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La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 12:53 PM Jul 2016

I know people mean well when they talk about being extra careful around cops etc.

but black people don't get shot because of carelessness or rudeness or whatever.

they get shot because they are black and because cops have no accountability whatsoever.

so asking black people to be careful, does not in any way really help them, since they have never been the real problem.

Racism, lack of accountability, powerful people closing ranks, prosecutors who need to remain on good terms with police departments, those issues are the problem.

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I know people mean well when they talk about being extra careful around cops etc. (Original Post) La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 OP
To some extent you're right, but I think also being extra careful increases odds of survival. thesquanderer Jul 2016 #1
I think they should watch how they dress. ret5hd Jul 2016 #3
What do you mean? uppityperson Jul 2016 #8
It's an analogy with warnings to women about avoiding rape. nt tblue37 Jul 2016 #13
That's what I am thought, but didn't want to assume uppityperson Jul 2016 #14
There were a number of BLM protesters open-carrying at Dallas march. yallerdawg Jul 2016 #2
I agree the last paragraph heaven05 Jul 2016 #4
I'm white and I'm careful around cops. hobbit709 Jul 2016 #5
Yes, and being careful works well for while people La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #19
Being careful improves the odds for everybody. dynamo99 Jul 2016 #50
I can totally relate. Not long ago, we were pulled over. AgadorSparticus Jul 2016 #79
I agree, and am one of those people who you are talking about, doing the warning to be extra careful uppityperson Jul 2016 #6
... La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #25
When I was in driver's ed--this must have been summer '75-- Igel Jul 2016 #60
Yes, but -- never mind. MH1 Jul 2016 #7
The careful bit is about attempting to increase your odds of survival in the encounter. MohRokTah Jul 2016 #9
This shadowrider Jul 2016 #16
Used to be, in police training... malthaussen Jul 2016 #74
So according to this gun-carrying, hoodie-wearing dude, cyndensco Jul 2016 #109
K&R ismnotwasm Jul 2016 #10
Philando Castile did everything right but still got killed. nt tblue37 Jul 2016 #11
We think. Igel Jul 2016 #61
Basically, cops have to be responded to as though they are dangerous wild animals. tblue37 Jul 2016 #12
Any time, ANYONE is stopped by the police, the following etiquette should be observed: shadowrider Jul 2016 #15
Are you a black person? Or a person of color? La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #17
Why does that matter? shadowrider Jul 2016 #18
Because you are generalizing from your own experiences to that of others La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #20
I'm not generalizing anything from my experience shadowrider Jul 2016 #22
The fact that you wrote this applied to all races La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #28
Oh jumpin Jesus shadowrider Jul 2016 #37
You're not helping, all you're doing is pretending to help La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #40
With all due respect shadowrider Jul 2016 #43
What happens, happens. Obey the government or die. arcane1 Jul 2016 #53
It's mostly the same advice I give students. Igel Jul 2016 #65
think about it like this Dyedinthewoolliberal Jul 2016 #112
You've never been stopped by the police in your life --You are white! CreekDog Jul 2016 #30
My skin color doesn't matter shadowrider Jul 2016 #35
And you wouldn't get killed because your color protects you La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #38
Tamir Rice was a tragedy and I don't deny it shadowrider Jul 2016 #41
Lol. You shouldn't have made uninformed dumb comments in the first place La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #47
Tamir Rice was murder of a 12 yr old by a cop, not simply "a tragedy". Those are facts. uppityperson Jul 2016 #72
And not a traffic stop radical noodle Jul 2016 #108
Oh jeez, I give up. shadowrider Jul 2016 #45
What guilt? La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #48
Don't waste your time. greytdemocrat Jul 2016 #75
"My skin color doesn't matter" --YOU ARE WHITE CreekDog Jul 2016 #42
Says Creekdog with no proof whatsoever shadowrider Jul 2016 #44
You're white. Quit acting like it's classified information. CreekDog Jul 2016 #46
I give them no reason to stop me, yet they have. I have the amazing license plate light that only uppityperson Jul 2016 #71
You literally said "That's my experience" in your list of rules. arcane1 Jul 2016 #52
... La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #95
You called them "rules"? What public body adopted these and where can we see them codified? CreekDog Jul 2016 #29
It's up to you whether or not you follow them on a traffic stop. shadowrider Jul 2016 #33
You keep using that word "rules" --they aren't RULES. CreekDog Jul 2016 #49
It's victim-blaming at its worst, and assumes the government is ALWAYS right and polite. arcane1 Jul 2016 #54
"my conceal carry class " scscholar Jul 2016 #102
he's not a person of color nor black CreekDog Jul 2016 #31
Why do you feel entitled to speak for black people? XemaSab Jul 2016 #80
Lol bravenak Jul 2016 #82
I'm not rich. I was born upper middle class. La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #93
Maybe black people can speak for themselves XemaSab Jul 2016 #96
They do. Several have spoken on this thread. La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #97
Maybe they just don't want to deal XemaSab Jul 2016 #98
lol, your objection to this thread is dumb and ill informed La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #100
How exactly am I not informed? XemaSab Jul 2016 #106
Your objection that I cannot speak as an ally to black people La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #107
Their issue with you is ... 1StrongBlackMan Jul 2016 #103
I think their issue is that they don't like what I have to say La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #104
I am of mixed heritage, look very white. That was my experience until it wasn't. I was polite, he uppityperson Jul 2016 #21
Except you didn't get shot so I'm right. shadowrider Jul 2016 #26
"be polite" --if a police officer tells you to do something, offer to let him do it first CreekDog Jul 2016 #32
Sure shadowrider Jul 2016 #39
What's the point of trying to reason with you when you defended the Bundy's in Oregon CreekDog Jul 2016 #56
You seem to miss where I didn't defend them shadowrider Jul 2016 #110
Well someone tried to produce id gwheezie Jul 2016 #105
From what I understand, he did indeed have a conceal carry permit shadowrider Jul 2016 #111
I agree. But the reality is that it is not as simple when you are a POC. AgadorSparticus Jul 2016 #81
but who knows these rules of etiquette? And why should they need to? kwassa Jul 2016 #88
Very sweet. And naive. philosslayer Jul 2016 #113
This message was self-deleted by its author Mosby Jul 2016 #23
I tend to agree. malthaussen Jul 2016 #24
It says that the world isn't perfect. Igel Jul 2016 #67
The situations are not strictly comparable. malthaussen Jul 2016 #76
No rule is perfect or foolproof mythology Jul 2016 #78
Which suggestion was that? malthaussen Jul 2016 #84
Also loyalsister Jul 2016 #27
This demonization of the police needs to stop oberliner Jul 2016 #34
Soon as the shooting of unarmed black people stop La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #36
Understood oberliner Jul 2016 #68
There are good officers but as long as they provide cover La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #94
If they don't want to be demonized, they shouldn't act like demons. arcane1 Jul 2016 #55
Most don't oberliner Jul 2016 #69
I'm not. Only the ones who act like demons, and those who sand by and let them n/t arcane1 Jul 2016 #70
You are correct... Mike Nelson Jul 2016 #51
I think the phrase "be extra careful" zentrum Jul 2016 #57
The SC rulled years ago awoke_in_2003 Jul 2016 #66
in what case? JustinL Jul 2016 #73
I got this from a quick search awoke_in_2003 Jul 2016 #83
that ruling was pretty bad, but it doesn't quite say that police can demand ID for no reason JustinL Jul 2016 #86
Thanks for the explanation. nt awoke_in_2003 Jul 2016 #87
Cops shoot all sorts of people TeddyR Jul 2016 #58
Wtf is your point? La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #59
I guess that TeddyR Jul 2016 #85
This message was self-deleted by its author uppityperson Jul 2016 #62
self deleted as you're not worth it. uppityperson Jul 2016 #64
I wrote a long reply and decided not to post it .... etherealtruth Jul 2016 #77
K&R Solly Mack Jul 2016 #63
Your posts seems to only Texasgal Jul 2016 #89
I agree that they are not the only minority getting unfairly targeted La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #92
Please do not take any posts by people telling you you should not say what you are saying seriously bravenak Jul 2016 #90
Thanks hon. La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2016 #91
Thank you! snot Jul 2016 #99
Cut the cop's budget. Big time. JEB Jul 2016 #101

