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Sat Oct 17, 2015, 01:21 AM

Coming out at the old age of 57 is an amazing experience!

Married, divorced after 11 years, with a 26 year old daughter. Always thought of myself as hetero though I knew I had other feelings.

Became intimate with my lesbian friend of about 25 years just last week. It just feels too right to both of us. This has been coming on for a long, long time. She has pretty much moved into my house now and will be here full-time soon. Not that big of a deal to us because we have been close for so long.

My biggest supporter is my daughter! She has known and loved this woman all her life. She is very happy for us.

My friends have been awesome in support so far, the few I have told. My arch-right wing-Catholic family will be another matter, but at my age, who cares? Told my sister (Catholic right-winger), who dislikes my partner (total lefty liberal), anyway, and she was angry with me.

Long story short, if you are hesitant about coming out, male or female, gay or bi, just go ahead and do it! Wish I had years ago. If I can, almost anyone can. I am still in the early stages of it but it is an amazing and liberating experience.

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Reply Coming out at the old age of 57 is an amazing experience! (Original post)
Kath1 Oct 2015 OP
shenmue Oct 2015 #1
Kath1 Oct 2015 #6
shenmue Oct 2015 #14
Half-Century Man Oct 2015 #2
Kath1 Oct 2015 #7
marym625 Oct 2015 #3
Kath1 Oct 2015 #8
marym625 Oct 2015 #9
Kath1 Oct 2015 #12
marym625 Oct 2015 #13
Kath1 Oct 2015 #15
MFM008 Oct 2015 #4
Kath1 Oct 2015 #10
XenaAmazon Oct 2015 #33
CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2015 #5
Kath1 Oct 2015 #11
Kath1 Oct 2015 #16
CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2015 #17
Kath1 Oct 2015 #19
CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2015 #21
Kath1 Oct 2015 #22
irisblue Oct 2015 #18
Kath1 Oct 2015 #20
Spitfire of ATJ Oct 2015 #23
Kath1 Oct 2015 #27
Change has come Oct 2015 #24
Kath1 Oct 2015 #29
Kalidurga Oct 2015 #25
babylonsister Oct 2015 #26
Kath1 Oct 2015 #28
babylonsister Oct 2015 #37
Smarmie Doofus Oct 2015 #30
Runningdawg Oct 2015 #31
Kath1 Oct 2015 #35
XenaAmazon Oct 2015 #32
Kath1 Oct 2015 #36
LostOne4Ever Oct 2015 #34

Response to Kath1 (Original post)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 01:23 AM

1. ...

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Response to shenmue (Reply #1)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 01:45 AM

6. Thank you, shenmue!

Always enjoy your posts in other forums!

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Response to Kath1 (Reply #6)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 02:07 AM

14. Thanks

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Response to Kath1 (Original post)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 01:27 AM

2. Why is it so shocking to find out you can be happy?

I wish you shockingly good happiness from now on.

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Response to Half-Century Man (Reply #2)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 01:46 AM

7. I'm high on it!

Thank you!

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Response to Kath1 (Original post)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 01:39 AM

3. you know what a lesbian brings on her second date?

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Response to marym625 (Reply #3)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 01:48 AM

8. I am in suspense...

What is it?

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Response to Kath1 (Reply #8)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 01:49 AM

9. a uhaul

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Response to marym625 (Reply #9)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 01:54 AM

12. LOL!

Just spit my wine! So true!

Thank you!

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Response to Kath1 (Reply #12)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 01:59 AM

13. enjoy yourself

Congratulations!

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Response to marym625 (Reply #13)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 02:12 AM

15. Thanks so much!

I intend to!

Peace.

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Response to Kath1 (Original post)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 01:39 AM

4. im turning 57 next week

I dont worry about relationships gave them up 30 years ago. I am a true loner.

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Response to MFM008 (Reply #4)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 01:49 AM

10. Thought I was, too.

The right person and circumstances can change that.

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Response to MFM008 (Reply #4)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 07:16 PM

33. Me, too!!

On Monday. When is your birthday?

I've been alone for a while too.

