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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsMy son-in-law just died.
My daughter went to the house and found him. He had a heart attack. He was 52, she is 35. They had been together for a few years, but married less than two years.
He was a wonderful man, and they were perfect for each other. I am in the Midwest, and trying to get to Mass. as soon as possible. This is so unexpected and horrible.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,267 posts)KMOD
(7,906 posts)That's way too young. Hugs and love to you, and your daughter.
Joe Shlabotnik
(5,604 posts)I know (from being a licensed funeral director) that first there is a lot of shock (obviously), and then confusion. But go slow, there is no rush in making arrangements, and coming to terms with this new reality. I'm so sorry, find strength, and if you have some to spare share it with others, and you and your family will pull through and heal together. Sorry for your loss.
DeSwiss
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Laffy Kat
(16,354 posts)My deepest condolences.
UrbScotty
(23,979 posts)I wish I knew what to say right now.
Jenoch
(7,720 posts)TexasTowelie
(111,279 posts)A tragic loss at such a young age is completely unexpected.
Aerows
(39,961 posts)Give your daughter a by proxy
Here is a supersized hug
Cha
(295,899 posts)Suich
(10,642 posts)Condolences to you and your daughter, as well as family and friends.
lovemydog
(11,833 posts)murielm99.
laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)What a shock for your daughter. The same thing happened to my aunt and her husband - she found him. He left her with 2 small children. This may be premature, but when the shock wears off, grief support groups helped my aunt tremendously.
Huge hugs to you and your family during this difficult time.
chillfactor
(7,566 posts)my thoughts and prayers are with your daughter and your family...some tough days, weeks, and months ahead...it took me a year to recover from the horrific loss...
murielm99
(30,655 posts)and remarried at 30. I know how hard these things are. It is no less of a shock this time. I hope my experience can help her.
Thank you, and everyone else in this thread for your condolences.
LittleBlue
(10,362 posts)My condolences to your family.
Ghost in the Machine
(14,912 posts)knew and loved him. May you all find healing and comfort
Peace,
Ghost
tomm2thumbs
(13,297 posts)sheshe2
(83,319 posts)Tears. I am so sorry for your loss, your daughters as well. You are in my thoughts.
villager
(26,001 posts)Take care.
sheshe2
(83,319 posts)So sorry. Be well.
villager
(26,001 posts)Two at once?
I've had a pretty good year after losing my dad in 2013 (more or less expected, but still...) and then nearly losing my mom (completely unexpected) a couple of weeks later...
She, luckily, is on the mend (though minus one leg now!)
So having almost lost two-at-once, I can feel for ya. If I'm reading your own statement right...!
sheshe2
(83,319 posts)Then we buried my dad the Friday before Thanksgiving lost my BIL Thanksgiving eve. Still not over it villager.
Best to you and yours. It will be a hard trip.
Hugs.
villager
(26,001 posts)We don't get over those things easily.
But one step/day at a time helps...
Be well.
sheshe2
(83,319 posts)akbacchus_BC
(5,700 posts)young ones leave us!
Half-Century Man
(5,279 posts)Keep some for yourself as well, we'll send extra.
akbacchus_BC
(5,700 posts)breaks whilst you and your daughter cope with this tragedy.
I also lost my son-in-law due to depression! I wish both of us and our families can hang in thee.
My son-in-law was a son to me and I loved him dearly. I am so sorry for your loss!
villager
(26,001 posts)Nonetheless, you and your family have them.
Take care.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)52 ... so young, really. May he rest in peace.
sheshe2
(83,319 posts)I am in MA. Let me know if I can help.
murielm99
(30,655 posts)That is a wonderful offer.
pnwmom
(108,925 posts)Thoughts and prayers for your daughter, you, and your whole family.
steve2470
(37,456 posts)Unknown Beatle
(2,672 posts)You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
CaliforniaPeggy
(149,296 posts)What a terrible shock for all of you.
