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[Soph0571]

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[Squinch]

1. I'm so sorry, Soph.

[tblue37]

2. I am so sorry Soph. I know you've been through hell already. I just hope you have

someone nearby who can hold and comfort you.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

3. I'm sorry. I hope you can be with him.

[Chainfire]

4. When things are out of control and beyond our contol

none of us know what to do. Crisis always comes too suddenly and usually at exactly the worst time. You are just going to have to rely on your inner strength and trust your judgement. Good luck to the both of you.

[mnhtnbb]

5. Oh, Soph, I am so, so sorry.

If there is someone willing to come be with you, call them. If not, because of the damn virus, then stay on here and we will hold you in our hearts while you wait. Do the busy things you can. Strip the sheets. Clean up the kitchen. Put on music. Do what you can to keep yourself occupied while you wait.

Sending you cyber hugs.

[raging moderate]

6. You are doing all you can.

Your love and devotion are obvious. Just stay as steady as you can. God bless you and your SO! We are with you in spirit.

[cayugafalls]

7. Oh my, Soph. I hope you can be with him.

So so sorry. Sending all my love and prayers to you and your SO.

[SheltieLover]

8. So sorry, Soph 💗💗💗

I hope they can find a room so you can be there.

[Ohiogal]

9. I'm so sorry, Soph.

Wishing for strength for you to get through this difficult time.

[LuckyCharms]

10. I'm so sorry.

[FM123]

11. I am so sorry for what you are going through.

Please call a friend, someone who's voice will help carry you. And remember, we are still here for you - sending you as much strength and love as we can.

[Voltaire2]

12. I'm so sorry.

[Karadeniz]

13. It's always too fast...we're never ready...just turn your brain onto autopilot and set the dial to

Normal...you'll have all the time you need for your own crisis later.

Sincerest sympathy for both of you at this time. ❤❤❤❤❤

[wendyb-NC]

14. I am so sorry to hear that.

My heart goes out to both of you. I truly hope that you are able to be with him. It sounds like you are doing all you can in order to spend time with him, you must. Sending positive energy to the powers that be finding the space where you can be together. Sending hugs, and lots of hope. Blessings and peace to you both.

[Adsos Letter]

15. So very sorry to hear this, Soph.

I hope they can make some arrangement so that you can be with him.

There really are no words that can ease the pain of this, but I hope you know that everyone who knows you on DU has you and your SO in their thoughts and hearts.

[RKP5637]

16. Saddened to hear this ...

[babylonsister]

17. My heart goes out to you;

I am glad he's in hospital so you don't have to deal with this alone. Hugs to you, Soph.

[brer cat]

18. I'm so sorry to hear more bad news Soph.

[Midnight Writer]

19. Sorry to hear this. I wish I could send you some strength.

Sounds like you have done all you can, admirably.

[alwaysinasnit]

20. ...

[stopdiggin]

21. so, so sorry

Soph, do your best. And then know that you've done your best. That is salve that allows us to get up the next day.

[Ninga]

22. So very very sorry. Wish there was an easy answer. Peace and hugs.

💔

[Desert grandma]

23. So sorry for what you are going through.

I hope it helps to know that you have many friends here on DU that are holding you in their thoughts and in their hearts.

[handmade34]

24. no words......

[niyad]

25. (((((((((Sop))))))))) I am so very sorry to hear this sending loving and healing vibes for strength

and courage. There are no real words that can comfort right now, but know that your DU family is here for both of you. You are so strong, so brave.

[cally]

26. I hope you found a side room to sit by SO's side

I’m sending as much strength and hugs as possible.

[sheshe2]

27. I am so sorry, Soph.

[Lars39]

28. I'm so sorry,Soph.

I hope they can find a way for you to be with him.
Are you packed for a possible extended stay?
Sometimes hospitals will let you in but not let you come and go.
On edit...personal wipes and dry shampoo help a lot.

[onecent]

29. I don't know you Soph, but I am praying alot....

You are doing all you can do.

Penny

[XanaDUer2]

30. I'm so very sorry

Nt

[mountain grammy]

31. I'm so sorry, Soph.

Hope you have someone close with you. ❤️

[cry baby]

32. So fast, sadly. My heart goes out to you and SO.

Hug to you both.

