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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsMy crazy first LEGAL gay anniversary.
This day, a year ago, my partner and I were allowed to legally marry in the State of Oklahoma. It has been an interesting year, but not all that different from some other years, and certainly more tame than a few years we have had together. I posted about our marriage last year, so I thought I would give people a "peek" into the wildness of a first year gay anniversary. Prepare yourself...
I had cards placed in the kitchen and den so my husband would find them when he woke up. The puppies got him up early as they often do. Of course, the raging storm helped too as my chihuahuas do not like thunderstorms. Oh yeah, he was home today because he was sick (since Saturday). Flu shot only works so well. LOL! But the real party started when I got up and went down stairs to him hacking up a lung. I was now fighting off his cold. I think I won! We exchanged pleasantries, no kissing for obvious reasons, and settled in to watch some TV. He promptly fell asleep. We woke up, watched some more TV, then I was off...to the doctor's office. After waiting for an hour, I was finally informed my biopsy was negative! YEA! No stomach cancer! They still have no fucking clue what is wrong with me, but hay, it ain't cancer so I am kvetching too much! Then back home with some KFC chicken pot pie. No since in cooking as he really couldn't eat too much and that is what he wanted. I did actually plan to make a Mustard peppercorn eye of round, but I wasn't about to put all that effort into something he couldn't eat. Guess what we are having tonight?!
The rest of the day was filled with more TV, napping, puppy potty breaks, MORE TV and napping, then it was time to put him to bed, where I had one final card. We hugged goodnight (remember, he is still sick and we got plans next week) and I put him and the four doggies in bed.
Boring, right? Well, even us gays have to take a day off from wild parties and what ever else bullshit the rightwing makes up about us. The point is my marriage is legal. Our lives didn't change profoundly with the exception of the following: I was now a spouse and could get insurance which reflected it; we could file as married on our taxes which greatly increased our refund (we got some serous cheddar back), we didn't have to worry about the home, cars, money, if, G-d forbid, something were to happen to him or me, it would go directly to the other, and, as of last June, my marriage didn't become unrecognized if we went from state to state.
What didn't change? Our love for each other; our commitment to one another; our desire to be with one another...in sickness and health!
I just had to share my happiness.
NanceGreggs
(27,814 posts)... and may what didn't change never change.
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)I hope it never changes too! I know I am one of the lucky ones.
NanceGreggs
(27,814 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)Thanks for the compliment though!
Chitown Kev
(2,197 posts)No tornados? I thought that's what we gays do best...Happy anniversary to you and many more!
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)And earthquakes and tornadoes in Oklahoma, would that really be a sign?! LOL!
redwitch
(14,944 posts)What if the quakes in OK are not from fracking but from all the gay marrying?
We should ask Ben Carson!
beam me up scottie
(57,349 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)We are just a couple of wild and crazy guys...20 years ago!
sheshe2
(83,751 posts)Behind the Aegis.
Sweet~!
PS, get well soon.
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)Fingers crossed for better health.
shenmue
(38,506 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)Always a here.
Mira
(22,380 posts)The message in it about how we are after all the same in our humanity is gently and humorously presented.
Happy Anniversary.
How time flew!
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)I brought it up last week with my husband, and didn't remember. Shocker! But, the bigger part was he couldn't believe it had been a year. He even said, "are you sure?"
Thank you for the good wishes and seeing the underlying message too!
awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)I am happy for you, and wish I could help you celebrate.
And congrats on the no cancer. You may think your day sounds boring, but the wife and I have enjoyed many lazy days like yours. One of the benefits of marriage.
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)Yeah, it was nice to hear "it's not cancer", but the downside is this has been going on for 2.5 years, thousands of dollars, and scores of tests...and nothing. Don't get me wrong, I am not complaining about not having cancer, but the situation has been problematic.
Sometimes, lazy days are the best! Oh and far as helping us celebrate...you clean houses? LOL!
awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)My wife would say "definitely not". I try, but she is borderline OCD. That's okay, though- at least I don't live in squalor.
Solly Mack
(90,764 posts)Yay! (no cancer)
Excellent!