thesquanderer

(11,982 posts)
1. To some extent you're right, but I think also being extra careful increases odds of survival.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 01:30 PM
Jul 2016

It's not like these cops--even the very worst of them--are killing every single black guy they come across. So the less of any kind of "excuse" someone gives them, the better. In some cases, probably nothing will help, as you suggest... but there are other cases where something might make a difference.

yallerdawg

(16,104 posts)
2. There were a number of BLM protesters open-carrying at Dallas march.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 01:35 PM
Jul 2016

The NRA argument that "good people with guns can stop bad people with guns" doesn't actually intersect with reality.

What would happen to any black there if he or she started firing, much less firing into buildings?

Given the right to keep and bear arms, if the Dallas police threatened an armed law-abiding citizen, would that citizen now have the right to self-defense while defending themselves from an 'active shooter'?

Given the two examples this week of two legally armed citizens being executed by the police, what does 'extra careful' mean? No 'white rights' at all?

Where does this all end?

hobbit709

(41,694 posts)
5. I'm white and I'm careful around cops.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 01:39 PM
Jul 2016

Back in 60's and early 70's I was harassed more than once for DWLH-Driving While Long-Haired.
Nothing like getting pulled over, getting yanked out of your car, searched both personally and your car-more than once at gunpoint, and then getting to put everything back in your car out on the road to give you an attitude about the pigs.

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
19. Yes, and being careful works well for while people
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 02:53 PM
Jul 2016

Which is why people advise being careful, because we usually generalize from our own experiences.

dynamo99

(48 posts)
50. Being careful improves the odds for everybody.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:41 PM
Jul 2016

It's just that the odds start off a lot better for white people.

Cops should be treated like rattlesnakes. They are good for the ecosystem, but they need to be treated with great care, they're dangerous.

AgadorSparticus

(7,963 posts)
79. I can totally relate. Not long ago, we were pulled over.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 06:23 PM
Jul 2016

My ex was speeding 15mph like every one else. My ex is also Indian, 6'3", and dark skinned. The cop came up to the window ramped up. He was PISSED and very aggressive...to the point that it scared my daughter. My ex apologized 3 times and spoke in a very non threatening, soothing tone. My ex apologized THREE times before the cop calmed down. My ex had to calm HIM down. This is all for a speeding ticket, mind you.

And so, last month we embarked on social and racial relations in America with our daughter. We had to explain how you have to be careful because people are racist and judge you unfairly. And because of that, you have to be extra careful and talk in a non threatening manner.

And despite it all, I still believe in the good cops. We just need to get rid of the bad apples.

