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murielm99

(30,655 posts)
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 12:16 AM Mar 2015

My son-in-law just died.

My daughter went to the house and found him. He had a heart attack. He was 52, she is 35. They had been together for a few years, but married less than two years.

He was a wonderful man, and they were perfect for each other. I am in the Midwest, and trying to get to Mass. as soon as possible. This is so unexpected and horrible.

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My son-in-law just died. (Original Post) murielm99 Mar 2015 OP
How awful! My condolences to you and your daughter. The Velveteen Ocelot Mar 2015 #1
Oh, I am so very sorry. KMOD Mar 2015 #2
I'm so sorry. Joe Shlabotnik Mar 2015 #3
.... DeSwiss Mar 2015 #4
So, so tragic, murielm99. Laffy Kat Mar 2015 #5
Oh, no. UrbScotty Mar 2015 #6
I am sorry for your loss. Jenoch Mar 2015 #7
Condolences to you and your family. TexasTowelie Mar 2015 #8
I'm so sorry to hear that. Aerows Mar 2015 #9
So Sorry, muriel~ Cha Mar 2015 #10
I'm so sorry, muriel. Suich Mar 2015 #11
My thoughts are with you & your family lovemydog Mar 2015 #12
Oh, I'm so sorry laundry_queen Mar 2015 #13
my husband died of a massive heart attack when he was 42... chillfactor Mar 2015 #14
I was a widow at 27, murielm99 Mar 2015 #20
He probably didn't even know he'd died LittleBlue Mar 2015 #15
Condolences to you, your daughter, your son-in-laws family and friends & everyone who Ghost in the Machine Mar 2015 #16
Very sorry for your and your daughter's loss tomm2thumbs Mar 2015 #17
I just lost two as well. sheshe2 Mar 2015 #18
You lost two!? Condolences to you as well, SheShe2... villager Mar 2015 #24
I cry with you, villager. sheshe2 Mar 2015 #25
Oh... I was replying to your statement that you'd "lost two!" villager Mar 2015 #43
Within a little over a week... sheshe2 Mar 2015 #46
I can only imagine, sheshe, having *almost* lost two within a month... villager Mar 2015 #70
villager~ sheshe2 Mar 2015 #88
So sorry for your loss! It is so hard to see akbacchus_BC Mar 2015 #27
When you get there pass our condolences to her Half-Century Man Mar 2015 #19
I am so sorry for your loss and my heart akbacchus_BC Mar 2015 #21
Condolences seem so inadequate at times like this. Especially for something so out-of-left-field. villager Mar 2015 #22
So sorry for your loss, murielm99. My condolences to you and your daughter. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2015 #23
Hey murielm. sheshe2 Mar 2015 #26
Thank you sheshe. murielm99 Mar 2015 #35
I am so very sorry, murielm99. pnwmom Mar 2015 #28
my heartfelt sympathies steve2470 Mar 2015 #29
I'm so sorry for your loss. Unknown Beatle Mar 2015 #30
My deepest condolences to you and your daughter, my dear murielm99... CaliforniaPeggy Mar 2015 #31
() Jack Rabbit Mar 2015 #32
I'm so terribly sorry for your loss Hekate Mar 2015 #33
I am so sorry! My very best thoughts to all the family. LeftishBrit Mar 2015 #34
I'm very sorry to hear this... SoapBox Mar 2015 #36
I'm am very sorry about the loss of your Mom. KMOD Mar 2015 #86
...sending you and your daughter love & sympathy... orleans Mar 2015 #37
...... daleanime Mar 2015 #38
All the best to you and your family, especially your daughter. JDPriestly Mar 2015 #39
I'm so sorry, murielm99. My best thoughts and condolences are petronius Mar 2015 #40
Oh, no- what a shame. We get up in the morning and get dressed, with no idea we won't be here at the NBachers Mar 2015 #41
:( sakabatou Mar 2015 #42
Sorry for your loss, murielm99. Enthusiast Mar 2015 #44
So sad. My sympathy for your daughter and for you. No Vested Interest Mar 2015 #45
My condolences for your loss. and for your daughter's. ND-Dem Mar 2015 #47
My condolences to your family. Moostache Mar 2015 #48
I am so sorry irisblue Mar 2015 #49
Awful. I'm sorry. byronius Mar 2015 #50
So sorry for your loss. progressoid Mar 2015 #51
Oh no... a la izquierda Mar 2015 #52
Thank you everyone. murielm99 Mar 2015 #53
I am so sorry for your loss and the sudden, horrible shock for your daughter. mnhtnbb Mar 2015 #54
Courage to face this trial...sympathy to all the family. Surya Gayatri Mar 2015 #55
How awful My Good Babushka Mar 2015 #56
Hugs. Scuba Mar 2015 #57
How horrible for you! My deepest sympathies. DFW Mar 2015 #58
So sorry, Muriel mike dub Mar 2015 #59
I am so sorry. bigwillq Mar 2015 #60
Rec for visibility - TBF Mar 2015 #61
I am so sorry for your loss, murielm99. brer cat Mar 2015 #62
Just terrible, esp since they had such a new marriage. My condolences to you and Nay Mar 2015 #63
My deep condolences to your daughter and you LiberalEsto Mar 2015 #64
My deepest condolences for your family's loss. greatauntoftriplets Mar 2015 #65
I am very sorry. MosheFeingold Mar 2015 #66
My deepest sympathies to you and your daughter. Coventina Mar 2015 #67
So sorry for the loss of your family member... Tom_Foolery Mar 2015 #68
My deepest sympathy muriel. What an awful shock. riderinthestorm Mar 2015 #69
Son-in-law... Dont call me Shirley Mar 2015 #71
... shenmue Mar 2015 #72
horrible shock rurallib Mar 2015 #73
I'm so sorry for your loss A Little Weird Mar 2015 #74
My heart hurts for you and your family. raven mad Mar 2015 #75
Oh no-- I'm so very sorry, muriel ailsagirl Mar 2015 #76
My sincere condolences to your family, muriel. femmocrat Mar 2015 #77
I am sorry, that is awful news. redwitch Mar 2015 #78
I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you can get there quickly without too much trouble. Iris Mar 2015 #79
I am so sorry for you and your daughter, and for his whole family. raging moderate Mar 2015 #80
So young! Very sorry for your loss. cyberswede Mar 2015 #81
((((((((murielm99)))))) so very sorry for this terrible loss. please know that your du family niyad Mar 2015 #82
I am so sorry for your loss Generic Brad Mar 2015 #83
I am sorry. RiffRandell Mar 2015 #84
My sincere condolences for your loss. derby378 Mar 2015 #85
I am so sorry. Lifelong Protester Mar 2015 #87
I am so very sorry, murielm99. SalmonChantedEvening Apr 2015 #89