Boring can be fun.
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)I am so glad it isn't cancer (also eliminated esophageal, and gastric disorder).
You are right, sometimes, boring can be fun! The doggies sure love it.
Yorktown
(2,884 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)Fun times!
Recursion
(56,582 posts)Very happy for you!
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)It was a nice day, despite some of the snoring.
Spitfire of ATJ
(32,723 posts)KFC chicken pot pie is EVIL!!!!
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)A sacrifice of marriage.
Spitfire of ATJ
(32,723 posts)Rex
(65,616 posts)Congrats!
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)Sometimes, better late than never will do.
Rex
(65,616 posts)Good things come to those that wait.
Demeter
(85,373 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)herding cats
(19,564 posts)It sounds perfect if you ask me. I wish you many more years of married bliss!
Also, good news on the biopsy coming back negative! That's a nice addition to a beautiful day.
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)IT was a good day all around...well, except for the snoring. That got a little much! LOL!
icymist
(15,888 posts)I would've been here sooner if it wasn't for a 16 hour power outage! (We had one of our November storms) Happy Anniversary!
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)Hey, we had some bad ass storms last night...two in fact!
(PS, I still owe you a PM...I promise I will get to it soon!)
icymist
(15,888 posts)Hekate
(90,674 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)pnwmom
(108,977 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)cui bono
(19,926 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Coincidentally enough, the 1 year anniversary is actually colloquially known as the KFC Chicken Pot Pie anniversary. Who knew?
ps. Glad your results came back clear.
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)Yeah, I was stoked the news was good, though inconclusive.
The Chicken Pot Pie anniversary. LOL! It was at our house!
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)It was fun, but probably not something I'd need to do again. I'm tall enough that I kept roasting the top of my head, and apparently you have to get up at the serious crack of ass to go hot air ballooning. "Next year we're sleeping in, honey!"
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)So what would be the point? LOL!
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)I am a bit, too, but that part was actually super relaxing. That's why you go so early in the morning- because the air is really calm. It was totally peaceful.
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)My palms actually sweat when I watch TV shows or movies where people are in dangerous, high positions. It is also one of the reasons I am afraid to fly. I even avoid high rooms in hotels if possible. I had one room on the 32nd floor in Atlanta, that had catwalks to the elevator. I had to walk facing the wall and when someone bumped into me, making me spin and face the 32-story drop, I almost passed out. I don't do heights. But, I do love tall men!
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Actually I think most of the time we were just a couple hundred feet off the ground, but... probably not something to put on the to-do list just the same.
I'm actually not that tall, unless you go by hot air balloon standards. Depressingly average, about 5'11". My dad was tall -6'3" and my son will probably be way taller than me, too, in a few years. Just skipped a generation.
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)I don't get vertigo or anything, I am just terrified.
My husband is 5'11" also, so he's not all that tall until you realize, I am only 5'7". LOL! It's all relative.
brer cat
(24,562 posts)how normal. Didn't you read the intertubes to find out how to be teh gay?
Congratulations to both of you! I hope your husband gets well soon and doesn't share any more of the cruds with you. And great news on the biopsy.
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)LOL!
I know most people here don't have wild "expectations" in regards to us, but I thought it would be funny to demonstrate just how boring we can be too.
He's finally feeling better and I beat the sickness! I almost didn't, but I won out in the end. The biopsy news was a great relief.
Adrahil
(13,340 posts)But I'll settle for you and your family having a wonderful first anniversary and many more in the future! Congratulations!
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)...as long as it didn't require getting off the couch!
Thanks for the good wishes.
bemildred
(90,061 posts)Love makes it all worth while.
I am glad to have lived long enough to see the day.
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)It was nice. I didn't think I would live to see the day...honestly. I am glad I did.
mnhtnbb
(31,384 posts)Hope hubby is feeling better soon and that you don't catch it!