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
6. I agree, and am one of those people who you are talking about, doing the warning to be extra careful
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 01:41 PM
Jul 2016

I didn't mean it in any way to say that people are the problem as it is obvious they are not. The problem is the issues you have in your last sentence.

I also understand how you might think I, and others, are guilty of victim blaming ("if only you were careful&quot . I am sorry, that is not what I meant and apologize for coming off as that.

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
25. ...
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:02 PM
Jul 2016

I didn't think you were. I'm sure mothers are warning their kids just as you were. None of us want to feel HELPLESS.

Igel

(35,293 posts)
60. When I was in driver's ed--this must have been summer '75--
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 04:52 PM
Jul 2016

I was told the following by a white guy with graying hair.

If you drive and you're told to pull over, pull over.

Stay in the car, hands on the wheel, until you're told otherwise. If you're told otherwise, do what you're told, and only do what you're told. If you aren't clear about that, ask for clarification nicely. If you can't do that, explain calmly why you can't do that. "I'm sorry officer, I can't hand you my driver's license because it's in my duffel bag in the back seat." Don't be angry; if you're angry towards towards another human being, they tend to return it--and it's good to say "they should be better trained," but you get the human being in uniform that you get. Perhaps he's a saint. Perhaps his wife left him yesterday after killing his dog and putting sugar in his gas tank. If you've had a bad day, sorry, but do the best you can. It's a transaction, like buying a milkshake. The goal is to get to the point where he says you can go or says you can call your lawyer.

The one thing you might want to consider doing, as you're pulling over, is rolling down the windows and turning on the interior lights if it's dark outside. But do not do this once the officer is out of the car.

The class was all white, all working class, all kids, almost all with long hair and ratty clothes because that was the style. Yes, we got "the talk", just because the risk is too high, but without the "you're at special risk because everybody's out to get you" part. It's fine to look at differential risks, but that is easily taken to mean "no risk for you, all the risk is for us."

BTW, it's useful to compare now with history. http://www.cjcj.org/news/8113

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MH1

(17,595 posts)
7. Yes, but -- never mind.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 01:41 PM
Jul 2016

Editing this because I realized I was missing the point of your post.

I agree with your post completely. It's NOT due to someone "not being careful enough", it's due to the bias in the system. As a black person you are much more likely to be killed in an encounter with police no matter how careful you are.

That said OF COURSE you are going to be as careful as possible to reduce their excuses. But it still may not be enough.

And that sucks.

 

MohRokTah

(15,429 posts)
9. The careful bit is about attempting to increase your odds of survival in the encounter.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 01:44 PM
Jul 2016

There is no guarantee you will survive no matter how polite, slow, careful, and courteous a black person is in an encounter with the police. It's all about increasing the odds of survival because every encounter a black person has with a cop is potentially life threatening.

malthaussen

(17,183 posts)
74. Used to be, in police training...
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 05:33 PM
Jul 2016

... the officers were advised to be so courteous and professional that they would be thanked after issuing a ticket.

-- Mal

cyndensco

(1,697 posts)
109. So according to this gun-carrying, hoodie-wearing dude,
Sun Jul 10, 2016, 12:31 PM
Jul 2016

a black person who is respectful to a cop during a traffic stop will only be physically restrained or shot 1 out of 10 times. How does he know this? Because his traffic stop was so positive not only wasn't he shot, he even thanked the officer. Tell that to Philando Castile.

This guy doesn't get it. I'm glad he survived his stop. Shit, I survived one, my husband several and my sons one or two. Guess there is no reason to be concerned about the others, yet we are.

I see fox news in his future soon.

Igel

(35,293 posts)
61. We think.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 04:55 PM
Jul 2016

Depends who you trust when the two eyewitnesses disagree.

Notice that in fact there's no need to trust either.

tblue37

(65,269 posts)
12. Basically, cops have to be responded to as though they are dangerous wild animals.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 01:49 PM
Jul 2016

IOW, the cops and cop culture are the problem, not what their victims do, just as what a rape victim wears or does is not the cause of rape.

shadowrider

(4,941 posts)
15. Any time, ANYONE is stopped by the police, the following etiquette should be observed:
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 02:42 PM
Jul 2016

1) Be polite
2) Keep your hands at the 10 and 2 position on the steering wheel unless otherwise instructed
3) Answer questions with "Yes sir", "No sir", "Yes ma'am", "No, ma'am"
4) This varies state to state. If the state you're stopped in requires you to inform the officer you have a firearm, do so. Tell the officer where the firearm is but DO NOT move your hands from the steering wheel. If the state does not require you to inform the officer, answer honestly if he/she asks. IF the firearm is in the center console and the officer asks for documentation and your wallet is in your right back pocket (for women the purse is on the passenger seat), inform the officer the firearm is in the center console and you have to move your arm in that direction to get what he/she is asking for. Let them decide what you need to do.
5) Provide all required documentation. Insurance, license, ccw permit if you have one, registration
6) BE POLITE and DON'T argue.
7) Most (not all) confrontations begin when the subject of the traffic stop adopts an attitude (which only escalates the confrontation). Resist this urge. (See numbers 1 and 6).

Anyone, white, black, brown, yellow, red or whatever, that follows these rules, the chances of you getting shot by cop is next to zero.

That's my experience. YMMV.

shadowrider

(4,941 posts)
18. Why does that matter?
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 02:52 PM
Jul 2016

I wasn't relaying anything personal that happened to me, just rules to obey during a traffic stop.

It's all about being polite and following instructions. Look upthread for a video.

