when did you discover?

[wincest]

you were gay?

i drank a lot and noticed i was attracted to men. i was in my late 20's.

because of alcohol i was able to understand my sexuality.

btw i do not support alcohol abuse.

[JuJuYoshida]

1. As young as 12 if I can recall

I've never looked at the male form and been attracted to in in a sexual or romantic way. I appreciate it, but that's as far as it got. But since I was a young preteen I've just gotten along better with girls and really been attracted to the female form.

[Heddi]

2. I always found myself having crushes on boys...and girls

even at a young age (kindergarten), I couldn't understand why it was okay for me to have a crush on the boy, but not the girl. If I like her, and I like him...why can't I have crushes on either or both of them?

As I got older (meaning in the 9-12 year stage) I had several firsts with other girls -- first kiss, first french kiss, first dry humping, first...well, waaay past 3rd base for sure with 2 other girls on a camping trip. Similar experiences with boys were many years off.

I had never heard the term "bisexual" until I was maybe a Jr or Sr in high school. I knew my sexuality was nebulous, but I didn't know that one needn't be straight OR gay, because I never felt that I fit in either one of those categories comfortably. All of the liberal-bent sex-ed books I was given by my mom or came across as a young person only dealt with the binary -- straight or gay, straight or lesbian. No bisexuality at all, and certainly nothing about gender fluid, asexuality, transgender (I think back then we still used the horrible antiquated terms to describe transgender folks)

So when did I discover...I think I always knew. I just didn't know there was a name for it, or that I wasn't the only one, or that there were others like me until I was well into my 20's.

Thankfully, my husband (who is straight) is very accepting that he has a bisexual wife, and we have been very fortunate to find a community of other straight-appearing, monogamish couples with bisexual female-halves that we spend time with. I feel more alive and open, sexually, in my 30's and 40's than I ever did as a younger person or young adult.

[wincest]

4. as do i

"I feel more alive and open, sexually, in my 30's and 40's than I ever did as a younger person or young adult."


i was lucky to find an online group that shared the same interests as me.

did religion play apart in suppressing your awakening?

it did for me.

former christen.

[wincest]

3. a little late

but thank you for your responses, i learned a lot.