My son's friend killed himself yesterday.

[redwitch]

29 years old. His parent’s only child. Florists are closed, I can’t go visit. They can’t have a normal funeral. In the midst of all the worry and fear and sickness this just put me over the top. I am devastated for his sweet parents.

[no_hypocrisy]

1. OMG

I'm so sorry for their loss and yours.


(((((HUGS)))))

[Walleye]

2. So sad. Horrible times

[N_E_1 for Tennis]

3. ...

[hlthe2b]

4. I go to homes of elderly neighbors & 6 ft. from the door speak through the window or glass.

I've seen people parked out in front of homes (parents presumedly) with an artist sketchbook and magic markers, writing and drawing to express themselves.

Seems like the best we can do right now.

[onecaliberal]

5. I'm sorry.

[TEB]

6. Sad

[sinkingfeeling]

7. I'm very sorry. He was way too young to give up.

[flying_wahini]

8. That's heartbreaking.

[Laffy Kat]

9. OMG, how horrible.

I am so sorry, redwitch.

[2naSalit]

10. ...

[leighbythesea2]

11. Im so sorry

My condolences to you. How heartbreaking.
Am currently in my 2nd house in another state because of a sudden death in our family. No funeral, people are struggling extra with the grief and lack of closure.
It will be terribly difficult for you and them. I have heard a lot of conments about how it doesnt feel real. Sending strength.

[redwitch]

12. The death of a loved one always feels surreal to me.

I find I go into a very different state, and it’s almost like I step outside of my body and observe what is happening at a distance.

[Marthe48]

16. That's shock

Gives you a chance to absorb the bad news

[redwitch]

13. I am sorry for your loss too.

Not hugging will be awful, a long, tight hug is so nourishing and necessary.

[leighbythesea2]

14. Exactly

I hugged my sister anyway. And she has been out in society more than she would have been. What can you do. Hugs are necessary.
Take the precautions after a hug i guess. Dont touch anything and go home and wash your clothes.
Please practice as much self care as you can.

[Marthe48]

15. Such sad news

It is unfortunately, but I have friends and relatives who have lost loved ones to suicide. It leaves people devastated. Would it help you to light a candle for the dear one?

[bronxiteforever]

17. I am so sorry.

[Granny M]

18. How tragic.

Deepest sympathy to his parents, family and friends.

[CaptainTruth]

19. I'm so sorry...

[prismpalette]

20. reaching out

As a mom to a son who did the unthinkable...omg! Consider writing them a letter with remembrances of their son. Any anecdote or memory would be good. Comfort in any form is elusive but needed desperately. Remembering their beloved son will be a kind offering. They are living in hell right now and any sort of reaching out will be so needed to keep them here-on this planet

[easttexaslefty]

34. This

Lost my son to suicide in 2007. So so sorry friend. Its the worst thing in the world.

[democrank]

21. So, so sorry

Sending a hug

[wendyb-NC]

22. That so tragic, his loss is devastating.

My heart goes out to his, parents, you and your son and those who knew him. Heartbreaking that you can't have a time to mourn him, or comfort each other in person, due to the current situation. I'm so sorry.

[steve2470]

23. so terribly sorry to hear this, condolences to your son and the friend's family nt

[MineralMan]

24. Oh, no! How horrible!

[Fla Dem]

25. Very sad and tragic. More so during this crisis, when it's so difficult to offer solace.

It also shows that the events that happen when there isn't a virus crisis, also happen when there is.

[Docreed2003]

26. Such horrible news!

My deepest and sincere condolences to you and your friends redwitch. Such an event is a tragedy in the best of times, I can't imagine how much more so in a Covid world

[smirkymonkey]

27. How tragic.

I am so sorry for you, your son and the young person's family. It's just heartbreaking. My condolences to all of you.

[3catwoman3]

28. The loss of any child is unspeakably devastating, especially...

...one’s only child.

A few posts above, sharing memories was encouraged. That is something I learned from my mother when my brother died. When people spoke about him, she knew he had not been forgotten.

[JudyM]

29. You can gather virtually by Zoom, if they would like to do that.

My friend’s mother passed away a few days ago and we are gathering together online a couple times to be together via Zoom, including a memorial service. Not like being there in person but much better than just phone.

So sorry for his parents and friends/family who loved him. Everything is so emotionally disordered right now...

[Scarsdale]

30. Such a tragedy, all around.

Much too young to give up. We do not know what others are living through.Deepest sympathy to the family. What a loss.

[MontanaMama]

31. Oh no. I am so sorry.

Your son must be devastated. May the universe hold you, your son and this young man’s family all close.

[LuckyCharms]

32. I'm very sorry, redwitch.

[easttexaslefty]

33. Oh no.

Their lives will never ever be the same.
Please, stay in contact with them when able. They'll need it.
( A mom who lost her son to suicide)

[MerryBlooms]

35. No words, dear.

[yellowdogintexas]

36. I feel for her so much. I lost my father to suicide in 1981

It is a long recovery with two very different things to deal with....
the death itself is bad enough but having to deal with the suicide as well is sometimes overwhelming...When they are ready I hope they can find a support group of others - it is the most helpful thing.