Joe Shlabotnik

(5,604 posts)
3. I'm so sorry.
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 12:21 AM
Mar 2015


I know (from being a licensed funeral director) that first there is a lot of shock (obviously), and then confusion. But go slow, there is no rush in making arrangements, and coming to terms with this new reality. I'm so sorry, find strength, and if you have some to spare share it with others, and you and your family will pull through and heal together. Sorry for your loss.

laundry_queen

(8,646 posts)
13. Oh, I'm so sorry
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 01:13 AM
Mar 2015

What a shock for your daughter. The same thing happened to my aunt and her husband - she found him. He left her with 2 small children. This may be premature, but when the shock wears off, grief support groups helped my aunt tremendously.

Huge hugs to you and your family during this difficult time.

chillfactor

(7,566 posts)
14. my husband died of a massive heart attack when he was 42...
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 01:14 AM
Mar 2015

my thoughts and prayers are with your daughter and your family...some tough days, weeks, and months ahead...it took me a year to recover from the horrific loss...

murielm99

(30,655 posts)
20. I was a widow at 27,
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 01:30 AM
Mar 2015

and remarried at 30. I know how hard these things are. It is no less of a shock this time. I hope my experience can help her.

Thank you, and everyone else in this thread for your condolences.

Ghost in the Machine

(14,912 posts)
16. Condolences to you, your daughter, your son-in-laws family and friends & everyone who
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 01:19 AM
Mar 2015

knew and loved him. May you all find healing and comfort

Peace,

Ghost

sheshe2

(83,319 posts)
18. I just lost two as well.
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 01:25 AM
Mar 2015

Tears. I am so sorry for your loss, your daughters as well. You are in my thoughts.

 

villager

(26,001 posts)
43. Oh... I was replying to your statement that you'd "lost two!"
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 02:14 AM
Mar 2015

Two at once?

I've had a pretty good year after losing my dad in 2013 (more or less expected, but still...) and then nearly losing my mom (completely unexpected) a couple of weeks later...

She, luckily, is on the mend (though minus one leg now!)

So having almost lost two-at-once, I can feel for ya. If I'm reading your own statement right...!

sheshe2

(83,319 posts)
46. Within a little over a week...
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 02:28 AM
Mar 2015

Then we buried my dad the Friday before Thanksgiving lost my BIL Thanksgiving eve. Still not over it villager.

Best to you and yours. It will be a hard trip.

Hugs.

