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Thu Apr 19, 2018, 08:20 PM

 

Need immediate help. How the hell do we get buried together??

Living in Houston, TX. A fairly blue spot in the middle of a sea of red.

I’m helping a very good friend arrange services for his husband (legally married) who passed away on Tuesday after a long fight with cancer.

We can now live together without ridiculous sodomy laws giving LE rights to invade our homes.
We can now be married.
But we can’t be buried with our husbands/wives???

We have tried 5 different funeral homes in the area. 4x outright refused to recognize their relationship. 1 has allowed to perform services, but on the condition that my friend not be identified as a spouse or husband during any of the services. We have likewise found no place that will allow him to purchase a plot where they both may be interred together. Best we’ve found is allowing his husband to be cremated and he can take the ashes, or a couple of seperate single plots near each other.

We can’t seem to find anything at all online about overcoming this kind of discrimination.

Gaypages don’t have any providers listed that are friendly to us in the area, houstonlgbtchamber likewise doesn’t have anything of this nature.

Anyone here by any chance have experience in this area??

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Reply Need immediate help. How the hell do we get buried together?? (Original post)
Amimnoch Apr 2018 OP
RandomAccess Apr 2018 #1
teenagebambam Apr 2018 #2
Amimnoch Apr 2018 #4
teenagebambam Apr 2018 #7
blueinredohio Apr 2018 #3
left-of-center2012 Apr 2018 #5
mercuryblues Apr 2018 #6
Odoreida Apr 2018 #8

Response to Amimnoch (Original post)

Thu Apr 19, 2018, 08:33 PM

1. What a shame

 

Unfortunately, I can't help -- but I do send my condolences and sense of outrage that he has to go through this along with the death, the mourning, etc. after a long bout of illness. Shameful.

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Response to Amimnoch (Original post)

Thu Apr 19, 2018, 08:34 PM

2. No experience, but...

...maybe investigate Episcopal Churches that have an on-site cemetery or columbarium?

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Response to teenagebambam (Reply #2)

Thu Apr 19, 2018, 08:45 PM

4. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!!

 

We’ve only been on the phone with them for a few minutes now, but in those few minutes we’ve made more progress than in the last 10 hours. St. Andrew’s Episcopal church is helping us now, and even has a regular cemetary called Glenwood that they work with that will have no problem accommodating my friends needs! We’d just assumed going a church route was going to be a non-starter for us, and hadn’t even considered trying to arrange services through one.

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Response to Amimnoch (Reply #4)

Fri Apr 20, 2018, 07:59 AM

7. Oh, that's great

Hopefully everything works out. Please extend my sympathies to your friend for his loss.

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Response to Amimnoch (Original post)

Thu Apr 19, 2018, 08:38 PM

3. My husband and I (I'm a woman) decided we will both be cremated.

Whoever goes first will keep the ashes, then when the other one goes the ashes will be mixed together and a tree planted over us. That may be a better way if no one will sell you plots by each other. I'm so sorry for your situation.

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Response to Amimnoch (Original post)

Thu Apr 19, 2018, 11:04 PM

5. Buy two single plots, side by side

Have a service/funeral at the MCC (gay) church in Houston.

https://www.resurrectionmcc.org

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Response to Amimnoch (Original post)

Fri Apr 20, 2018, 07:27 AM

6. If you want to burn their asses

Have your friend and a woman go in and buy 2 cemetery plots, 1 for her and 1 for him. Then she can transfer the ownership of hers to him. It will take years for them to find out they've been had.

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Response to Amimnoch (Original post)

Sat Apr 21, 2018, 05:22 PM

8. Buy a family plot and prepaid funerals. n/t

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