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
20. Because you are generalizing from your own experiences to that of others
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 02:55 PM
Jul 2016

So I'm wondering if your experiences with cops is actually relevant.

shadowrider

(4,941 posts)
22. I'm not generalizing anything from my experience
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 02:58 PM
Jul 2016

I've never been stopped by the police in my life but I drive like an old fart and obey traffic laws.

I simply relayed rules to follow to avoid a violent confrontation during a traffic stop.

Nothing more, nothing less.

shadowrider

(4,941 posts)
37. Oh jumpin Jesus
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:23 PM
Jul 2016

I'm trying to help people if they should get stopped by the police on how to act, and all I'm getting is an argument.

shadowrider

(4,941 posts)
43. With all due respect
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:28 PM
Jul 2016

I'm trying to help people get out of a situation should they find themselves in one, and all I get is an argument.

I'm not placing blame on anyone. If, however, people develop an attitude, argue, and refuse to comply with officers instructions, well, that's on them. What happens, happens.

I don't care one way or the other.

Igel

(35,293 posts)
65. It's mostly the same advice I give students.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 05:02 PM
Jul 2016

When they have an issue with either teachers or principals.

I've had students who so didn't not "be police" and so didn't "don't get angry" that they had peers all but pulling them aside to tell them off.

The "I'm innocent and I'll prove it by calling you a 'fucking asshole' or taking a swing at you" becomes not "you're in trouble because you didn't return to your seat quickly" but "you're in trouble because you're egregiously out of compliance and violating a dozen school policies--and while I'm tempted to let it pass, you've now pissed me off so you get every charge against I can find."

And when the kid gets written up he says, "I got in-school suspension because I didn't get to my seat fast enough." And his doltish buddies back him up, "Yeah, that's all you did." It's not blaming the victim. It's saying not to make yourself into a victim.

Dyedinthewoolliberal

(15,560 posts)
112. think about it like this
Mon Jul 11, 2016, 06:26 PM
Jul 2016

while those suggestions on what to do when pulled over are good ones and make a lot of sense, since you have never actually been pulled over, and I'm assuming are white, you have no way of knowing if that is how the process will actually work. I have stood 2 feet away from someone getting punched out by cops just for being as smart ass. Sometimes you can't predict what they will do. But your post suggested you can and that 's why you're being challenged.........

shadowrider

(4,941 posts)
35. My skin color doesn't matter
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:21 PM
Jul 2016

I obey the law, don't speed, stop at stop signs, don't drive with lights out (headlight or tail light). I give them no reason to stop me. IF they did, however, I'd obey my rules.

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
38. And you wouldn't get killed because your color protects you
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:24 PM
Jul 2016

In a way that it didn't protect Tamir rice or many other black kids.

radical noodle

(8,000 posts)
108. And not a traffic stop
Sun Jul 10, 2016, 12:29 AM
Jul 2016

They didn't give Tamir Rice time to be polite. They took one look at him and the fake gun and shot him.

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
42. "My skin color doesn't matter" --YOU ARE WHITE
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:27 PM
Jul 2016

It's alright, I'm white too. We tend to think it's all equal out there because skin color is typically not an issue that works against us.

shadowrider

(4,941 posts)
44. Says Creekdog with no proof whatsoever
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:29 PM
Jul 2016

other than I've never been stopped by the police.

Good gumshoe work there. It'd stand up in court.

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
46. You're white. Quit acting like it's classified information.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:35 PM
Jul 2016

get over yourself. it's relevant to the topic the OP started.

give people a little credit.

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
71. I give them no reason to stop me, yet they have. I have the amazing license plate light that only
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 05:27 PM
Jul 2016

goes out when viewed by cops. As soon as anyone else looks at it, it goes back on. It makes for a handy excuse to stop me.

 

arcane1

(38,613 posts)
52. You literally said "That's my experience" in your list of rules.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:49 PM
Jul 2016

And it assumes the cop is ALWAYS well-behaved and well-intentioned from the start.

Some people get shot by the police before even getting to step 1 in your list.

Which of those rules did Tamir Rice break?

shadowrider

(4,941 posts)
33. It's up to you whether or not you follow them on a traffic stop.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:20 PM
Jul 2016

Argue with the police if you want, develop an attitude if you want. Personally, I don't care either way whether you go to jail or not. None of my concern.

But if you want to significantly reduce your chances of something bad happening, they should be followed.

These rules were taught to me when I took my conceal carry class many lifetimes ago.

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
49. You keep using that word "rules" --they aren't RULES.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:38 PM
Jul 2016

if they were rules, people have to follow them.

they would be codified.

you lose. bad post. you're just blah blah blah blah blah white person says this is how to have a good interaction with the police.

and then the people who aren't white thank you profusely for explaining this to them because because how on earth could they think of the "rules" that you wrote without your help?



i also know you're white because you think that what you have to say is valuable here because you thought of it.

 

arcane1

(38,613 posts)
54. It's victim-blaming at its worst, and assumes the government is ALWAYS right and polite.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:54 PM
Jul 2016

And ignores the countless times when a white person breaks every one of those rules and manages to avoid getting killed.

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
31. he's not a person of color nor black
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:18 PM
Jul 2016

he just said in another post that he's never been stopped by the police.

you know?

XemaSab

(60,212 posts)
80. Why do you feel entitled to speak for black people?
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 06:23 PM
Jul 2016

And further entitled to chew out white people for not understanding the authentic black experience?

You're a rich Indian-American woman living in New York City. Please tell us how hard you have it.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
82. Lol
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 06:37 PM
Jul 2016

I have personally watched 'rich indians' get called nigger right along with me and several other black people. They did not get a racism pass because they were indian...

