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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsA word about the thousands stuck outside a huge shelter in Fort Myers
https://www.cbsnews.com/news/hurricane-irma-thousands-stuck-in-lines-outside-crowded-florida-shelters/?ftag=CNM-00-10aab4I am writing this on my phone so forgive the mistakes. I hope I was able to post the entire url too the CBS.article about how the Germaine Arena shelter made thousands stand outside for hours in the heat waiting to get into the shelter that they could have opened but didn't, When they finally opened they only opened a couple doors up until it started pouring and then, all of a sudden it was possible to let these exhausted, hot people in
I was there this morning. My mom and I got there about. 8pm. She insisted on going too find the end of the line and I followed with the 2 dogs and pillows, suitcase and blankets. I lost her and my back, which has some serious problems caused me to sit and wait until she came up in the line at which point I would join her.
But instead, my mom, who is 85 tripped and fell, I'm sure with a lot of help from the heat and the fact that she had been standing on line for nearly 3 'hours.
So I am now sitting next to her in her ICU bed. Her anti blood clot medicine caused a big bleed between her skull and brain and also a small one in her brain.
The nurse told me that they woke her up and my mom wouldn't follow her finger. The doctor said the surgery was a success but he didn't realize how much more blood was there and that there is now " pressure"
I am besides myself with grief, worry, guilt and anger. I do know one thing. There was no reason too make all those thousands of people stand outside for hours when that stadium was empty. My mother was not the only elderly person there. I am kicking myself for things I could have done or things I wished I hadn't done but let me just finish with a big Fuck You too the planners and their lack of sensitivity to a while lot of desperate people
applegrove
(118,631 posts)SharonClark
(10,014 posts)DonaldsRump
(7,715 posts)mahina
(17,646 posts)You've got enough to handle.
Breathe, good luck, so sorry and angry too, for you and your Mom. Aloha no.
Scarsdale
(9,426 posts)Woulda, coulda, shoulda all pass through our thoughts at times like this. You did what you thought was the right thing. Stay strong for your mom, and yourself. We are all in your corner.
likesmountains 52
(4,098 posts)MLAA
(17,285 posts)I am so sorry you two are having to go through this. And I am with you on the fuck you to making folks wait outside in the heat until it started raining, and magically more doors could be opened.
Chemisse
(30,809 posts)I'm so sorry about your mom. I hope she recovers
50 Shades Of Blue
(9,983 posts)Please don't blame yourself! It's not your fault!
yuiyoshida
(41,831 posts)I sent her a tweet hoping she is doing okay.
redwitch
(14,944 posts)I hope your mom will be ok and I hope that the hospital is safe shelter from the storm.
kimbutgar
(21,137 posts)These events in your Mom's condition are out of your control. You can only hope for the best. Take care.
hlthe2b
(102,234 posts)you and your mother. You will surely be in my thoughts and prayers.
cwydro
(51,308 posts)They should have been brought in first.
I know they had that special needs number out there a couple days ago, but I understand no one could get through on it. Terrible.
CountAllVotes
(20,868 posts)The Disabled: The Forgotten Americans
all too often.
STAY SAFE everyone!
Strange times we are living in at best.
Ilsa
(61,694 posts)Get the elderly and very young inside first, along with anyone in wheelchairs, on crutches, or any obvious disability.
I'm so sorry about your mom, Maraya. I'll pray for her recovery and for peace for you. Please don't second guess yourself. Just know you are being thought of, and redirect your energy to being there for her and yourself.
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)for safety, which of course pretty much explains this, plus all the questions, explanations to people who must at least temporarily be denied entrance, etc. Evidently this one accepted pets, which meant requiring they be in cages, with food, checking papers for rabies vaccinations as required by law, etc.
I don't know what it takes to become an accepted volunteer, but there should have been qualified people in those lines who could have switched roles. And absolutely as you say, they should have triaged people with medical conditions and/or who are frail due to age, including both babies and the very old.
roomtomove
(217 posts)and saw the HUGE line outside the building and was wondering WTF was going on.....I am so sorry for you and that this tragedy could have been prevented....
lsewpershad
(2,620 posts)My heart bleeds for you, your mom and all the others.
Blaming youself is not the answer. You have done what you thought best. Peace.
pnwmom
(108,977 posts)is inexcusable.
Holding you in my thoughts and prayers.
Sunlei
(22,651 posts)cate94
(2,810 posts)I am so sorry for both you and your mom. Don't kick yourself, you did the best you could under circumstances which you had no control. Sending hugs, prayers and good thoughts to you and your mom.
montana_hazeleyes
(3,424 posts)You were trying to deal as best you could with a terrible situation. They should have opened those doors right up.
