I take issue with Ivanka Trump enabling her incompetent father.
Yeah, she has a lot to lose if she doesn't: being "fired" for Ivanka means the money's shut off, being a family pariah, out of the Will and/or Trust, going independent of the Trump name and connections, etc. plus the same for her husband. Blackballed in the future by her own father.
I refused to enable my elderly father (93) when he was making mistake after mistake and refused help. He wanted me and my sister to cover for him. Stupid yet significant stuff like driving carelessly and getting into regular fender benders. Driving after a cataract operation from midtown Manhattan to NJ with less than 50% of his vision (because he also had a remaining cataract on the other eye). Setting the house on fire. Not paying his bills for six months. Not training his puppy to be housebroken and not to chew everything. Not cleaning up after his dog. (See the prior statement.) Leaving his dog in his car when the interior heat was above 120 degrees on a regular basis.
When my sister (who works for a veterinarian) tried to impress upon him that the dog shouldn't only eat "people food", shouldn't be left in a hot car, should be walked regularly, our father went to his lawyer and replaced her as Executor to his Will with the law firm itself. I tried to do work behind-the-scenes to avoid conflicts, but it was near impossible. Sometimes I just did cleaning and recycling garbage, but he'd yell at me to leave him alone.
When our father left for a trip to Florida in the dead of winter without notice, I called the police with a Silver Alert request. They refused to help me.
When he inadvertently started the house fire, the Fire Dept. felt sorry for him and put on the report that it was an electrical issue. And while Dad was delighted to be let off the hook, my siblings and I would remind him that the fire didn't start that way at all, that he caused it.
My point: When Dad died, he disinherited all three of us. Likely payback for not enabling him when he really needed our assistance. Would I do it the same again? You bet your ass I would.
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