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kimbutgar

(20,882 posts)
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:03 PM May 2016

My Mother passed away this afternoon

She was almost 94 in failing health. 3 weeks ago she was in the hospital with a bladder infection that went septic and her kidneys shut down. Her wonderful caregivers massaged her kidneys and basically were her nurses at the hospital. She was in the hospital for 6 days and I had her brought home under hospice. She seemed happy coming home and was eating baby food. Last night she refused food. Today, Her caregiver called me and told me I should come to her house. When I saw her I knew she was going to leave me. I held her hand and told her I loved her and it was ok if she moved on. About 45 minutes later she passed while I was holding her hand. It was such a peaceful spiritual moment. Since 2008 I was taking care of her financial affairs and had excellent caregivers living with her who became my family also. They treated my Mom like she was their baby and mother. Her years with them were happy. Up until May 1st we all went out for lunch which was sadly her last outing. After she passed they cleaned her up. Put on a clean change of clothes, put on her blue eyeshadow, lipstick and traced her eyebrows. She looked so beautiful. It wasn't until the mortuary came and took her that we all lost it. Yesterday was my 27th wedding anniversary and I feel somehow my mom hung on so I wouldn't associate her death the same day.

But the really strange thing was when I got the call, I left my house immediately about 4 blocks from my house I saw a car parked on the street that was the same car my parents had when my Dad passed. I made my mother sell it because it was a big car and wanted her to drive a smaller one. At that moment. I knew then I was going to lose my Mother. My Dad's car was coming for her I thought at that moment. My Mother is at peace tonight. She lived a good life and traveled the world. She was a gadfly fasihionista woman with a sparkling personality. And I was proud she was my Mother.

