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sinkingfeeling

(51,438 posts)
Tue Apr 17, 2012, 04:48 PM Apr 2012

Ann Romney and me

Ann Romney is a year younger than I am and her eldest son, Matt, is a year younger than my son, Mike. She and Mitt were wed a year after my wedding in 1968. So, I guess, maybe I can compare my life to hers.

I had a full 4 year scholarship to OSU when as a freshman, I met my husband-to-be. We had absolutely nothing in common: he was an Air Force 'brat' and I was a Vietnam protester. When we decided to marry, there was a selective service draft going on, so I was the only one who could drop out of college and support us. It crushed my parents when I did so. Not having many marketable skills, I went to 'key-punch' school and got a job six weeks later. There was no stock trust handed over by either set of parents and I ended up with two jobs.

My husband was in a five year engineering program, and started doing poorly in 1970. About the time that I became pregnant (BC failure). After Mike was born and we had set up a hospital payment plan, OSU kicked my husband out with about 17 credit hours to go. He had spent 4 years in the AF ROTC program and when the draft board told him to appear for a physical, the Air Force said 'hands off, he's ours' and so he went off to Colorado. I got $110 a month for child support from the USAF. When he shipped out for Thailand, I filed for divorce. Mike was 10 months old.

So, by 1972, I was a single mother. With the help of my parents, I bought a small house at age 21 and my dad's co-signature on the loan. I found a wonderful woman down the street that took care of Mike for something like $25 a week. I moved up in my 'career' and became a computer operator and then a programmer. When my ex left the Air Force in 1975, child support stopped for the next 12 years.

In the 70's I marched against war and for the ERA. I joined NOW. And I lucked out and was hired by IBM Corporation in 1973. That probably put me, by income, in the top 20% of all single mothers. I never had to get public assistance. I can probably locate by 1040's from the mid to late 70's, and show you how I made something like $29,000 and paid 35% in federal taxes and had no child care deduction or anything.

Ann never worried about who was going to watch her sons. I used to take mine, asleep, and put him on the floor of the 'CE room' when I was called out in the middle of the night. I had no options as I had to do the exact same things as the 'guys' with the same job. Although, when I was hired in there was a 15% difference in salary for the men.

Ann never had to move her sons around the country to continue her employment. She never had to miss that lousy $110 a month.

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calimary

(81,127 posts)
6. So do I! I'd recommend it ten thousand times.
Tue Apr 17, 2012, 06:11 PM
Apr 2012

Betcha $10,000.00 - only good thing about it was how it made rick perry's swaggering he-man image suddenly shrink a little (GULP! I shurz hell can't meet that $10K bet. Oops...).

maddiemom

(5,106 posts)
7. Anne Romney
Tue Apr 17, 2012, 06:33 PM
Apr 2012

Privileged and entitled as Anne Romney may be, "worthless POS" is pretty harsh. Don't go Ted Nugent here (and this is harsh for a liberal, but not in his venomous league). Most modern first ladies have done paying work (even Jackie). Anne is an exception here, and obviously clueless as to what most non-privileged women have faced. Five kids are more than the norm for women like her--just bearing them, regardless of help caring for them. I don't think she can speak for the average woman,but she is not a "worthless POS".

JDPriestly

(57,936 posts)
10. I agree, but I also agree that for no reason other than the fact that she
Tue Apr 17, 2012, 08:04 PM
Apr 2012

has enjoyed the wealth of a queen and never worked outside her home, she should not be First Lady.

niyad

(113,086 posts)
16. really? please enlighten me as to one positive contribution she has made to society,
Sat Apr 21, 2012, 02:41 PM
Apr 2012

for I am unaware of ANY. every single comment out of her mouth is insulting, and completely clueless.

11. I'm with you. nt
Wed Apr 18, 2012, 09:44 AM
Apr 2012

Willard is a POS and Ann has done or said nothing to distinguish herself from him. They both are responsible for their Cayman and Swiss tax shelters. They both put Seamus on the roof. And her "Aren't my enormous breasts glorious" pose at the NRA podium, appealing to the neanderthal audience, was revolting. And Willard was the prop/leader staring at her boobs the whole time she was speaking.

antigop

(12,778 posts)
5. sinking, thanks for posting. YOU REALLY NEED TO READ THIS!!!!
Tue Apr 17, 2012, 06:04 PM
Apr 2012
http://www.cringely.com/2012/04/watch-out-IBM/

edit to add: If you have an IBM pension, you need to follow what is going on here.....

AnotherMother4Peace

(4,239 posts)
8. Yet Ann's noble "choosing" w/nannies, cooks, housekeepers, cars, houses somehow makes her
Tue Apr 17, 2012, 07:40 PM
Apr 2012

an "every woman" - NO not even close. I know my story is more like sinkingfeeling's (I used to leave my purse at my desk to give the appearance that I was nearby, when I really was away on an emergency kid pickup or something). And I'd bet dollars to doughnuts that very few Moms have the luxurious choices that Ann Rmoney had.

spooky3

(34,407 posts)
9. and few unmarried women (with or without children) have those luxuries.
Tue Apr 17, 2012, 07:53 PM
Apr 2012

There has been very little mention in all of this about the MANY single, divorced, or widowed women in the workforce. Very few of them are independently wealthy or have a partner who is paying the bills. They have to rely only on themselves for everything. I don't think Ann could possibly be good at understanding and communicating their concerns to her husband.

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