 

villager

(26,001 posts)
70. I can only imagine, sheshe, having *almost* lost two within a month...
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 03:04 PM
Mar 2015

We don't get over those things easily.

But one step/day at a time helps...

Be well.

akbacchus_BC

(5,700 posts)
21. I am so sorry for your loss and my heart
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 01:30 AM
Mar 2015

breaks whilst you and your daughter cope with this tragedy.

I also lost my son-in-law due to depression! I wish both of us and our families can hang in thee.

My son-in-law was a son to me and I loved him dearly. I am so sorry for your loss!

 

villager

(26,001 posts)
22. Condolences seem so inadequate at times like this. Especially for something so out-of-left-field.
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 01:31 AM
Mar 2015

Nonetheless, you and your family have them.

Take care.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
23. So sorry for your loss, murielm99. My condolences to you and your daughter.
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 01:31 AM
Mar 2015

52 ... so young, really. May he rest in peace.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,296 posts)
31. My deepest condolences to you and your daughter, my dear murielm99...
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 01:52 AM
Mar 2015

What a terrible shock for all of you.

SoapBox

(18,791 posts)
36. I'm very sorry to hear this...
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 02:00 AM
Mar 2015

My sincerest condolences.

Too many lost as of late...my Mom in late January and then a loved fellow employee (heart attack at 55)...this is not fun.

orleans

(33,986 posts)
37. ...sending you and your daughter love & sympathy...
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 02:00 AM
Mar 2015

"we traveled down the path together,
beneath the sun, through stormy weather;
goodbyes like this are not forever"

NBachers

(16,998 posts)
41. Oh, no- what a shame. We get up in the morning and get dressed, with no idea we won't be here at the
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 02:11 AM
Mar 2015

end of the day.

Your poor daughter must be devastated.

Condolences to all. Bless his life.

No Vested Interest

(5,156 posts)
45. So sad. My sympathy for your daughter and for you.
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 02:28 AM
Mar 2015

Prayers that you and she will have all the support needed to get through this sad event.

mnhtnbb

(31,316 posts)
54. I am so sorry for your loss and the sudden, horrible shock for your daughter.
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 06:06 AM
Mar 2015

Hope you can make arrangements to get to your daughter easily. She will
be needing all the support she can get.

We had a friend who dropped dead of a massive heart attack when he was 49--an ER doc--
working out at a hotel. Two surgeons were working out next to him, so he had CPR before
he was even on the floor, to no effect. So, sometimes, there is just nothing that can be done.
Don't let your daughter beat herself up with "maybe if I'd been there" kind of thinking.

I am so, so sorry for you and your family.

DFW

(54,047 posts)
58. How horrible for you! My deepest sympathies.
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 06:32 AM
Mar 2015

That was almost me. I came within a few hours of dying of a heart attack at 52. Dumb luck saved me, as I didn't know how close I was. That was 11 years ago. I can't imagine not having lived these past 11 years, so I can well empathize with the two of you, and know full well what your son in law lost.

brer cat

(24,401 posts)
62. I am so sorry for your loss, murielm99.
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 08:15 AM
Mar 2015

It will take a while to get over the shock of such a sudden and unexpected death. Please extend our sympathy to your daughter.

Coventina

(26,844 posts)
67. My deepest sympathies to you and your daughter.
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 10:21 AM
Mar 2015

What a horrible shock!

Sending you my love and thoughts!!

redwitch

(14,932 posts)
78. I am sorry, that is awful news.
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 08:34 PM
Mar 2015

I hope you can get to her side quickly as I am sure having you there will help her lots.

Iris

(15,630 posts)
79. I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you can get there quickly without too much trouble.
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 08:40 PM
Mar 2015

She will be so glad to have you there.

raging moderate

(4,280 posts)
80. I am so sorry for you and your daughter, and for his whole family.
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 09:07 PM
Mar 2015

A wonderful man like that is a treasure in the world, with a lasting trail of goodness and mercy.

niyad

(112,424 posts)
82. ((((((((murielm99)))))) so very sorry for this terrible loss. please know that your du family
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 10:07 PM
Mar 2015

is here for you and your daughter.

Lifelong Protester

(8,421 posts)
87. I am so sorry.
Tue Mar 31, 2015, 10:46 PM
Mar 2015

Here is a hug for you and your daughter,


Sudden loss, and slow, agonizing loss-neither is easy to take. I've been through both.

SalmonChantedEvening

(31,947 posts)
89. I am so very sorry, murielm99.
Thu Apr 2, 2015, 05:20 AM
Apr 2015

Just seeing this now. My condolences and sympathy to you and your daughter. Sending love and comforting thoughts your way.

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