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WillParkinson

(16,862 posts)
Mon Oct 31, 2016, 05:22 PM Oct 2016

Woman Sues Gay Friend For Child Support, 16 Years After He Donated Sperm To Her

https://www.queerty.com/woman-sues-gay-friend-child-support-16-years-donated-sperm-20161031

A gay man who helped his friend conceive two children might be rethinking his kind deed, as she is now suing some him sixteen years later. That woman, now a medical doctor, is taking advantage of a loophole in Ontario law that allows for known sperm and egg donors to be held liable for child support based on biology alone, the Montreal Gazette reports.

There is a bill before the provincial legislature to amend the Children’s Law Reform Act, which could close the loophole, but perhaps too late for Michael Ranson, said his lawyer, Shirley Levitan.

Ranson met Dr. Amie Cullimore in 1991 and in 2000 she called on him to fulfill an old promise to donate his sperm so she could undergo IVF, court documents state.

He agreed to stay involved in their lives, since he had no plans of having his own children, but “never would have donated if had he known she was seeking any financial support from him,” his legal team claims.
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Woman Sues Gay Friend For Child Support, 16 Years After He Donated Sperm To Her (Original Post) WillParkinson Oct 2016 OP
Chapter XXXVI in the work "No good deed goes unpunished". COLGATE4 Oct 2016 #1
Wow! GWC58 Oct 2016 #2
Child Support is for the child. ciaobaby Oct 2016 #3
So if someone stole your DNA (sperm or egg) w/out permission and used it to conceive... LostOne4Ever Oct 2016 #4
Answers (IMO) ciaobaby Oct 2016 #5
 

ciaobaby

(1,000 posts)
3. Child Support is for the child.
Mon Oct 31, 2016, 05:38 PM
Oct 2016

Frequently the child is left out in the discussion of parental support.
I think every child is entitled to the financial support of two parents.
Regardless of how you contributed to the end result, a baby, you should be held accountable for the financial support of that child.
All children have the same needs and should be entitled to the support of both parents regardless of the "desire" of a parent to contribute or not contribute.
If you contribute sperm, you need to then contribute $$$.
If another person takes over your part of the equation, lucky you. Otherwise be responsible.

LostOne4Ever

(9,267 posts)
4. So if someone stole your DNA (sperm or egg) w/out permission and used it to conceive...
Mon Oct 31, 2016, 06:23 PM
Oct 2016

[font style="font-family:'Georgia','Baskerville Old Face','Helvetica',fantasy;" size=4 color=#00009d] Then you should be financially liable?

Or if one parent is a billionaire and the other one has to live on poverty wages? Both should still contribute?

I agree children should have all the support they need, but Isn't your position a bit too absolutist? Why should this man be held liable if he was under the impression that she was able and willing to carry to be the one to carry the burden alone? [/font]

 

ciaobaby

(1,000 posts)
5. Answers (IMO)
Mon Oct 31, 2016, 06:46 PM
Oct 2016

1. if your sperm or egg is stolen, then the thief should be responsible.
2. Yes
3. Maybe too absolutist. However, this person knew he was likely bringing a child into the world and he is responsible for that child, responsibility includes financial. When you refer to "carrying the burden", you do realize you are identifying the child as a "burden". If that was his mindset he should not even consider donating sperm.

Can you really believe it is just fine to walk away from your child, the one you knowingly brought into the world, and feel no need to support ? If that is your feeling, it would be best for all not to donate sperm.

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