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Behind the Aegis

(53,833 posts)
Fri Sep 13, 2019, 05:04 PM Sep 2019

My doctor stopped returning my calls after she found out I'm gay

This room had grown all too familiar. Stale beige walls, speckled black and white tiles, and those uncomfortable purple chairs — everyone knows the kind, straight and stiff with no give in the back. I sat there, bouncing my leg, and waiting nervously.

I had recently come out and I began to wonder what would happen if Dr. Liz found out that I was gay?

I started going to Dr. Liz when I first moved to Kansas City. I was working in retail, so I couldn’t be too picky about the doctor if I wanted to stay within network for my insurance.


Dr. Liz seemed like a perfect fit. She was in-network, she listened to me, and I felt like she truly cared. I remember our appointments as vivid conversations about education, faith, and our personal goals. Sometimes, because I’m relatively healthy, there would be several weeks before our next appointment, and because we joked around often she would ask me if I was cheating on her with other doctors. I felt like I had a connection with Dr. Liz and her staff, one unlike any of my previous relationships with medical practitioners.

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I have had this problem (not the diagnosis) before...twice!

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My doctor stopped returning my calls after she found out I'm gay (Original Post) Behind the Aegis Sep 2019 OP
How horrible for you, and for anyone experiencing this. CaliforniaPeggy Sep 2019 #1
This is just plain wrong on so many grounds. Besides the compromised ethics of that still_one Sep 2019 #2
Appalling. How can some people think that civil rights are optional. So sad. Karadeniz Sep 2019 #3

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,308 posts)
1. How horrible for you, and for anyone experiencing this.
Fri Sep 13, 2019, 05:33 PM
Sep 2019

I am completely shocked and so angry that any health care professional worthy of the name would treat any patient this way.

I am so sorry that you had to deal with this.

still_one

(91,965 posts)
2. This is just plain wrong on so many grounds. Besides the compromised ethics of that
Fri Sep 13, 2019, 06:59 PM
Sep 2019

physician by refusing to treat a patient within that physician's specialty, the physician in this particular case misdiagnosed the issues the patient was dealing with, to the point that it might even being considered malpractice.

Fortunately, there are plenty of good ethical doctors, who treat and care for their patients without discrimination.

While it may accomplish nothing, I would hope those who experience such discriminatory practices would at a minimum file a complaint with the Medical Board against that physician

It is outrageous and sad in this day an age that things like this still occur

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