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My Mother passed away this afternoon (Original Post) kimbutgar May 2016 OP
I am so sorry for your loss. Silver_Witch May 2016 #1
Hugs. Coventina May 2016 #2
How wonderful you were there to share her passing, as she was there when you came to be. CurtEastPoint May 2016 #3
Sorry for your loss. notadmblnd May 2016 #4
My condolences, and happy for such a beautiful passing. SusanCalvin May 2016 #5
My sincere condolences 2naSalit May 2016 #6
So sorry for your loss. joshcryer May 2016 #7
.. Liberal_in_LA May 2016 #8
I am so very sorry for your loss. sheshe2 May 2016 #9
I'm so sorry TexasBushwhacker May 2016 #10
Very sorry for your loss but thank you for sharing such a touching story. Kaleva May 2016 #11
Sorry for your loss bkkyosemite May 2016 #12
... notemason May 2016 #13
What a beautiful tribute to your Mother, my dear kimbutgar... CaliforniaPeggy May 2016 #14
Condolences to you.... villager May 2016 #15
My deepest sympathies. RandySF May 2016 #16
hugs and prayers oldandhappy May 2016 #17
Wishing you peace Danmel May 2016 #18
Theres nothing better than to know she touched others retrowire May 2016 #19
Your mom sounds wonderful. Take care. Hoyt May 2016 #20
I'm so sorry for your loss! Texasgal May 2016 #21
Please accept my deepest condolences. MarianJack May 2016 #22
I am sorry for your loss ... NanceGreggs May 2016 #23
My condolences to you also. kimbutgar May 2016 #27
Thank you so much. NanceGreggs May 2016 #42
. . . Laffy Kat May 2016 #24
Thank you for sharing that tom_kelly May 2016 #25
I am so very sorry for the loss of your mother, kimbutgar MissDeeds May 2016 #26
Neat experience, MissDeeds tom_kelly May 2016 #34
What a sweet story, tom_kelly MissDeeds May 2016 #46
This story brought me comfort spiritually. kimbutgar May 2016 #54
I'm so very sorry. TDale313 May 2016 #28
My sincerest condolences, and babylonsister May 2016 #29
I am so sorry for your loss. She sounds like a wonderful person your mom still_one May 2016 #30
I am sorry to hear your sad news Rosa Luxemburg May 2016 #31
Condolences from a stranger rjsquirrel May 2016 #32
So glad for you and her that her passing was peaceful. cry baby May 2016 #33
I am so sorry for your loss. Triana May 2016 #35
Thank you for your kind words. kimbutgar May 2016 #55
I am so sorry, dflprincess May 2016 #36
My deepest condolences. I just lost my mother a month ago and I'm there with you. Zynx May 2016 #37
So sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace in your memories of her. Fla Dem May 2016 #105
So sorry for your loss. mac56 May 2016 #38
You have great courage, and you'll be forever thankful for... Bodych May 2016 #39
... allan01 May 2016 #40
May her memory be eternal! k8conant May 2016 #41
Peace shenmue May 2016 #43
My deepest sympathy and a hope you can find comfort in her passing riderinthestorm May 2016 #44
My mom passed away on May 1st of the exact same cause at the age of 98. Boomerproud May 2016 #45
Condolences on the loss of your dear mother. gademocrat7 May 2016 #47
Awwwww healthnut7 May 2016 #48
Thank you for sharing this awesome journey. peace13 May 2016 #49
*Hug* DianaForRussFeingold May 2016 #50
I'm so sorry! Odin2005 May 2016 #51
Condolences to you and family and her caregivers Person 2713 May 2016 #52
( ) Jack Rabbit May 2016 #53
Thanks flamingdem May 2016 #56
My Condolences pmorlan1 May 2016 #57
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this. apcalc May 2016 #58
I'm sorry for your loss Peachhead22 May 2016 #59
Thank you for this remembrance of love that only a mother can offer. And you are so FailureToCommunicate May 2016 #60
So sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and cynzke May 2016 #61
Hugs to the kimbutgar family. Tikki May 2016 #62
What a beautiful tribute to your mother you have written. May you take comfort in the memories you skylucy May 2016 #63
Condolences to you and your family Dems to Win May 2016 #64
Thank you for sharing this amazing journey glinda May 2016 #65
My condolences to you and your family. Frustratedlady May 2016 #66
Wow! C Moon May 2016 #128
My condolences Denis 11 May 2016 #67
Hugs nadinbrzezinski May 2016 #68
So sorry for your loss ReRe May 2016 #69
It sounds like your mother lived a LibDemAlways May 2016 #70
My condolences. 840high May 2016 #71
Deepest sympathy. blue neen May 2016 #72
I know your Mother knew how much you loved her passiveporcupine May 2016 #73
My mom passed away March 9th. ginnyinWI May 2016 #74
I've been so involved in her care and managing her finances it was something I just did kimbutgar May 2016 #90
Thank you for sharing your story! BadGimp May 2016 #75
:-( spanone May 2016 #76
Thank you and peaceful rest to your mother. ucrdem May 2016 #77
So sorry for your loss. Hugs to you! AgadorSparticus May 2016 #78
May your mother rest forever in peace, content in the knowledge that she was loved. No Vested Interest May 2016 #79
So sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing your story dem in texas May 2016 #80
So sorry for your loss, kimbutgar. (((hugs))) sueh May 2016 #81
So sorry Kimbutgar Bayard May 2016 #82
So sorry for your loss. NEOhiodemocrat May 2016 #83
My condolences Shoonra May 2016 #84
I wish you peace. all the synchronicity you saw and felt were real and for you roguevalley May 2016 #85
That is a beautiful tribute to your mother and your pride in her and love for her... ChisolmTrailDem May 2016 #86
Hugs Boldine May 2016 #87
My mother died two years ago today REP May 2016 #88
Condolences Albertoo May 2016 #89
Thank you all kind people at DU for your comforting words kimbutgar May 2016 #91
Sincere condolences MFM008 May 2016 #92
God bless you and your dear Mother. There is nothing more difficult than losing a beloved parent. BigBearJohn May 2016 #93
I'm so sorry. area51 May 2016 #94
Sorry for your loss ashling May 2016 #95
Sorry for your loss. SamKnause May 2016 #96
Sorry for your loss, and it sounds like you did an amazing job for her for the past 8 years... Ghost in the Machine May 2016 #97
it sounds like a bittersweet experience, but with more sweet than bitter renate May 2016 #98
I am so very sorry... Rhiannon12866 May 2016 #99
I'm so sorry about your Mom. TrollBuster9090 May 2016 #100
I'm sorry for your loss, kimbutgar. mia May 2016 #101
My Dad's car was coming for her malaise May 2016 #102
This gave me goosebumps... What a beautiful tribute!!! secondwind May 2016 #103
I am very sorry your Mom has passed on, but also happy for you for all the wonderful years Fla Dem May 2016 #104
A lovely tribute---condolences panader0 May 2016 #106
Courage and condolences, kim. You are her living legacy. Be proud. Surya Gayatri May 2016 #107
I'm so sorry for your loss. MerryBlooms May 2016 #108
Prayers benld74 May 2016 #109
So sorry tavernier May 2016 #110
. stonecutter357 May 2016 #111
I'm so sorry for your loss... whathehell May 2016 #112
Your Mom... Dont call me Shirley May 2016 #113
I'm so very sorry for the loss of your mother. phylny May 2016 #114
My sincerest condolences. Maraya1969 May 2016 #115
I'm so sorry kimbutgar. polly7 May 2016 #116
I'm sorry, but I am very glad you were able to be there at the end Yo_Mama May 2016 #117
Peace to you and your family Lifelong Protester May 2016 #118
My mother died peacefully at home too lunatica May 2016 #119
I am so sorry for your loss. Loryn May 2016 #120
Love, Peace and Prayers from All of Us... kadaholo May 2016 #121
I'm sorry for your loss... lunamagica May 2016 #122
My sincerest condolences, kimbutgar. SalmonChantedEvening May 2016 #123
I'm sorry, kimbutgar ... pacalo May 2016 #124
Very sorry for your loss. Different Drummer May 2016 #125
Peace to you and your loved ones (n/t) PJMcK May 2016 #126
Thoughts and prayers for her, you and your family. imanamerican63 May 2016 #127
My heart goes out to you. rury May 2016 #129
Such a wonderful life. Hulk May 2016 #130
May your memories stay strong sellitman May 2016 #131
My condolences AwakeAtLast May 2016 #132
My comdolences as well. roamer65 May 2016 #133
So sorry for your loss kimbutgar cal04 May 2016 #134
 