[Mira]

33. I"ve been reading your posts

and then my face gets wet. This is an unbearable time for you and I am so very much wishing it to not be so and that his suffering will end, and yours will abate.
One year ago today I was in Germany burying my 54 year old brother in the roots of a huge tree and just talked to his wife and we remembered together. I will continue to send you light and strength in the best way I know how and I feel your pain.

[CanonRay]

34. Oh Susan we are so sad for you.

We both wish there was something we could do, but you both are in our thoughts.

[flamin lib]

35. I wish so much that there were words to comfort both of you.

There aren't.

If there were I'd sing them to the cosmos and someone would hear and comfort you.

As it is just know that tears stream from my eyes as I tell you that knowing you only through DU I love you as a sister and through you, him.

Be with him, take the time to say the things that must be said and find small solace in being afforded the time to do so.

No emojis . . .

[Hekate]

36. ((((Soph)))). I'm so sad it has come to this. Know that you are in the prayers/vibes/thoughts...

...of your friends here.

[Trueblue Texan]

37. I am so very sorry...

...hearts are with you in this sad time

[Alliepoo]

38. I'm so very sorry, Soph

Even when you try to prepare yourself you’re never ready when the time comes. I truly hope you can go be with your love. You have been true and devoted and have given him your love and care and that’s what real love is all about. If you have someone that can be with you might be comforting until you can get that room. Meanwhile we are here for you and here with you. (((HUG)))

[wryter2000]

39. I'm so sorry

My husband died very quickly. About six weeks of becoming ill to his death. Although I felt as if I’d been hit by a cement truck, I also felt glad he didn’t linger and suffer. I hope you can find comfort in that, too.

[Botany]

40. "I don't know what to do."

Yes, you do. Just be there as much as you can. If you can tell him that things will be OK
and let him know that he can go when he feels it is right.

[volstork]

41. So deeply sorry, Soph.

We here at DU are thinking of you and your SO. Sending love and support your way.

[sarge43]

42. So very sorry Soph.

If we can help in any way, please let us know.

[MissMillie]

43. Soph, I'm so sorry--we're here for you. (n/t)

.

[peggysue2]

44. So sorry to hear this.

Any serious illness of a loved one is devastating.

Sending peace and blessings in your direction.

[yonder]

45. I'm sorry you have to go through this.

It's never easy.

[MLAA]

46. Sending love 💖✨💕

[littlemissmartypants]

47. (((((Soph)))))

I am so proud of you for staying so strong. I hope you are able to stay close with him. I wish I could do more.

[irisblue]

48. Soph, I am so sorry. I hope and pray that you can be with him today

[ancianita]

49. Sending love.

There's no more to do. Just be. Take any calls, offers of help that seem like real help.

He knows you're there and love him.

[NNadir]

50. I am very, very, very sorry Soph0571. These moments always seem so surreal.

May you both have peace.

[Jim__]

51. So sorry to hear this.

[CaptainTruth]

52. Dear Lord, I am so sorry...

[GeoWilliam750]

53. Wishing you strength and solace

[TruckFump]

54. So very sorry, Soph

[ananda]

55. Hug

I'm glad they are keeping him comfortable.

That's what they did with my dad at the end,
except we were all allowed to be there
(before Covid).

[KT2000]

56. I hope so much you can be with him

peace to you and yours Soph0571.

[sueh]

57. Hugs and prayers for you and your SO.

[Cosmo Blues]

58. Dear Heart

I'm sure he knows you're with him in spirit, I'm sorry about this new paradigm of covid in hospitals. I'm not sure how I would spend my time waiting for that call, just try to be your strong self Soph

[barbtries]

59. i only hope

that you will be able to be by his side and that his suffering is minimal. all the love and strength to you in this sad time.

[Tender hopper]

60. Soph, may you find peace and solice and may your fellas transition be smooth and peaceful.

[SalmonChantedEvening]

61. Tears and love, Soph0571

My heart is with you.

[Fla Dem]

62. I'm so sorry. We are never ready. Peace be with you and your Husband.

[TygrBright]

63. Holding you in my heart, Soph. May strength find you. n/t

[femmedem]

64. I'm so sorry, Soph. I so hoped you would have more time.

My heart breaks for you.

I hope it comforts you to know that he lived knowing how much you loved him and that, if his death comes as quickly as you fear, that he will pass easily, without suffering.