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
93. I'm not rich. I was born upper middle class.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 11:02 PM
Jul 2016

I speak as an ally of black people, as a social scientist and a POC.

I'm not sure what your issue is with me, but this line of attack is kinda dumb af.

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
97. They do. Several have spoken on this thread.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 11:23 PM
Jul 2016

All minorities need allies. It's not something I expect you to understand.

Don't you think if black people objected to my thread they would have said that? There are plenty of strong black voices on du. Yet none of them have.

Doesn't that seem odd to you? That you are objecting to me speaking as an ally of black people, but the black voices on du are not objecting?

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
100. lol, your objection to this thread is dumb and ill informed
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 11:39 PM
Jul 2016

If you want to be a black ally, you should try to be better informed about issues affecting black people.

Although you are not trying to be an ally are you?

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
107. Your objection that I cannot speak as an ally to black people
Sun Jul 10, 2016, 12:29 AM
Jul 2016

Because I am not black, is ill informed.

 

1StrongBlackMan

(31,849 posts)
103. Their issue with you is ...
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 11:48 PM
Jul 2016

You have taken the time, and put forth the effort, to hear what Black folks have been saying ... and recognize how what we've been saying, intersects with your experience. So you realize you voice can speak for us .. and we have no problem with that which you say.

His/her issue is, she/he is angry that she/he hasn't gain such acceptance.

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
104. I think their issue is that they don't like what I have to say
Sun Jul 10, 2016, 12:05 AM
Jul 2016

So an easy way to discredit me is to point out that I am not black.

Thank you for your kind words.

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
21. I am of mixed heritage, look very white. That was my experience until it wasn't. I was polite, he
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 02:57 PM
Jul 2016

was scary, over the top, outraged and looking for an excuse to hurt me. I didn't get shot, or tased, though I was afraid I would, for 20 minutes he screamed at me. People watching from the art gallery I stopped outside of were aghast. Small town, liberal area. I had a brake light out. He said I pulled out too close to someone at a corner and what set him off was when I asked which corner that was because I didn't recognize the street name. "You live here, you HAVE to know the names of the streets".

It was eye opening, brought my middle class white female privilege to a screaming noticeability. My father has had extra screening at TSA check points for the last 15 yrs due to his looks. I cruised through, looking more like my Euro-mom.

Yes, it was only 1 cop but it was enough to scare the crap out of me and bring home what people not in my category deal with every single fucking day.

Give them no excuse, follow those guidelines, but it may not matter if you get the wrong cop.

"Anyone, white, black, brown, yellow, red or whatever, that follows these rules, the chances of you getting shot by cop is next to zero."

Wrong.

shadowrider

(4,941 posts)
26. Except you didn't get shot so I'm right.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:03 PM
Jul 2016

There are cops out there that develop attitudes without a doubt but they do that because they know they don't have anything on you, but try to goad you into an attitude so they can act.

I'm simply saying, be polite, follow instructions, DON'T develop an attitude and your chances are next to zero.

shadowrider

(4,941 posts)
39. Sure
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:25 PM
Jul 2016

Him/Her: Driver license and registration please

Me: No, you have to show me yours first

How would that work out?

shadowrider

(4,941 posts)
110. You seem to miss where I didn't defend them
Mon Jul 11, 2016, 05:16 PM
Jul 2016

Only stated they didn't hurt anything. I also put this in there:

"They very well might be racists, I don't know. I don't know any of them personally
And how do I know they're racists simply because they're occupying a building in the middle of nowhere."

Someone, (I won't mention the name here. Don't want to be alerted on for a "call-out&quot said they were racists with no proof whatsoever (but that seems to be their stock answer regarding ANYONE who's a gun owner). Me? I require proof before I label anyone for any reason.

I don't take anything online personally. It's very easy to hit the logoff button and forget all about it (which is what I did the night of our conversation).

I'm willing to have a reasoned discussion without insults or name-calling. Are you?

gwheezie

(3,580 posts)
105. Well someone tried to produce id
Sun Jul 10, 2016, 12:22 AM
Jul 2016

I have no doubt the cop asked for his license and registration, do you? Unless there is a recording that proves otherwise. There were 3 people present 2of them shot and killed a guy, 2 of them heard the cop say license and registration. The dead guy had a permit to carry, told the cop and was told to produce his Id. The girlfriend backs the story.
Why did the cop have his weapon out to start with?
So it is possible the cop gave several commands that were contradictory so following any of them would have resulted in the cop shooting.
Granted citizens should have some sense when dealing with anyone who has a gun pointed at them but the police really have to give clear commands not put you hands on the steering wheel, don't move, license and Id in any particular order in rapid succession oh no, it is up to the police to give the appropriate commands. Is it possible the cop asked for id and while shooting screamed put your hands on the steering wheel?
Here is what the rule is, the police have to give clear commands that give you the best chance of living.
I am not anti cop. They have a hard job and we need them but they can be wrong.

shadowrider

(4,941 posts)
111. From what I understand, he did indeed have a conceal carry permit
Mon Jul 11, 2016, 05:24 PM
Jul 2016

He was also stopped because he fit the BOLO of an armed robber from a few nights previously. According to the cop, he was told to NOT MOVE, and according to the cop, the subject continued to move disobeying the officer. There is also speculation he had a gun on his lap (which seems to be the case according to the video, but, it's kinda blurry so I don't know).

I wasn't there, I don't know.