Silver_Witch

(1,820 posts)
1. I am so sorry for your loss.
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:05 PM
May 2016

I rejoice that you had such a wonderful mother and shared such a long time with her. You are a lucky one indeed.

CurtEastPoint

(18,552 posts)
3. How wonderful you were there to share her passing, as she was there when you came to be.
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:06 PM
May 2016

I held my Dad's hand when he went. I'll never forget it. Much love to you.

SusanCalvin

(6,592 posts)
5. My condolences, and happy for such a beautiful passing.
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:07 PM
May 2016

I'm happy you shared your memories of such a great person.

2naSalit

(86,061 posts)
6. My sincere condolences
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:08 PM
May 2016

I am thankful it was peaceful and that you were prepared for this transition.

Peace to you and yours.

sheshe2

(83,355 posts)
9. I am so very sorry for your loss.
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:10 PM
May 2016

May your mom rest in peace.

I agree, bless the caregivers. They know when it's time and make the call so we can be with them as they pass.

TexasBushwhacker

(20,044 posts)
10. I'm so sorry
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:11 PM
May 2016

I lost my mother in 2004 and I still miss her. She shows up in my dreams though. Your will too.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,308 posts)
14. What a beautiful tribute to your Mother, my dear kimbutgar...
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:12 PM
May 2016

It's a tough loss. My condolences to you...

You both were lucky to have each other, and for so many years...

May she rest in peace.

 

villager

(26,001 posts)
15. Condolences to you....
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:12 PM
May 2016

... and congrats on the anniversary, at the same time.

