Anyone have any suggestions about books on grieving?

[Taverner]

[Sedona]

1. This is good, written by a friend of mine

http://www.amazon.com/Mrs-Hunters-Happy-Death-Preparing/dp/B005Q6O1DA/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1382047545&sr=8-1&keywords=Mrs.+happy+death

[Hoyt]

2. Search under "Grief Web sites." Sorry, take care.

When my wife passed away almost 5 years ago, I found some web sites that were pretty good. I didn't use them a lot, but they did provide some comfort when things got a little rough. I'm kind of a loner, and tried to go it pretty much alone -- not smart.

Here is a link to a few sites, but there are others:

www.goodtherapy.org/blog/best-resources-2012-top-10-grief-loss-0104137

I think grief.com was the one I signed up for, but it's been awhile.

[handmade34]

3. (((...)))

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross has written much about it and her books are worthy of reading...

(I stayed with my husband as he died and also my step-father as he was dying) ...while you can, if he is near the end, touch him and talk to him even if you don't think he's hearing or feeling...

there is no one good book or way of coping with grief... we are all different... I just needed to be alone, others need to talk it out

mostly, be very gentle with yourself

[davidpdx]

10. +1

I read one of her books after my dad died. On Death and Dying is the name of the book. It looks like she wrote quite a few books that could be helpful.

Hang in there.

[angstlessk]

4. I met a man who gave me a book...'Life after Life' by Dr Moody

Just before my sister's daughter was killed by a motorist...it soothed her..and might sooth you?

[onestepforward]

5. It's an old book that was written for ages 4 and up,

but I found it the most comforting to me as an adult when my father died:

The Fall of Freddie the Leaf: A Story of Life for All Ages
by Leo Buscaglia

http://www.amazon.com/Fall-Freddie-Leaf-Story-Life/dp/0943432898/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1382077760&sr=1-1&keywords=fall+freddy+leaf

[uriel1972]

6. I can't offer a suggestion on books...

but with grief, don't let anyone tell you how to grieve. It's your journey (as they say) and do what feels right for you. Take the suggestions from books, use the tools that they provide, but do it your way.

It might be beneficial to find a counselor that you can work with. I'm sure there will be people telling you what to do, thank them for their 'advice' and roll with it the best you can on your terms.

Grief is hard to deal with and the pain may not ever go away, but with time and effort it may lessen and or become easier to deal with.

My condolences and if you don't like what I have to say, you can thank me for my 'advice'.

[IdaBriggs]

7. I have two for you.

This one is my "go to" book on dealing with grief - "How to Survive the Loss of a Love" -- http://www.amazon.com/Survive-Loss-Love-Peter-McWilliams/dp/0931580439/ref=sr_1_7?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1382100456&sr=1-7&keywords=losing+a+love

And while I was searching at Amazon, I found this one, which looks interesting (depending on your situation) -- "How To Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies" http://www.amazon.com/Living-When-Someone-Love-Dies/dp/0553352695/ref=sr_1_5?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1382100386&sr=1-5&keywords=losing+a+love

Either way, and I hope things get better.

[markpkessinger]

8. I found this book enormously helpful after I lost my parents . . .

My parents died in 2000, my mother on Dec. 13 and my father on Christmas Day. This book, "The Orphaned Adult: Understanding And Coping With Grief And Change After The Death Of Our Parents," by Alexander Levy, spoke to what I was experiencing in a way that no other book I read did. I highly recommend it. Here's the link to it on Amazon:

http://www.amazon.com/The-Orphaned-Adult-Understanding-Parents/dp/0738203610/ref=sr_1_15?ie=UTF8&qid=1382144719&sr=8-15&keywords=grieving+loss+of+parents

Wishing you all the best during this difficult time.

-Mark

[mucifer]

9. "Tear Soup" is a good one. Kind of a kids book. But, good for adults.

[orleans]

11. i was going to suggest

"grieving the death of a mother" by harold ivan smith -- i thought this was a nice little book & i was going to tell you that you could probably transfer a lot of what he wrote to losing a father.

then i found another one of his books:
"on grieving the death of a father"
(i haven't read it but you can check it out on amazon, read some of the reviews, order it from your library.)

maybe get a notebook and write down your thoughts/feelings/memories about dad. i read your tribute to him--there's a lifetime of love there, and the love doesn't end. when someone we love dies our relationship with them does not end. it is drastically altered, sometimes tragically, but it's not over. and it becomes our challenge to adapt to the new arrangement/design of what was so set and fixed and familiar. they take a piece of us when they go and i think we not only grieve for them but for the part of us that is now missing - a part that makes us incomplete. and if life was good we grieve over the realization that our life will never be the same.

the most recent book i have to read is "i wasn't ready to say goodbye" and while it isn't specifically a book about losing a mother i can tell by skimming through it and the table of contents that there will be plenty for me to relate to. (and regardless of how long a time we have to prepare for the death of a parent--or anyone--i had about a week--i don't think we're ever completely ready. we just don't realize all the ramifications that we're going to be hit with later on.) maybe i'm wrong. maybe there are the perfect and easy deaths but i've never known one and i've never seen one.