Homophobia is not always "in your face".
I posted this article in the LGBT group:
Is It a Big Deal That the Actor Playing the Flash Isn't Straight?
Actor Ezra Miller has been cast as the Flash in Warner Brothers’ eponymous movie, which is slated to premiere in 2018. That's big news even for those who aren't diehard DC Comics fans, because Ezra Miller is also openly queer, making it the first time a non-heterosexual has played the lead in a superhero movie.
Let's get one distinction out of the way: The 22-year-old Miller identifies as queer, not gay. Though the word can mean different things to different people, it’s often used as an umbrella term to mean “somewhere on the spectrum of sexuality that's not 100 percent straight.” In a 2012 interview, Miller told The Advocate “I’m queer... I have a lot of really wonderful friends who are of very different sexes and genders. I am very much in love with no one in particular."
It may seem ridiculous that we’re talking about this in 2014, when it feels like there is no shortage of openly non-heterosexual actors in Hollywood. But the casting choice of a queer man as the lead in a big-budget superhero, the embodiment of traditional American masculinity, is inarguably a huge deal. Queer actors are still up against the surprisingly pervasive idea that a non-straight actor can’t play a straight character. This has historically been true not just of superhero roles, but of all types of straight roles in mainstream American films.
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You may remember when Bret Easton Ellis tweeted that openly gay actor Matt Bomer wasn’t fit for the role of Christian Grey in the movie version of Fifty Shades of Grey. Ellis opined that “Fifty Shades of Grey demands an actor that is genuinely into women." That's a stubbornly persistent attitude: We love and applaud straight male actors for portraying gay characters, but we apparently don’t trust queer actors to be able to do the reverse.
more: http://www.vice.com/read/its-a-big-deal-that-the-actor-playing-the-flash-is-not-straight-117
The paragraph after the snip is not as uncommon as one might think. Not too long ago, Andrew Garfield, who plays Spiderman in the recent movies, stated something to the effect he wouldn't be opposed to Spiderman being gay. People lost their shit! Before that, it was about making "Sherlock Holmes" gay. Collective shit again lost, and as yet, unrecovered. The idea a fictional character might be written as gay totally pissed people off in a way that is nothing short of an example of homophobia. Many characters in superhero genres have be re-written in a way that changes the characters racial identity, physical abilities, even gender, but sexual orientation? That, for some is just a step too far.
Why is it so hard for some to understand gay people are here to stay and we are part of the fabric of life?
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I have a feeling many of those same people would spontaneously combust if they ever found out how many of the people they admired in the past were gay.
Wish I could rec this more than once.
Your post the other day about your man and the bathroom situation at his work reignited something I have been batting around in my head for awhile. Then I stumbled across this article, and it seemed a good opportunity to say something. Granted, it isn't a huge stumbling block, but it does demonstrate a lack of inequality among those of us who are LGBT.
I am so glad you are posting more. 
Not only is he openly and proudly gay he's also a black man who's not afraid to call out the racists; where we live that's no small thang.
"I am so glad you are posting more."
Not everyone is, lol!
Right backatcha, we need more of you.
That perhaps he needs to be made to answer! See, I don't care if he is gay or not. What I do care about is regardless of what one's orientation is - that everyone gets a fair shot. 
He's not advocating a fair shot here.
people can play killer clowns and no one requires them to dress in face paint and slaughter people, but in order to play a straight man one needs to actually be sleeping with women?! 
Probably not the best place to explain how my former Italian Marine husband who jumped out of helicopters at 350 feet - was terrified when I rewatched the first episode with him? Who knew - clown phobia!
But yeah - that's strange. Then again - I'm wondering how DiCaprio got cast as Jordan Belfort - when Belfort is like five feet four and wears size two shoes!
The last episode was twisted! Did you see when the mask slipped?! I actually jumped a little.
I remember, early on, when actors played in gay roles and talked about how they "researched" it. 
I could give them some good research! 
Now, granted, not all of it is based on prejudice, mind you; some people are just hardcore fanboys who just don't like their character being messed with, but who don't actually have a problem with LGBTs, PoC, etc. in their lives at all. OTOH, it can't be denied that there's also quite a few RW trolls who really are a bunch of assholes.....
I for one, couldn't fuckin' care less, and I hope Ezra Miller does well in his upcoming movie. 