One thing I've learned in my years though, the truth is somewhere in the middle.

"Granted citizens should have some sense when dealing with anyone who has a gun pointed at them but the police really have to give clear commands not put you hands on the steering wheel, don't move, license and Id in any particular order in rapid succession oh no, it is up to the police to give the appropriate commands. Is it possible the cop asked for id and while shooting screamed put your hands on the steering wheel? "

I absolutely agree with this. I've never been stopped but I've watched "COPS". I've heard one officer yelling to put the hands out the window, and another screaming to keep the hands on the wheel.

Yes, CLEAR and PRECISE direction is required. Agreed.

AgadorSparticus

(7,963 posts)
81. I agree. But the reality is that it is not as simple when you are a POC.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 06:36 PM
Jul 2016

Please see my post upthread about getting pulled over. This happened just last month. Yes, we were speeding...
like everyone else. No, we did not rry to get out of tge ticket. And yes, my ex was very polite. To the point that he apologized THREE times in order to talk this jackass down from an extremely confrontational level. We knew what had to be done and it was done. The situation was averted.

BUT when you hold a badge AND a gun, you have a responsibility as well to conduct yourself in a respectable and professional manner. EVEN MORESO than the gemerald public. The problem is that there are some who have no business being a police officer. They are not qualified emotionally, mentally, and psychologically. We need to weed those out.

kwassa

(23,340 posts)
88. but who knows these rules of etiquette? And why should they need to?
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 10:00 PM
Jul 2016

Is this part of driver's training curriculum throughout the US?

These rules should never be necessary.The police have no right, now, or ever, to shoot someone that doesn't follow this script.

 

philosslayer

(3,076 posts)
113. Very sweet. And naive.
Mon Jul 11, 2016, 06:59 PM
Jul 2016

You really have no idea, do you? People of color routinely follow the rules you so eloquently laid out, and are still routinely executed by law enforcement.

Response to La Lioness Priyanka (Original post)

malthaussen

(17,183 posts)
24. I tend to agree.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:02 PM
Jul 2016

There are people who will bend over backwards to find "reasons" why the police were "incited" to kill. But how does that explain the slaying of someone who does everything strictly by the book? And it also rather evades the question of why, even if you insulted the officer's mother and accused him of unnatural sexual acts with her, it somehow exonerates him for killing you.

If simple courtesy and reasonable order are not enough to assure a citizen that he will not be killed by the police, then the fault lies with the police, and not with the citizen who failed to pull his forelock.

My brother was once stopped by the police for carrying a water pistol and ordered to "put down the weapon." He first protested that the "weapon" was a toy, then complied when the officers reiterated their order. Had my brother not been white (actually, he's a metis Penobscot, but close enough), he would very possibly have been shot without warning. What price your "yes sir" and "no sir" then?

-- Mal

Igel

(35,293 posts)
67. It says that the world isn't perfect.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 05:16 PM
Jul 2016

Look, I've driven for 40 years now. I've been in two accidents. The first, I was going down a driveway and some dickhead came whipping around a blind corner into the driveway. She didn't have right of way, and screamed how it was my fault and what her insurance rates would do. The insurance companies said it was her fault.

The second accident was in the last couple of months. I was stationary at a stop light when the pick-up in front of me backed up with no warning and slammed into the hood of my car. His foot-long trailer hitch did a number on the radiator.

You're told that if you follow traffic safety rules you won't get in accidents. Oh, gee. I followed the rules and got into accidents.

What does that say about the rules? Maybe the proper answer is that I should ignore the rules--tailgate, don't signal, speed, ignore hazardous conditions, cut people off. Or perhaps the rules are just there to reduce risk.

I you are polite, compliant, and courteous, your risk is far less. There are instances where a policeman is off-the-wall crazy. I've seen them brusque and impolite, but never crazy. If I'd taken offense when none was given, it would have been worse.

Most of the videos I've seen that record an incident from start to finish show a pissed off civilian arguing with a cop, who gets pissed off in return. Most just show the cop already pissed off, and we assume that's how he started. But all those who are let off with a warning don't piss off the officer. Make the cop angry, and, well, it pays to remember that he's a human like you.

Had your brother immediately complied with the "put down the weapon" instead of having to have it repeated, any risk would have been reduced earlier. Eliminated? Hard to know, to be honest, because we have little to no evidence and a heck of a lot of assumption and hear-say. Show compliance early, you probably can get by with reluctance later. Show non-compliance early, and you've already done a no-no.

malthaussen

(17,183 posts)
76. The situations are not strictly comparable.
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 06:07 PM
Jul 2016

An execution is an act of will, an accident usually the result of bad judgement, miscalculation, or incapacity by at least one party.

If you want to contend that it is wisdom not to deliberately piss off the police, one could hardly argue with you. If, however, you want to contend that that wisdom sufficiently addresses the question of police using excessive and unnecessary force, up to and including lethal force, then I think you are in error. And I submit that it is not particularly insightful to advise people to tread carefully around the police -- I'd go further, and suggest that it is particularly distressing that one should have to tread carefully around the police, but as you say, we live in a less than perfect world. Much less. -- that in fact a good few of recent shooting victims have been well aware of the necessity of treading carefully around the police, and have made good faith efforts to do do. They aren't cretins, after all.