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Response to Kath1 (Original post)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 01:40 AM

5. Hey, 57 is not old, not by a long shot!

Congrats and may you both have many many happy years together!

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Response to CaliforniaPeggy (Reply #5)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 01:52 AM

11. Thank you!!!

My life is changing for the better. Employment life sucks.

I'm feeling very alive for the first time in too long.

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Response to CaliforniaPeggy (Reply #5)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 02:16 AM

16. I've been reading your post for so long...

And you have been so right on about so many things... lousy Iraq war, women's right, etc.
Your support means a lot.

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Response to Kath1 (Reply #16)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 02:20 AM

17. Aw........thank you...

That's very sweet of you...



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Response to CaliforniaPeggy (Reply #17)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 02:26 AM

19. You are so welcome! Thank you!

The crazy thing is this. My partner encouraged me to go to the March for Women's Lives in 2004, when I was pretty apolitical. Went to anti-war demonstrations with her, also.

It has all come full-circle. As far as my family goes, I guess my karma has run over their dogma.

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Response to Kath1 (Reply #19)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 02:28 AM

21. Your karma has run over their dogma, lol! Sounds perfect to me!





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Response to CaliforniaPeggy (Reply #21)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 02:31 AM

22. And it feels perfect. I wish everyone could feel this good.

Karma trumps dogma, always!

Thanks!

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Response to Kath1 (Original post)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 02:22 AM

18. welcome home

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Response to irisblue (Reply #18)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 02:27 AM

20. Thank you.

Loving life again is a good thing.

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Response to Kath1 (Original post)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 03:33 AM

23. Use care. There are still places you can be fired for coming out.....

 

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Response to Spitfire of ATJ (Reply #23)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 07:24 AM

27. Thank you for the advice.

L'm OK. Live and work in Maryland and have several openly homosexual co-workers. It is so wrong that people face discrimination over sexual orientation.

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Response to Kath1 (Original post)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 03:47 AM

24. Welcome to the family!

Congratulations on finding somebody who loves you back.

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Response to Change has come (Reply #24)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 08:05 AM

29. Thanks.

Glad to be accepted into this family! LOVE = LOVE!

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Response to Kath1 (Original post)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 04:09 AM

25. Please write a story about this...

I love later in life love stories. All of them from stories about couples who have been together for decades-stories about people finding love for the first time or again when they are older. It just sounds so romantic that you are with someone you have known a long time.

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Response to Kath1 (Original post)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 06:07 AM

26. Congrats to you!

You sound so happy; that is all anyone should be concerned with.

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Response to babylonsister (Reply #26)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 07:59 AM

28. babylonsister!!!

I am SO happy!

As one of my favorite DU regulars, your support means so much!



PEACE & LOVE!!!

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Response to Kath1 (Reply #28)

Sun Oct 18, 2015, 11:02 PM

37. Peace, love and many years of

happiness!

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Response to Kath1 (Original post)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 10:02 AM

30. 57 is not old, kid. Other than that....

 

... sounds like YOU ARE ON A ROLL.

Life is a complicated business. If it were a board game I'd put it back on the shelf and get Trivial Pursuit.

But it is what it is.


Mazel Tov.

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Response to Kath1 (Original post)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 12:00 PM

31. Bravo

I hope you 2 will make up for lost time soon.

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Response to Runningdawg (Reply #31)

Sun Oct 18, 2015, 09:49 AM

35. Thank you!

And, yes, we are!

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Response to Kath1 (Original post)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 07:13 PM

32. It's never too late...

Congrats. Being a lesbian is amazing at any age. As for the Catholic stuff: 'feck 'em.

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Response to XenaAmazon (Reply #32)

Sun Oct 18, 2015, 09:51 AM

36. Thanks!

I really is amazing and feels wonderful!

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Response to Kath1 (Original post)

Sat Oct 17, 2015, 10:41 PM

34. Congrats!

[font style="font-family:'Georgia','Baskerville Old Face','Helvetica',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]It is also great that you have such a supportive daughter and friend/partner.

Keep on being proud of who you are, and I hope you the best of fortunes [/font]

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