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)He's better, mostly. I avoided it, thankfully.
octoberlib
(14,971 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)redwitch
(14,944 posts)Marriage is impossible marriage is dull
Your dance card is empty your plate is too full
It's something no sensible person would do
I wish i was married i wish I was married
I wish i was married to you
Marriage is unnatural marriage is hard
You rotate your tires you work in the yard
You fight about nothing every hour or two
I wish i was married i wish i was married
I wish i was married to you
Read more at http://www.songlyrics.com/greg-brown/marriage-chant-lyrics/#FqwCKQkuJseQ6il1.99
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)dembotoz
(16,802 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)Matariki
(18,775 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)Call Me Wesley
(38,187 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)TexasMommaWithAHat
(3,212 posts)nt
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(53,956 posts)historylovr
(1,557 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)Sissyk
(12,665 posts)I am so happy for you, BtA! You are good people.
ps: YES!, on the test results.
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)It was a nice, albeit lazy day, and I enjoyed sharing it with him and y'all!
hifiguy
(33,688 posts)Many more happy, healthy years to you both!
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)DRoseDARs
(6,810 posts)Destroying the fabric of Christendom, one mundane day at a time.
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)SusanCalvin
(6,592 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)Love to you both. Hope to see you soon. <3
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)Perhaps we should plan a trip to NOLA, we haven't been back since we left.
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)and that has to be hard on you.
BeeBee
(1,074 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)sarge43
(28,941 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)And thank you for your lovely story - it was very sweet!
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)Funny how something so mundane can be so important.
Depaysement
(1,835 posts)But I couldn't fuckin' be happier for you.
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)Lithos
(26,403 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)cal04
(41,505 posts)SO happy for the two of you
Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)oldandhappy
(6,719 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,956 posts)monicaangela
(1,508 posts)Funny thing is, I have spent many anniversaries, birthdays, and other occasions that we tend to celebrate in the manner in which you explained having spent your recent anniversary. I am a widow now, but for many years my husband and I celebrated occasions such as anniversaries etc., when we could. When we had children, we couldn't always drop everything and celebrate, after the children were old enough, and we could have maybe taken a bit of time for ourselves, we were too busy trying to help shape their future. We did party sometimes to celebrate, don't get me wrong and when we did, those few parties that we did have probably meant a lot more to us than if we had partied to celebrate every occasion.
As you state in your comment, the true and most important thing about marriage is love and commitment and to add to that, I would say also a shared responsibility for each other and a continued ability to learn to give and take rather than constantly accept. Thank you for sharing your happiness, I wish many more years of love and happiness for you and your husband. Also too, let me say congratulations on your negative finding in regards to the biopsy test. Take advantage of your good fortune, use that occasion as a reason to go out and celebrate when your husband gets well. You'll find that moments of joy like this one and many others you will have will be moments that you will celebrate with just as much feeling as you would an anniversary, birthday, etc.
mmonk
(52,589 posts)callous taoboy
(4,584 posts)peacebird
(14,195 posts)And congrats on the negative biopsy! Now try som good old fashioned chicken rice soup with lots of onion and garlic to get you both well enough for next weeks celebrations!
merrily
(45,251 posts)After so many millennia, it's a glorious that we are all alive to witness this sea change in the evolution of the human spirit.
Every bit of bigotry and hate that anyone vanquishes elevates each and all of us.
Bettie
(16,095 posts)Anniversaries are fun.
RKP5637
(67,107 posts)Runningdawg
(4,516 posts)I hope this is the first of many more!
dlwickham
(3,316 posts)congratulations on your anniversary
Elmer S. E. Dump
(5,751 posts)one_voice
(20,043 posts)Happy Anniversary my friend. I hope you have many more wonderful years together.
LostOne4Ever
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chervilant
(8,267 posts)you old married couple, you!!!
(hope you both get well soon!)
unapatriciated
(5,390 posts)may I share this vid of love my hubby and fellow duer lame54 made for me. May you have many more years of happiness and love.
zappaman
(20,606 posts)Congrats and many more!
MerryBlooms
(11,769 posts)Congratulations on the negative biopsy.
Douglas Carpenter
(20,226 posts)WestSeattle2
(1,730 posts)Congratulations on your anniversary - sorry to hear the flu interfered with the festivities.