CentralMass
(15,265 posts)I will will say one for mother and you.
barbtries
(28,789 posts)i hope you are well out of the danger zone so you and your mother do not have to be traumatized further.
More_Cowbell
(2,191 posts)And made students either go home or go to the shelter. I'm glad my relative chose to leave and find a place to stay with extended family.
BigmanPigman
(51,585 posts)FL has so many elderly you would think that this would've been a priority. Shame on them! My grandmother lived there too until she passed away 3 years ago at the age of 104. I would have been furious too! I certainly hope that things get better and not worse for both of you. Now I am really, really pissed off!
SaveOurDemocracy
(4,400 posts)...conditions in out of the heat. Hoping your mother has a full and speedy recovery.
Did someone take the dogs to safety?
Keep us posted on your mom's and your situation.
Maraya1969
(22,479 posts)We are not in a flood zone so I put out a bunch of food water and pee pads. I also have a dog for they go out most of the time. I came to realize that they will be fine
kerry-is-my-prez
(8,133 posts)I posted in another thread that people are being turned away from shelters and there isn't enough shelters in Naples Ft. Myers but people seemed to think I was being overly cranky and that everyone should have just flown out of town and evacuated way back when. The hurricane in SW Florida has been really mismanaged. No gas, etc. no adequate preparations.
I'm am so sorry. I am feeling your anger right along with you.
mountain grammy
(26,619 posts)Lifelong Protester
(8,421 posts)This shouldn't of happened. Lord only knows, myself and MSNBC keep talking about them caring for the most vulnerable first.
RestoreAmerica2020
(3,435 posts)Please dont be so hard on yourself, you're there with her and she knows she is not alone. That will give her comfort. Take care ..paz.
Hekate
(90,660 posts)Stay in touch with us as best you can, and God bless you both.
calimary
(81,220 posts)in a more timely manner! SURELY they had enough lead time, especially as we've all had awhile watching the magnitude and severity and approach of this monster storm?!?!?!? Sheesh - seems like another of those times in which one finds oneself asking - "um, doesn't 2 + 2 = 4?"
I just don't get it. I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. I hope she recovers! I hope YOU get through this, too. Please keep us posted! Cuz we're gonna worry.
flamingdem
(39,313 posts)Hoping for your moms recoverym
Lyricalinklines
(367 posts)raven mad
(4,940 posts)I wish there was more we could do.
colorado_ufo
(5,733 posts)So sorry
renate
(13,776 posts)To have this worry on top of everything else, and with all your exhaustion too... I am so sorry.
All the best wishes in the world to both of you.
diva77
(7,640 posts)You are doing the best you can, so please go easy on yourself regarding the guilt...
I am sending good thoughts towards you & your mother...
nocalflea
(1,387 posts)You're mother sounds like an extremely strong-willed person. My mom was the same. Your instinct is to protect her and her instinct is to protect you. Moms like ours do not know how to compromise when it comes to the welfare of their children, no matter their age. I know how frustrating their selflessness is. Incredibly difficult dynamic to deal with. I totally understand the guilt, but what could you do ? Physically restrain her ? Been there, not an option. My god, I feel for you.
Please recognise your mother does not want you to feel guilty. That's the last thing she wants for you. Take comfort in her love for you.
I am praying that that strong-will of hers, will pull her through. My heart goes out to you.
Skidmore
(37,364 posts)I hope you both come through this storm well. Sending healing thoughts your way.
Ken Burch
(50,254 posts)Sending you both strength.
Granny M
(1,395 posts)How heartless.
Sending healing thoughts to your mom. Take care, Maraya.
Pacifist Patriot
(24,653 posts)Please try not to second guess your decisions. You couldn't have foreseen this. You and your mom are in my thoughts.
yardwork
(61,599 posts)Bernardo de La Paz
(49,000 posts)catbyte
(34,376 posts)WTF were they thinking?!? Again, I'm so, so sorry. This is NOT your fault, Maraya1969.
Heartstrings
(7,349 posts)samnsara
(17,622 posts)Fla Dem
(23,655 posts)Access to arena should have been orderly but quicly. Probably had someone from ICE checking everyone's papers, All the best to you and you Mom. I pray for a speedy recovery.
OldHippieChick
(2,434 posts)there was another woman who got separated from her 85-year old mother. I am so sorry. Try not to beat yourself up. We will pray for her and for you. I think the West Coast got caught a little flat-footed when Irma took that turn so they didn't have their act together as well as the East Coast. Please know we are thinking of you and your mom.
Maraya1969
(22,479 posts)I may have been sitting next to a suitcase with some pillows and blankets and maybe my dogs, (2 little ones) were in the picture
hlthe2b
(102,234 posts)I hope someone can help you with your dogs as well.