It sounds like it went as well as a passing can go....

Be well.

RandySF

(57,661 posts)
16. My deepest sympathies.
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:13 PM
May 2016

It's a void that's never filled. Bit with time, you'll smile more than cry when you think of her.

retrowire

(10,345 posts)
19. Theres nothing better than to know she touched others
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:16 PM
May 2016

And left an everlasting mark on your life and others.

You have my condolences and she has my thanks.

Texasgal

(17,029 posts)
21. I'm so sorry for your loss!
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:17 PM
May 2016

What a beautiful story though! Sounds like she lived a beautiful long life. For you to have the blessing of being there till the end is amazing!

Hugs and blessings to you and your family! *hugs*

MarianJack

(10,237 posts)
22. Please accept my deepest condolences.
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:19 PM
May 2016

This July 19 will be 10 years since my mom passed on. June 5 will be 16 years for my father in law. You always love them but will always feel their absence. Peace to you and your family!

PEACE!

NanceGreggs

(27,813 posts)
23. I am sorry for your loss ...
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:20 PM
May 2016

... but uplifted by your lovely tribute to your mom.

Today marks the one-year anniversary of my husband's passing - and so it has been a difficult day. But reading this, I am reminded of all of those who remembered him as fondly as you now remember your mother.

My thoughts are with you and yours, and all who will remember your mother as the vibrant soul she obviously was in life.

kimbutgar

(20,882 posts)
27. My condolences to you also.
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:26 PM
May 2016

I'm in shock and feeling peaceful at the same time.

Writing about this has been cathartic and surreal but comforting.

NanceGreggs

(27,813 posts)
42. Thank you so much.
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:55 PM
May 2016

I know what you mean by feeling shock and peacefulness at the same time. It is a strange sensation - and yet a very human response.

We are always shocked to lose a loved one - and yet there is a certain serenity that comes with knowing how their lives had such a positive impact on those of us who loved them.

tom_kelly

(951 posts)
25. Thank you for sharing that
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:24 PM
May 2016

Such a fine tribute to your Mother. You sound like a very spiritual soul and surely made Mother proud.

 

MissDeeds

(7,499 posts)
26. I am so very sorry for the loss of your mother, kimbutgar
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:24 PM
May 2016

It was fortunate you were able to be with her, and I'm sure that gave her great comfort.

My mom passed away in October of 2014, and although we had a difficult relationship, I loved her and miss her every day.

Like you, I had a strange occurrence around the time of my mom's death. The phone rang in the middle of the night soon after she passed, and the caller ID displayed her name and phone number. It was chilling, and I was unable to bring myself to answer the phone. It was not possible that anyone was calling from her home as she had been in a nursing home for three years and no one had a key to her house but me.

Not sure what to make of it. I'd like to think there are comforting messages from beyond.

Wishing you peace and fond memories in the days to come.



tom_kelly

(951 posts)
34. Neat experience, MissDeeds
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:39 PM
May 2016

Before my mother died in 2005 I asked her to send me a sign that she was fine. She asked what I would like so I said "put a flower somewhere that it would normally not be, and therefore would be obvious that it was a sign from you." About a year after she passed I was taking care of a flower bed in front of the house for my father. I had pulled all the flowers in order to plant new ones and sprayed the bed with round-up. My intention was to let it sit for a few weeks for the round-up to wear off (I don't use round-up any longer). I came back to visit my father in a week and to my amazement there was a full grown array of marigolds in the middle of the bed - the rest of the bed was bare of anything. I went in and told my father the story which he didn't believe. I took pictures and sent them to all my brothers and sisters and most of them were thrilled. Anyway, when I came over to plant the new flowers my father was sitting in a lawn chair staring at the marigold. I planted all the flowers around the marigold.

babylonsister

(170,963 posts)
29. My sincerest condolences, and
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:27 PM
May 2016

I just bet your mom would have loved this tribute and all the care you bestowed on her through the years. You'll always be a good daughter.

cry baby

(6,682 posts)
33. So glad for you and her that her passing was peaceful.
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:38 PM
May 2016

My heartfelt condolences to you and all that loved her.

