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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsOk, everytime I see a headline about the "tanning mom," the mother gets darker.
aquart
(69,014 posts)You know, the kind you are supposed to slather in sunscreen for a walk to the mailbox.
The story of my life!
But seriously, the mom is starting to look like a burn victim.
Marrah_G
(28,581 posts)Are you serious? Shit, I am a red headed transparent except for the freckles for of person. I have two colors, extremely pale and lobster red. Not once in my life have a had a "tan". I avoid even swimming unless I have a some shade.
Looking at the woman I would venture a guess that she has some sort of compulsive disorder and probably could not comprehend the damage she was doing to her child.
madinmaryland
(64,933 posts)gateley
(62,683 posts)contracting it until I just read this article! Wow! Probably wouldn't have stopped me from using them anyway. It was the 80's and the darker the better.
Don't know about now, but back then there was no treatment -- you either got it all or you died.
a kennedy
(29,753 posts)and I miss them both so much.
DiverDave
(4,890 posts)a very close friend lost his wife to it.
So I saw the process and it sure is a heartbreaker.
I hope you can be at peace...
Dave
a kennedy
(29,753 posts)I miss her so much....terrible, terrible death. She was so positive, lasted for a year from being diagnosed to her death. I miss her so much.
Warpy
(111,417 posts)Her story is that the kid waited while she tanned the way the kid waited while she grocery shopped or went to get a haircut and got the sunburn outdoors.
Some teacher got the story wrong and overreacted and then the press picked it up.
I can't imagine a salon owner would allow a 5 year old child anywhere near a tanning bed, it's a lawsuit waiting to happen.
So I tend to believe the Mom this time. I don't care if she's a vain tanning addict. I don't think she did this one.
Iris
(15,678 posts)she is required by law to report possible abuse. However, it does seem likely this whole thing is being blown up by the media.
Warpy
(111,417 posts)Whoever told the media is at fault here.
I can't believe what the media are doing to that poor woman's picture. She looked rather nice in the early ones although it's not going to last. Five more years of those tanning beds and she is going to look like an old army boot.
pnwmom
(109,021 posts)Iris
(15,678 posts)and to NOT make it into a media spectacle? The mother seems like a sad case, and this has turned the family into a free reality show.
pnwmom
(109,021 posts)All she needed to do was say no to interviews.
nobodyspecial
(2,286 posts)and based on what the mother has said, I think she is mentally ill and needs help. Clearly, her actions are abusive, but I don't think that is her intention is to hurt her daughter. I hope the mom receives a full evaluation and the daughter is made safe until the mom can properly care for her.
bullwinkle428
(20,631 posts)Zax2me
(2,515 posts)Her real look is damning enough.
Politicalboi
(15,189 posts)John Boner, you would think she would ask him for some tanning tips.
customerserviceguy
(25,183 posts)Looked like a female white trash version of Al Jolson.
trumad
(41,692 posts)Super tan but not even close to the pictures being shown.
Iris
(15,678 posts)what was going on with her mouth. On tv, it looks like she's got a mouth guard.
noamnety
(20,234 posts)some women get those as a sort of permanent lip liner.
Gold Metal Flake
(13,805 posts)CBGLuthier
(12,723 posts)Gee I was taught to NOT judge people based upon their looks. Some folks here have decided this woman is either trash or mentally ill.
All based upon the way she looks.
Chilling.
mac56
(17,575 posts)a person's inherent physical characteristics, as opposed to the results of what they choose to do to themselves.
Whisp
(24,096 posts)I think it's somewhat the same thing - people have issues with their appearance and for whatever reason this woman overtans herself, it's not healthy. I feel sorry for her and her daughter - pointing and laughing at her doesn't do anything for me because we all have flaws. Well, most of us anyway
mac56
(17,575 posts)My response is sympathy for both her and her daughter.
That said, the poster I responded to seemed to equate the physical characteristics a person is born with, to the physical characteristics a person visits upon him/herself. Infers that suggesting that the tan mom has some mental or emotional problems is somehow tantamount to poking fun at someone born with a "non-traditional" appearance. Sorry, that's a false equivalency I do not support.
Let the pillorying begin.
Iris
(15,678 posts)I have. I'm sorry but she looks like she's in her 60s and talks likes she's 20.
LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)The extremes we may go to for nothing but our own vanity is also quite telling. Seems we may often infer valid presumptions based on the extremes and aberrations one person perceives as a norm.
Not chilling at all....
bullwinkle428
(20,631 posts)figure out that this was probably not doing me a whole lot of good as far as the long-term health of my skin, and I didn't come close to this woman in terms of exposure. She clearly has some severe self-esteem issues going on, to the point where it's clouding her judgement in a dangerous way, if she's even willing to expose her 5-year-old daughter to this.
4th law of robotics
(6,801 posts)It's not fair to judge them if they're born deformed or just unattractive.
But for stuff *that they do to themselves* sure.
If someone is born with a cleft palate: no, don't judge them for that.
If they decide to cover their face with offensive tattoos: yeah ok. Go for it.
mac56
(17,575 posts)tawadi
(2,110 posts)LynneSin
(95,337 posts)RebelOne
(30,947 posts)Horse with no Name
(33,958 posts)Occasionally I have done spray tans when I was going to functions where I wanted to look less pale or was wearing something that looked better with a little color...one time I had my grandchild with me when I went in to schedule an appointment and was told in no uncertain terms that under no circumstances could she go anywhere in the building outside of the lobby.
I assumed this was a standard rule in the industry.
It should be.
tawadi
(2,110 posts)The mom obviously fried her brain in the tanning bed.
Cali_Democrat
(30,439 posts)RebelOne
(30,947 posts)But I had many friends when I lived in Florida who developed skin cancer because of over-exposure to the sun, including my mother. I learned early on to always wear sunscreen. When I was a child and we lived on Miami Beach, my mother would bask in the sun every day. Her doctor told her that was the cause of her cancer.