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Related: About this forumA father comforts his son on his deathbed. The photo that changed the face of AIDS. 1989
This picture is widely considered the photo that changed the face of AIDS. It showed AIDS victims as humans and people with families. The biggest opponents of doing anything about AIDS, anything at all, were conservatives trumpeting family values. This picture showed that HIV has everything to do with family values and to have family values you have to value families.
In November 1990 LIFE magazine published a photograph of a young man named David Kirby his body wasted by AIDS, his gaze locked on something beyond this world surrounded by anguished family members as he took his last breaths. The haunting image of Kirby on his death-bed, taken by a journalism student named Therese Frare, quickly became the one photograph most powerfully identified with the HIV/AIDS epidemic that, by then, had seen millions of people infected (many of them unknowingly) around the globe.
David Kirby was born and raised in a small town in Ohio. A gay activist in the 1980s, he learned in the late 1980s while he was living in California and estranged from his family that he had contracted HIV. He got in touch with his parents and asked if he could come home; he wanted, he said, to die with his family around him. The Kirbys welcomed their son back.
The photographer Therese Frare recalls:
On the day David died, I was visiting Peta (one of the Davids caretaker in Pater Noster House). Some of the staff came in to get Peta so he could be with David, and he took me with him. I stayed outside Davids room, minding my own business, when Davids mom came out and told me that the family wanted me to photograph people saying their final goodbyes. I went in and stood quietly in the corner, barely moving, watching and photographing the scene. Afterwards I knew, I absolutely knew, that something truly incredible had unfolded in that room, right in front of me.
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MLAA
(17,165 posts)CaliforniaPeggy
(149,298 posts)I had not seen this photo before. Thank you, BtA, for posting it.
The expression on the father's face breaks my heart.
How good that the son was able to die with his family around him, loving him, and accepting him.
Skittles
(152,964 posts)it evokes the same feeling in me as when I first saw it.....this was back when even medical people would shun AIDS patients
hlthe2b
(101,729 posts)That photo would be a "Rorschach test" for me. Those not moved by it are those I want nothing to do with.
riversedge
(69,724 posts)MuseRider
(34,058 posts)I do not remember this picture but the moment I saw it, wow. He looks very much like my brother and then that leads to very much like my brother as he died. I would hope this picture breaks people up, it should. Boy is this hard to see. RIP David. I am so happy you had your family with you with their love surrounding you. You were/are important.
SCantiGOP
(13,856 posts)But another group of photos had, in my opinion, a much bigger impact on society. Life magazine ran a feature with, as I recall, about 200+ pictures over 8-9 pages of everyone who had died of AIDS the month before. Preachers were still calling it a righteous judgment from god, and the general public largley viewed this as just a gay mans disease that was a result of bad choices.
The Life pictures included a lot of effiminate men that could reinforce the bigots perceptions, but also included were dozens of picture of babies and infants who were born with the disease and lived less than a year or two; several nuns and people in medical garb who had contracted the virus caring for the sick; and a cross section of typical Americans, all of whom had gotten a death sentence from a blood transfusion.
Life was widely read at the time, and was in every waiting room you would go to. I think this visual representation went a long way towards changing the attitudes of even the generally homophobic public of the Reagan Era.
One particularly nasty woman who lived next door (and had harassed me for my liberal bumper stickers over the years) contended that all the gays (of course perverts was her preferred term) would soon die off and that would be the last wed see of homosexuality. My Mother told me that she had seen her visibly shaken by the photo spread and its depiction of how this supposed judgment from a merciful god was killing people without regard for their personal behavior.
When I attended church with my Mom over Christmas and heard the strict and very conservative priest include those affected by this terrible plague never before seen
in his prayer, I knew that attitudes were changing.
Mickju
(1,794 posts)It made me cry again just like it did at the time.
progressoid
(49,825 posts)Suffering from Aids and came home to die with his family. Dad visited him regularly until the end. So sad.