When less than three seconds expires between "put down the weapon" and the money shot, all the compliance in the world is not going to keep one from becoming a corpse. And who is held accountable for this? That is the question that goes unaddressed in the majority of these cases, when no spurious blame can be attached to the victim of police over-zealousness. And the question of accountability, I suggest, is far more important than whether this or that victim complied with the officer's instructions in a timely manner. Failure to comply is, after all, no worse than disorderly conduct, which should hardly be a capital offense. Goodness, voluntary manslaughter isn't even a capital offense, although when it is committed by officers it is apparently no offense at all. But there, when we speak of the justice system we are once again in an imperfect world.

By the way, when you were in those accidents, did you apply to insurance companies and/or the courts for redress? Or did you just grin and bear it and write it off to an imperfect world?

-- Mal

 

mythology

(9,527 posts)
78. No rule is perfect or foolproof
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 06:22 PM
Jul 2016

I can look right and left before crossing the street, but if somebody drops a piano out the window it won't save me.

It's very unnuanced thinking to assume that because some cop might decide to randomly shoot a black guy it is the same as a cop having grown up in our society having a sub-conscious bias that might lead them to mistakenly think a wallet is a gun and thus there is nothing anybody can do other than just hope they don't get shot by a cop.

https://researchnews.osu.edu/archive/gunbias.htm

http://www.motherjones.com/mojo/2014/08/michael-brown-study-racial-bias-weapon

Yes we should obviously work as a society to do away with that bias. But that won't happen tomorrow, it wouldn't happen if you replaced every current cop with somebody who can watch a video in slow motion, knowing the outcome and swear left right and sideways that it was obviously a wallet. Multiple studies have shown this bias. That is the reality of the world we live in. Accounting for that bias may not save your life, not accounting for it may not cost you your life. But sort of like wearing a seat belt, can increase your odds if you get hit by a drunk driver through no fault of your own, making sure you spell it out slowly for the cop what you're doing can help increase the odds they won't think you're doing something you aren't.

It's also silly to pretend that only black men get shot by cops. Yes black men are highly disproportionately the victim, but only about a 1 out of 3 people killed by cops are black. Yes that's clearly a higher proportion than their percentage of the population would suggest, but it still means that 2 out of 3 people killed by cops aren't black.

If we follow your suggestion, then I shouldn't wear a bike helmet, I shouldn't wear a seat belt, I shouldn't do all sorts of things because they aren't 100% perfect.

malthaussen

(17,183 posts)
84. Which suggestion was that?
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 06:43 PM
Jul 2016

I made no suggestion in the post to which you are replying. I think you may be making an inference, and perhaps that inference leads to some misunderstanding.

I do not contend that one should not be circumspect in one's conduct with the police because such circumspection is not a guarantee of survival. I do contend that advising circumspection fails to address the larger issue, and is in fact frivolous because most people already know not to antagonize the police. Why this reluctance to admit that the police have a responsibility to be circumspect with the public?

As to statistics, I make no suggestion that "only black men get shot by the cops," and I don't see how you draw the inference that I do. As to the specific incident I do cite, I can immediately bring to mind two cases where black individuals were killed for holding a toy pistol while a white one was not. But that is a small sample pool, and irrelevant. It is also irrelevant to show statistics that demonstrate that more non-blacks are killed by police than blacks. The risk of being shot is, by your own admission, much higher for blacks than non-blacks, and that itself rather ignores the question of whether the police have any business shooting the individual in question to begin with. I'm not sure, exactly, what point you're trying to prove with the data, but it would seem not to support any contention that blacks are not more at risk of being shot by police than non-blacks.

-- Mal

loyalsister

(13,390 posts)
27. Also
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:06 PM
Jul 2016

There should be more collective outrage that parents feel obligated to give such advice, let alone for white people to believe better behaved blacks is a solution. No one should ever have to be told that being afraid of cops is essential to their safety.

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
36. Soon as the shooting of unarmed black people stop
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 03:22 PM
Jul 2016

And when the good cops start condemning the bad ones, and when the bad cops get jail time.

Then I'll stop.

 

oberliner

(58,724 posts)
68. Understood
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 05:19 PM
Jul 2016

Without question, there is a huge problem with racism among policing that needs to be addressed. I just wish there was a way to do so without painting all police officers with a broad brush.

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
94. There are good officers but as long as they provide cover
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 11:13 PM
Jul 2016

For the assholes, they act like the mafia. That is unacceptable for public employees.

zentrum

(9,865 posts)
57. I think the phrase "be extra careful"
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 04:08 PM
Jul 2016

….is code for "be extra deferential" to all authority. And it's really disturbing that not enough White people are crying foul about that whole assumption on every level.

The fact is that when the police ask for ID just because they can, you have the Constitutional Right to refuse to volunteer your name, ID or license—unless there is "reasonable suspicion" that you were doing something illegal.

Police are not allowed to ask you "for your papers" unless they gave a good basis for doing so.

The terrible truth is that a White person has great latitude in exercising their Constitutional Rights and being protected by them. A Back person who dares the same immediately risks their life.

I see the entire idea of anyone being extra compliant and humble around police authority to be a sign that we're becoming supine about a too strong state—a National Security State.

But I, as a White person, for the most part can expect to live to have the luxury of challenging the violation of these rights in court. A Black person may not survive.

Meantime, though it may be wise and even essential to be "extra careful" as a Black person around State bullies——White people need to realize that to say be "extra careful", is at base, a recommendation to be ready to accept lesser rights of American citizenship.