 

Triana

(22,666 posts)
35. I am so sorry for your loss.
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:40 PM
May 2016


I'm glad though, that her last days were happy, and that she was well-cared for and loved and that she went peacefully and was not alone. That is not the case for so many people - she was very lucky in that regard.

She'll live in your heart forever now.

Take care of yourself. I hope that you are able to be at peace and I wish you and your family strength at this difficult time.

dflprincess

(28,057 posts)
36. I am so sorry,
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:40 PM
May 2016

no matter how old they are or we are we're never ready for our mothers to go

Mine died 4 years ago today so I have an idea of how you're feeling.

Bodych

(133 posts)
39. You have great courage, and you'll be forever thankful for...
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:48 PM
May 2016

...being there when she passed. Trust me on this one: The horrible memories of this period will pass, but you'll always remember being there for her and there will be a strong sense of peace and contentment. This was an important decision on your part.

You also did the right thing having a caregiver/hospice. Hospice can be a horribly traumatic experience for those who think they can be caregivers. She knew she was going to die, and YES, she was happy to be home. She likely lingered for a reason, and that reason sounds like it was exactly what you thought.

It is not uncommon to sense "strange" things like you did, to see signs. They may continue for awhile longer, and there is nothing strange about them at all.

Your mom sounded like a wonderful person. She also sounded like a terrific mother because she raised you so well.

Boomerproud

(7,889 posts)
45. My mom passed away on May 1st of the exact same cause at the age of 98.
Sat May 21, 2016, 11:01 PM
May 2016

My sympathy to you and it sounds like you are at peace, like she is. For your mom and mine.

pmorlan1

(2,096 posts)
57. My Condolences
Sat May 21, 2016, 11:36 PM
May 2016

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. I've lost both my parents so I know how tough this is for you.

FailureToCommunicate

(13,989 posts)
60. Thank you for this remembrance of love that only a mother can offer. And you are so
Sat May 21, 2016, 11:43 PM
May 2016

right about the saints that assist us near the end with caring for our loved one...they feel like family.

May you get some rest now...

cynzke

(1,254 posts)
61. So sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and
Sat May 21, 2016, 11:44 PM
May 2016

your family but you can take comfort in knowing her last years and months were relatively happy and peaceful, surrounded with people who loved and cared for her. And most importantly, she could pass on in peace with her child at her side. Could any one asked for a more comforting passing?

skylucy

(3,734 posts)
63. What a beautiful tribute to your mother you have written. May you take comfort in the memories you
Sun May 22, 2016, 12:03 AM
May 2016

have of her. I am sure she was very proud of you. God Bless.

glinda

(14,807 posts)
65. Thank you for sharing this amazing journey
Sun May 22, 2016, 12:26 AM
May 2016

with us and story. How fortunate you were to be there when she passed and what a gift to feel your father's presence also. That vision was their gift to you. Take that only as love.......biggest cyber hug ever.

Frustratedlady

(16,254 posts)
66. My condolences to you and your family.
Sun May 22, 2016, 12:29 AM
May 2016

I'm not surprised about the car and your father being nearby. Before my husband died, he spoke of all the people who were floating and sailing..."just everybody" he said in amazement as he looked back and forth across the window. He passed later that evening. I've never felt he really left.

May wonderful memories help you through this difficult time.

ReRe

(10,597 posts)
69. So sorry for your loss
Sun May 22, 2016, 12:33 AM
May 2016

I wish you and your family strength as you pass through this mournful period. I lost my own Mother 9 years ago. Like someone else mentioned in this thread, I dream of her often. And you will too.
Peace.

LibDemAlways

(15,139 posts)
70. It sounds like your mother lived a
Sun May 22, 2016, 12:38 AM
May 2016

very full life. I hope wonderful memories sustain you and bring you peace at this difficult time.

passiveporcupine

(8,175 posts)
73. I know your Mother knew how much you loved her
Sun May 22, 2016, 12:48 AM
May 2016

And you brought much joy to her life. 94 is a good long life.