Jack Rabbit
(45,984 posts)Hekate
(90,189 posts)LeftishBrit
(41,190 posts)SoapBox
(18,791 posts)My sincerest condolences.
Too many lost as of late...my Mom in late January and then a loved fellow employee (heart attack at 55)...this is not fun.
KMOD
(7,906 posts)orleans
(33,986 posts)"we traveled down the path together,
beneath the sun, through stormy weather;
goodbyes like this are not forever"
daleanime
(17,796 posts)JDPriestly
(57,936 posts)petronius
(26,580 posts)with you and your family...
NBachers
(16,998 posts)end of the day.
Your poor daughter must be devastated.
Condolences to all. Bless his life.
sakabatou
(42,082 posts)My sympathies.
Enthusiast
(50,983 posts)No Vested Interest
(5,156 posts)Prayers that you and she will have all the support needed to get through this sad event.
ND-Dem
(4,571 posts)Moostache
(9,895 posts)I am very sorry to hear such terrible news.
irisblue
(32,828 posts)byronius
(7,369 posts)progressoid
(49,824 posts)a la izquierda
(11,784 posts)murielm99
(30,655 posts)I will keep you posted. But I expect to be gone for awhile.
mnhtnbb
(31,316 posts)Hope you can make arrangements to get to your daughter easily. She will
be needing all the support she can get.
We had a friend who dropped dead of a massive heart attack when he was 49--an ER doc--
working out at a hotel. Two surgeons were working out next to him, so he had CPR before
he was even on the floor, to no effect. So, sometimes, there is just nothing that can be done.
Don't let your daughter beat herself up with "maybe if I'd been there" kind of thinking.
I am so, so sorry for you and your family.
Surya Gayatri
(15,445 posts)My Good Babushka
(2,710 posts)and so sad. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Scuba
(53,475 posts)DFW
(54,047 posts)That was almost me. I came within a few hours of dying of a heart attack at 52. Dumb luck saved me, as I didn't know how close I was. That was 11 years ago. I can't imagine not having lived these past 11 years, so I can well empathize with the two of you, and know full well what your son in law lost.
mike dub
(541 posts)Best thoughts to you and your loved ones.
bigwillq
(72,790 posts)TBF
(31,919 posts)I am so sorry for your family's loss.
brer cat
(24,401 posts)It will take a while to get over the shock of such a sudden and unexpected death. Please extend our sympathy to your daughter.
Nay
(12,051 posts)your daughter.
LiberalEsto
(22,845 posts)greatauntoftriplets
(175,691 posts)MosheFeingold
(3,051 posts)That is far too young.
Coventina
(26,844 posts)What a horrible shock!
Sending you my love and thoughts!!
Tom_Foolery
(4,688 posts)riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)Dont call me Shirley
(10,998 posts)shenmue
(38,501 posts)rurallib
(62,342 posts)here is hoping for healing over time.
A Little Weird
(1,754 posts)raven mad
(4,940 posts)Please take care.
ailsagirl
(22,837 posts)femmocrat
(28,394 posts)It is such a shock to lose someone so young.
redwitch
(14,932 posts)I hope you can get to her side quickly as I am sure having you there will help her lots.
Iris
(15,630 posts)She will be so glad to have you there.
raging moderate
(4,280 posts)A wonderful man like that is a treasure in the world, with a lasting trail of goodness and mercy.
cyberswede
(26,117 posts)niyad
(112,424 posts)is here for you and your daughter.
Generic Brad
(14,270 posts)RiffRandell
(5,909 posts)derby378
(30,252 posts)Lifelong Protester
(8,421 posts)Here is a hug for you and your daughter,
Sudden loss, and slow, agonizing loss-neither is easy to take. I've been through both.
SalmonChantedEvening
(31,947 posts)Just seeing this now. My condolences and sympathy to you and your daughter. Sending love and comforting thoughts your way.