How to deal with hateful family members?
So my wife and I have been married for over 2 years. We love each other dearly. My family is fantastic. We had two weddings: one in CT where we live and the second in MO where our families live. The second wedding my whole family came to. My wife's family? Not so much. Her parents and some cousins came (they are all very supportive) but a lot did not.
That being said, her grandparents are the worst. I know she loves them dearly but they won't even acknowledge me as being a part of her life. They of course didn't come to the wedding. They never speak of me when they talk to her. And they only send her Christmas gifts and cards.
Fine. I get it. But what sent me off today was that her garbdparents sent her ex husband a card to say they are thinking about him. So we all live together (ex husband and us), it isn't weird, we get along. We have our own floors to the house and it is cheaper for us right now to all live together.
But wifey and I are supposed to fly home in February for her grandma's 80th birthday and then my new nephews baptism. I don't want to go at this point. First her family hates me and second my wife is my nephews godmother so I don't really need to be there. I also don't really have the time off from work right now.
Am I being too sensitive? I would rather go see my family in June when I get more time off. Is it fair for me to ask her to go alone? I know she would be heartbroken, but should I subject myself to people that hate me? Serious questions all around.
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