Question for some women who are feminist

[PrincessMorgan]

Last edited Fri Oct 27, 2023, 12:15 AM - Edit history (1)

How do any of you date men in America. I'm seeing misogyny, manosphere hate, femicide and rising domestic violence and murder suicides committed by men towards women who are close to them. Did anyone here give up on dating them or did you find a liberal feminist boyfriend or hubby. I'm trying to see something 🤔 EDIT THANK U FOR YOUR REPLIES EVERYONE REALLY APPRECIATE THAT.

[PittBlue]

1. These men are obviously trumpers and republicans.

Who would want to date them anyway?

[Demobrat]

2. I gave up on men a long time ago.

I have a good career and have never wanted kids so I have no need to subject myself.

[CousinIT]

12. Ditto - me too. n/t

[elleng]

3. I married a feminist man.

Didn't stop him from trying to use his 'power' to try to take advantage.

We separated, several inequities in his favor resulted but I receive survivor benefit (he died,) and Federal Health Plan as my supplement to Medicare.

[NoRethugFriends]

4. Good Grief. There are plenty of misogynists and plenty of good men who are not!

Painting all men with such a broad brush is just wrong. If a woman doesn't want a man or marriage or kids, that's of course fine. But if a woman wants to date a man, there are plenty of good ones in all age ranges.

[PrincessMorgan]

7. yes

I know but it just seems like its harder to find the good man and many men start out good then turn bad in relationships. And women end up being trapped an enduring abuse they never thought would occur.

[NoRethugFriends]

8. Not sure the ones that turn bad actually started out good. Maybe just faking it?

[Freddie]

5. I am very fortunate

My husband isn’t perfect but he is very much a feminist, his mom taught him well. She never waited on him or his dad, taught him to take care of himself, and he doesn’t expect to be waited on. Politically we’re on the same page too. If he were to go first (we’re in our 60s) I doubt I would ever date, too many men of my generation don’t get it.

[Lemonwurst]

6. I'd like to flip the script here

I worry that the term “feminist” tends to be interpreted as a distinct portion of individuals rather than the norm, because it’s reinforced by media (and others) as an outlier mindset.

The worst perpetrators of misogyny tend to get attention because of their extreme actions and points of view, yet somehow *not* being like them is never described as feminism. Instead, feminism seems to be considered just as extreme, perhaps as a natural counterbalance.

This could be another case of an accurate phrasing gone awry, as it did with global warming and defund the police. In those cases, as with feminism, the majority of our society would agree with the premise, but very quickly the phrase becomes sullied to represent something sinister and non-mainstream. We certainly know the who, how, and why behind that, but once the perception takes root it’s nearly impossible to reverse.

Bottom line, I bet most first-world men and women are feminists whether they know it or not, and irrespective of whether they’d accept that label or not. We still have a long way to go regarding women’s rights, but being a non-feminist today is actually the extremist position, and it would really help if people heard it stated that way. Not holding my breath, but…

[Skittles]

9. I never married, but I have dated many fine men

some may have had chauvinist tendencies but none of them were evil

[PrincessMorgan]

10. Ooh

Very interesting. Sometimes its hard to tell how men are considering they change personalities instantly

[Skittles]

11. LOL

yeah OK