience is that it doesn't get better.

When "child" was small, child didn't have enough knowledge or savvy or means to avoid conforming to conventional living.
When schooling was finished, the structure of work and job kept a lot under control.

Now with a diagnosis and disability, little to no structure in adult "child's" life is disabling in and of itself.

Meanwhile, I/parent grows older and, unfortunately, less patient and tolerant.

You're correct - it ain't easy.

[rox63]

4. My best friend of 40+ years has BPD

I have lived with her (for 3+ years after she had a breakdown and couldn't work anymore), and may yet again. She is on SSDI because of her diagnosis. She is a wonderful human being who suffers greatly with her illness. Living with her can be challenging. But so can living with me, as I have several psych diagnoses of my own. I can still work, although it can be a struggle at times.

[mopinko]

5. believe my stbex is.

daughter is.
he admitted it, then submerged it again. got angry when i told him the reason we had problems was because he wasnt stable.
over after 32 years and 4 kids, plus mine.
a roller coaster ride through awful park.

is right.

[olddots]

6. the theropists always leave for "holidays"

Thanksgiving for people with eating disorders is a real slice of heaven .All we can do is hope for a few moments of peace every once in a while .