I'm glad you had this time with her in hospice to say goodbye. To prepare for it.

Please accept my most sincere condolences.

Rest Peacefully Mother

ginnyinWI

(17,276 posts)
74. My mom passed away March 9th.
Sun May 22, 2016, 12:50 AM
May 2016

I had been quite involved in her care, managing her finances (she had memory loss), taking her to doctor appointments and everything, even though she was also in assisted living. She went to hospice and lasted just four more days and passed away due to congestive heart failure at age 86.

As executor I have kept on managing Mom's stuff so have been almost as busy. But it is slowing down and I'm starting to feel the loss more now. My role as daughter-caregiver is over, and I will miss our times together. Since she passed away I catch myself thinking that I really must get over to see her, or call her, or tell her something that's happened in the family, or whatever I used to talk to her about. I would love to have another afternoon to talk to her and have a nice visit. We had those nice times though--usually when she was in the hospital and they'd fixed her symptoms up as much as they could so that she was in the best shape possible. Then she'd be released and go back down again in only weeks.

We thought she had a little more time, but she went into a steep decline the last two or three months. You keep thinking you can fix this thing too, but you have to finally let go.

I wish I had realized how little time she had left because I would have done a few things differently. But I have to keep telling myself that I did what I knew best to do at the time.

Spring was her favorite season. I'm smelling all the lilacs and tulips for her, because she'd have loved them, and appreciating the bird and frogs and everything. But then, she did have 86 Springs and that's pretty good for any one life.,

kimbutgar

(20,882 posts)
90. I've been so involved in her care and managing her finances it was something I just did
Sun May 22, 2016, 02:12 AM
May 2016

I took it for granted it was my job and duty.

ucrdem

(15,512 posts)
77. Thank you and peaceful rest to your mother.
Sun May 22, 2016, 01:00 AM
May 2016

When my mom passed away a couple of years ago I was out of the country and some really remarkable coincidences occurred that day and the next.



No Vested Interest

(5,157 posts)
79. May your mother rest forever in peace, content in the knowledge that she was loved.
Sun May 22, 2016, 01:02 AM
May 2016

Your consolation is knowing that you assured that she had good care, and that you were with her at the end.
Continue in the pride you feel that she was your Mother.

dem in texas

(2,672 posts)
80. So sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing your story
Sun May 22, 2016, 01:06 AM
May 2016

sounds like she was quite a lady and well loved and cared fir by all. Your father was coming in his big car to get her, what a sweet mystical memory for you.

Bayard

(21,806 posts)
82. So sorry Kimbutgar
Sun May 22, 2016, 01:24 AM
May 2016

But also glad to hear you loved and honored her. You were both so fortunate in your relationship.

Take care of yourself.

Shoonra

(518 posts)
84. My condolences
Sun May 22, 2016, 01:36 AM
May 2016

Losing a parent, especially the second parent, is a terrible blow. Nothing I say will heal the pain, but your children got to know their grandma and that's a big thing.

I didn't marry until after losing both my parents, and my wife lost her father. My mother-in-law actually believed she saw her husband at our wedding, beaming with pride -- evidence that she (and presumably he) approved of me. A year later she was dying of multiple causes but amazingly hung on until the day after our first anniversary.

roguevalley

(40,656 posts)
85. I wish you peace. all the synchronicity you saw and felt were real and for you
Sun May 22, 2016, 01:46 AM
May 2016

I felt holding mom and dad's hand when they left that I had done it 100's of times and I do believe it. I had a near death experience and the passing is painless and swift. Your dad was there for her. Take care and know we love you.

 

ChisolmTrailDem

(9,463 posts)
86. That is a beautiful tribute to your mother and your pride in her and love for her...
Sun May 22, 2016, 01:50 AM
May 2016

...shine through in your words here. I didn't know her, of course, but you made me care...I held my mother's hand as she passed away just 1 1/2 years ago, after watching my Dad give the order to disconnect life support when all hope was lost. My mom and I were separated by a thousand miles when she suddenly collapsed and never regained consciousness. I'm so glad you got to say goodbye.