JustinL

(722 posts)
73. in what case?
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 05:32 PM
Jul 2016

In Brown v Texas, 443 U. S. 47 (1979), the Court unaminously ruled to the contrary. From the syllabus:

Held: The application of the Texas statute to detain appellant and require him to identify himself violated the Fourth Amendment because the officers lacked any reasonable suspicion to believe that appellant was engaged or had engaged in criminal conduct. Detaining appellant to require him to identify himself constituted a seizure of his person subject to the requirement of the Fourth Amendment that the seizure be "reasonable." Cf. Terry v. Ohio, 392 U. S. 1; United States v. Brignoni-Ponce, 422 U. S. 873. The Fourth Amendment requires that such a seizure be based on specific, objective facts indicating that society's legitimate interests require such action, or that the seizure be carried out pursuant to a plan embodying explicit, neutral limitations on the conduct of individual officers. Delaware v. Prouse, 440 U. S. 648. Here, the State does not contend that appellant was stopped pursuant to a practice embodying neutral criteria, and the officers' actions were not justified on the ground that they had a reasonable suspicion, based on objective facts, that he was involved in criminal activity. Absent any basis for suspecting appellant of misconduct, the balance between the public interest in crime prevention and appellant's right to personal security and privacy tilts in favor of freedom from police interference.


From pp. 51-53:

The flaw in the State's case is that none of the circumstances preceding the officers' detention of appellant justified a reasonable suspicion that he was involved in criminal conduct. Officer Venegas testified at appellant's trial that the situation in the alley "looked suspicious," but he was unable to point to any facts supporting that conclusion. There is no indication in the record that it was unusual for people to be in the alley. The fact that appellant was in a neighborhood frequented by drug users, standing alone, is not a basis for concluding that appellant himself was engaged in criminal conduct. In short, the appellant's activity was no different from the activity of other pedestrians in that neighborhood. When pressed, Officer Venegas acknowledged that the only reason he stopped appellant was to ascertain his identity. The record suggests an understandable desire to assert a police presence; however, that purpose does not negate Fourth Amendment guarantees.

In the absence of any basis for suspecting appellant of misconduct, the balance between the public interest and appellant's right to personal security and privacy tilts in favor of freedom from police interference. The Texas statute under which appellant was stopped and required to identify himself is designed to advance a weighty social objective in large metropolitan centers: prevention of crime. But even assuming that purpose is served to some degree by stopping and demanding identification from an individual without any specific basis for believing he is involved in criminal activity, the guarantees of the Fourth Amendment do not allow it. When such a stop is not based on objective criteria, the risk of arbitrary and abusive police practices exceeds tolerable limits. See Delaware v. Prouse, supra, at 440 U. S. 661.

The application of Tex.Penal Code Ann., Tit. 8, § 38.02 (1974), to detain appellant and require him to identify himself violated the Fourth Amendment because the officers lacked any reasonable suspicion to believe appellant was engaged or had engaged in criminal conduct. Accordingly, appellant may not be punished for refusing to identify himself, and the conviction is

Reversed.
 

awoke_in_2003

(34,582 posts)
83. I got this from a quick search
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 06:38 PM
Jul 2016

I don't know if it has since been overturned. I don't know the veracity of the website, but this is what I remember.

https://mediamousearchive.wordpress.com/2004/06/22/supreme-court-p/

JustinL

(722 posts)
86. that ruling was pretty bad, but it doesn't quite say that police can demand ID for no reason
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 09:24 PM
Jul 2016

Essentially, the Court ruled that you can be punished for refusing to give your name to an officer when the officer has stopped you based on "reasonable suspicion" that you "may be involved in criminal activity." The Nevada law in question only required the suspect to give their name; they weren't required to provide any documentation.

In the worst part of the opinion the Court ruled that, even though suspicion of criminal activity was the basis of the stop, you can't claim the privilege against self-incrimination when the officer demands your name.

The good news is that the decision was only 5-4 and could be overturned if Hillary is able to appoint at least one pro-4th and 5th Amendment liberal to the Court.

Here's a link to the case:

http://caselaw.findlaw.com/us-supreme-court/542/177.html

 

TeddyR

(2,493 posts)
58. Cops shoot all sorts of people
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 04:22 PM
Jul 2016

Many of whom are dangerous criminals who were shot for being dangerous criminals, and their race was irrelevant. In a few instances cops have shot unarmed people, white and black. Cops also have probably tens of thousands of interactions with civilians each day in which nobody is shot.

 

TeddyR

(2,493 posts)
85. I guess that
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 07:19 PM
Jul 2016

Cops usually shoot people for a valid reason. The Washington Post had a story last year that the vast majority of police shootings involved a criminal who was armed or threatening harm. There are of course racist or corrupt cops but the vast majority aren't.

Response to TeddyR (Reply #58)

etherealtruth

(22,165 posts)
77. I wrote a long reply and decided not to post it ....
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 06:12 PM
Jul 2016

Every time I had the post open it seemed to hurt my dog's ears

Texasgal

(17,042 posts)
89. Your posts seems to only
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 10:12 PM
Jul 2016

focus on police brutality with black people. They are not the only minority that gets abused by the police.

More Mexican ethnic get killed here than any other minority in many states including mine. Wonder what NY stats are?

The focus should be the police and how they handle themselves, we need to hold the departments accountable.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
90. Please do not take any posts by people telling you you should not say what you are saying seriously
Sat Jul 9, 2016, 10:48 PM
Jul 2016

I remember specifically being told that I couldn't speak for ALL black people on racism because I was a 'wealthy Ivy League establishment black'. It was weird since I'm broke and go to state uni and they were actual white ivy league folks, so I take that kinda stuff with a grain of salt.

You know you must be right when folks start acting out of pocket and get to playing pretend.

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