GoFundMe for my father

[JesterCS]

I'm not really sure, how is acceptable to ask for help. My father has Spinal Stenosis, bulging and disintegrated discs in his back, and chronic pain. He is an Air Force Veteran during the 80s. We're in the middle of a whole house remodel, and he is the type that wants to do everything himself. We, his family, decided to try to get help for him, regardless.

Every morning he wakes up, unable to completely stand up straight for 30 minutes because of the pain. Yet he still works 3 jobs and pushes himself to do the remodel.

We just want to help him relax a bit more and perhaps hire someone to help with the house work or pay medical bills. We want to finish for a family christmas party this year, but between his medical bills, and everything else, its gotten almost to a standstill.

I hate asking for anything, much less charity. But I figured DU has been good to me in the past, maybe things can happen.


Thanks guys. Any amount if anything is ok. The total for the GFM is just a number we decided on that would greatly alleviate things around the house.

https://www.gofundme.com/7ja9yk9x

[JesterCS]

1. Bump n/t

[JesterCS]

2. TY whomever donated 😊 n/t

[Flaxbee]

3. will try to keep this kicked for you, JesterCS

May be a while before I can help. Hope the GFM helps your dad and family.

[JesterCS]

4. Thanks

We hope so too. Much appreciation for the kick

[JesterCS]

5. Well so far, 2 days and 10 dollars.

Less than I hoped but more than I expected. I actually expected it to stay at 0

[kentauros]

6. Have you tried posting this in GD?

The Lounge has a lot less traffic.

[JesterCS]

7. I thought perhaps it might not be allowed in GD n/t

[kentauros]

8. Oh no, this kind of thing is allowed there,

even embraced.

It's good you haven't posted there yet, though, due to the primaries. It may still get lost even today, but keep bumping it. Far more DUers check GD than they do the Lounge (we're often seen as the ill-begotten stepchilds of DU)

[JesterCS]

14. Seems to have stalled at 75 dollars.

A bit discouraging, but it's only been a week. Hopefully it will pick up

[kentauros]

15. You might also contact DUer OneGrassRoot

She's quite good at getting support for people in this way. Plus, her site, Wishadoo, is all about helping people get support, whether monetary or not

OneGrassRoot profile page.

[JesterCS]

16. Thanks! I'll give it a try. N/t

[JesterCS]

19. It's disconcerting

That two teenage girls can get 1000 bucks for a car, but I can't get 100 for my dad. It's been depressing, seeing him not being the superman i grew up with. I've tried posting everywhere I can. I just don't have alot of friends or connections.

Also I apologize if I've been insistent with kicking this thread. I don't know what else to do.

[renate]

9. have you called your state's Agency on Aging?

The locator is at the very bottom of this page:
http://www.needhelppayingbills.com/html/senior_assistance_programs.html

And there's this:
http://www.adrc-tae.acl.gov/tiki-index.php?page_ref_id=1325
and the locator:
http://www.adrc-tae.acl.gov/tiki-index.php?page=ADRCLocator

Maybe this program could help with repairs/remodeling:
http://www.rd.usda.gov/programs-services/single-family-housing-repair-loans-grants

[JesterCS]

10. No, i havent

Didnt know they existed. I'll look over them =D

[shenmue]

11. Chipped in

[JesterCS]

12. Ty just got the email, lol n/t

[JesterCS]

13. Kick n/t

[greymouse]

17. how about talking to your dad again

I finally realized I have to farm various kinds of work out. If your dad wants to be around for the long term, he likely has to do that. It's accepting being older and not physically perfect.

[JesterCS]

18. He's very prideful, and exact when it

Comes to the remodel. Plus it has to be finished before halloween. We would have been alot farther along if not for medical bills and the fact he can't move as well.

[JesterCS]

20. TY Dana Thomsen for the donation

[dana_b]

21. you're welcome

I hope that your dad is feeling better soon!!

Also why not ask Skinner if you can post this in GD? I haven't been to the lounge in quite a while and just decided that tonight was the night.

[JesterCS]

22. I have a cross post thread in GD

It sinks pretty fast though.

[dana_b]

23. If I see it, I'll kick it. n/t

[JesterCS]

24. ty much. :) n/t

[OneGrassRoot]

25. Apologies for not kicking sooner, and...

have you posted in GD? You're allowed to.

[JesterCS]

26. I have a cross post in GD

But it sinks fast

[TuxedoKat]

27. Sorry your fundraiser is going so slowly

Many I've seen posted really seem to take off and I've been amazed at the generosity of people here. Your dad sounds like a great guy and very deserving. Will kick in later today.

[JesterCS]

28. Thanks, ya it's slow, but I guess

That's to be expected. I just don't want to annoy people by kicking alot

[JesterCS]

31. Was that you who donated around 11pm est?

If so thank you very much.

[TuxedoKat]

32. Yes

I wanted to keep my word since I said I'd do it today. I usually try to stay anonymous but since you asked me... Hugs to you and your dad and you're very welcome.

[JesterCS]

33. Ty very much

I understand wanting to be anonymous, but I'd like to thank each person individually if possible.

[roody]

29. Is he being treated by the Veterans Administration?

[JesterCS]

30. No

It's is all through normal doctors, hospitals. He has insurance, but copay and %s are high and about 150 a week for coverage

[tblue37]

34. KnR for visibility. nt

[JesterCS]

35. Kick, still need any help that anyone can provide

Ty all that have already donated

[Worried senior]

36. I just gave

what I could afford.

My husband has spinal stenosis and he's trying to keep going but it's not easy.

[JesterCS]

37. TY so much. Was watching youtube and

Saw the e ail come through. Now I have to go tell dad, lol. Again ty so much.

[Worried senior]

38. Like I said

I wish it could be more but we're in the same boat with lots of bills.

Sure hope it catches on better and you get what you need.

[JesterCS]

39. If I come into any extra money, I'd definitely help out if I can n/t

[JesterCS]

40. Kick n/t