Please accept my sincere condolences and hopes that you and your family and those who loved your mom find comfort in the memories she left with you.

REP

(21,691 posts)
88. My mother died two years ago today
Sun May 22, 2016, 01:55 AM
May 2016

I'm not sure if I really believe it yet, despite everything.

My sympathies to you and your family.

kimbutgar

(20,882 posts)
91. Thank you all kind people at DU for your comforting words
Sun May 22, 2016, 02:18 AM
May 2016

i had these emotions in me and they spilled out. My hubby has been comforting but the community at DU have also been awesome!

Ghost in the Machine

(14,912 posts)
97. Sorry for your loss, and it sounds like you did an amazing job for her for the past 8 years...
Sun May 22, 2016, 04:13 AM
May 2016

She left this world surrounded by loved ones and had a peaceful passing. I hope you and your family find peace, and healing, in your hearts....

Ghost

renate

(13,776 posts)
98. it sounds like a bittersweet experience, but with more sweet than bitter
Sun May 22, 2016, 04:51 AM
May 2016

I am so happy that she was surrounded by so much caring and so much love. I hope the love that was given to her gives you some comfort as your mourn your loss.

Rhiannon12866

(203,033 posts)
99. I am so very sorry...
Sun May 22, 2016, 05:07 AM
May 2016

I lost my mother four years ago to an accident and I think about her every day. This has to be one of life's toughest losses. Your post was heartwarming and a wonderful tribute. Your mother would be very proud. She was also very fortunate to have had you...

malaise

(267,823 posts)
102. My Dad's car was coming for her
Sun May 22, 2016, 06:30 AM
May 2016

How beautifully stated. Deepest sympathy to you and yours - she had a long life and was clearly loved.

Fla Dem

(23,352 posts)
104. I am very sorry your Mom has passed on, but also happy for you for all the wonderful years
Sun May 22, 2016, 09:06 AM
May 2016

you had her in your life. My Mom passed when I was 26. There are so many days and events I wish I had just a few more years with her. Peace and love to you and your family.

polly7

(20,582 posts)
116. I'm so sorry kimbutgar.
Sun May 22, 2016, 11:55 AM
May 2016

What a beautiful tribute to your beloved Mom. I'm so glad she had such wonderful care in her last years. Peace and strength to you and yours. May your Mom R.I.P.

Yo_Mama

(8,303 posts)
117. I'm sorry, but I am very glad you were able to be there at the end
Sun May 22, 2016, 11:58 AM
May 2016

It has to be a comfort to you - knowing that you saw her through.

I hope your memories of her become ever sweeter and clearer as the grief becomes less acute.

kadaholo

(304 posts)
121. Love, Peace and Prayers from All of Us...
Sun May 22, 2016, 01:18 PM
May 2016

"We bereaved are not alone. We belong to the largest company in all the world—the company of those who have known suffering."
—Helen Keller

SalmonChantedEvening

(31,947 posts)
123. My sincerest condolences, kimbutgar.
Sun May 22, 2016, 02:30 PM
May 2016

May your love for her, and a lifetime of memories, keep your heart strong in the days ahead.

rury

(1,021 posts)
129. My heart goes out to you.
Sun May 22, 2016, 07:07 PM
May 2016

I know from experience that losing parents is painful no matter whether you're six or sixty.
Hugs and comfort to you.

 

Hulk

(6,699 posts)
130. Such a wonderful life.
Sun May 22, 2016, 07:31 PM
May 2016

Your story was a warm pleasure to read. The loss is painful, but the knowledge that your mother lived such a wonderful life and had love and care to guide her through to the next life must be cherished. You and your mother were blessed.
It's a part of everyone's life that death awaits us all. I hope when my day comes I can be holding my loved one's hand and have them near to wish me farewell.
RIP

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