[flying_wahini]

65. We are all pulling for you at the terrible time. Sending you my best healing vibes. 🤗 hugs

[warmfeet]

66. None of this is easy.

Sorry.

Also sorry for my brevity, I am never sure what to say.

[Habibi]

67. I'm so very sorry, Soph.

I send you hugs from across the pond; energy and strength for the days ahead, and hope you may find comfort and peace.

[GemDigger]

68. There are many of us here, though not physically with you, that are with you in spirit.

You are loved here Soph and we are here if you need us.

[bronxiteforever]

69. Sending love and care.

[bluestarone]

70. We are ALL with you in spirit right now!

Really wish we could do more! God Bless.

[Phentex]

71. Thinking of you...

as others have said, we are with you in spirit.

[gademocrat7]

72. So very sorry, Soph

Sending hugs and love. We are with you.

[JustinBulletin]

73. Sending prayers for strength and peace

and love to you both in the whatever time you have left to share.

[Silver Gaia]

74. My heart is with you.

We are here for you.

[Niagara]

75. Sending strength, prayers and good thoughts to you.

I'm sending virtual hugs too.

[The_REAL_Ecumenist]

76. Oh, I am SO deeply sorry, Soph0571...It breaks my heart when I hear of yet another beautiful life

being taken by cancer. We will light a candle for your beloved & send earnest prayers for him, you & all of your loved ones & friends. I know you don't know me BUT I sincerely wish nothing but love, comfort & the best support for you. It's hard to look up when everything seems to be falling all around you. My prayer & wish for you friend, is that a door opens for you to be with him, holding his hand & being there. It's true that people who are "comatose" are aware that the people who means the most to them are there with them. I am LITERALLY crying & I've never set eyes on you but you're a fellow human being & having undergone what your honey is going through, is enough. I always told my husband that in a weird way, it's easier to be the sick one because alot of the time, because of the drugs given for pain, etc, the patient is just sleeping. God bless you & please know that you have a GANG of people here on DU who are ready, willing & able to be there for you & your, even if it's virtually.

[Tom Yossarian Joad]

77. You are in my thoughts, I wish I knew the right things to say for times like this.

[Tanuki]

78. I am so sorry. I hope you can with him but either way he is resting

with his sure knowledge of your love enveloping him like a cozy blanket. Love transcends distance and time and he knows that your spirit is right there beside him. I am sending you my hopes and prayers for the best. You are not alone on this difficult day.

[Dark n Stormy Knight]

79. Very sorry you are going through this.

I know from personal experience that any illness right now is likely complicated by the COVID situation. Unavoidably difficult situations made worse.

[Wicked Blue]

80. You have been doing your best for him

I'm terribly sorry for what you and your SO are enduring. I hope they make it possible for you to be with him

Blessings of peace to you.

[jmbar2]

81. In Buddhist thought...

...there is no hard line between life and death. It is a gradual process that starts before death, and continues afterwards until reincarnation. His consciousness and mind live awhile longer after he leaves his physical body. In this belief system, there are specific things that you can do to ease his journey.

- He is leaving an old and broken body for a new life. We have to be willing to not hold our loved ones back from this transition by excessive attachment. Let him know that it is OK to transition -- help him get free of fears and regrets. Talk about his good qualities and achievements. There is nothing more he needs to do on this earth. Everything will be taken care of.

- Remain calm and supportive so as not to disturb their peace of mind during passing.

I found it extremely helpful when I have attended others while they transitioned. It will be harder on you that on him. Just keep the focus on him while he transitions.

Peace, love and compassionate thoughts during this difficult time. We'll be here for you afterwards.

[sinkingfeeling]

82. I'm so very sorry.

[Marthe48]

83. I wish you comfort

Hang on, one minute at a time. I hope you can go be with your SO. I hope someone can be with you if you can't be with him.

[csziggy]

84. ((Soph))

[Heartstrings]

86. So sorry, Soph......

[Nululu]

87. So sorry to hear ntsorry

[Dem2theMax]

88. Soph, I am so profoundly sorry to hear this news.

You said you don't know what to do. Just love him, and be kind to your soul. That's all you have to do right now.

We are all with you.

[democrank]

89. Sending you strength and love.

I understand.

[PatrickforO]

90. I am sorry, as well.