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https://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/why-is-breastfeeding-in-public-still-so-taboo-181911881.htmlI am all for breastfeeding, but do not like breastfeeding in public, Williams had said on her show Friday. I dont want to see it at my kitchen table, I dont want to see it at Target, I dont want to see it at Starbucks, in the airplane and I especially dont want to see it at graduation.
Her comments rankled mommy bloggers and tweeters across the Internet and inspired Mondays nurse-in, dubbed Milkies in Manhattan by organizer Patricia Villaverde, a breastfeeding advocate. I found it so hypocritical that she says shes fine with breastfeeding but that she doesnt want to see it, Villaverde told Yahoo Shine in between nursing sessions with her 2-and-a-half-year-old daughter, whom she carried in a front pack. Why is she making a nursing mother feel like her only option is to hide? The idea behind the nurse-in, she added, was not meant to be a breast-is-best thing but simply an attempt to normalize whats normal. ...
Over the weekend in Connecticut, for example, a nurse-in drew more than 50 moms and babies to a Friendlys restaurant in Norwich. The women came out in support of Tabitha Donohue, who says she was eating lunch and nursing her 8-week-old daughter at a table there last week when a manager asked her to either cover up or stop breastfeeding. I told them I didnt want to do either of those things, Donohue said in an interview with Fox CT. Whats offensive about breastfeeding?
Rex
(65,616 posts)It has to be the most natural thing since moms started having babies. More puritanical bullshit by the right side that hates women and their bodies imo.
And for people that say they don't go to Olive Garden to watch mom's breastfeed their babies...stop fucking looking then!
If mom is a pit bull.
MADem
(135,425 posts)I do know that when I lived in countries where it was the primary method of feeding a child, it wasn't such an obvious thing. Maybe the mothers with those breastfeeding kids weren't hanging out in restaurants and coffee shops and things like that.
You almost never saw it--maybe at the park or the playground, but rarely. And that's even though it was the favored method.
Then, when women went to work in large numbers, the ones that didn't do the formula thing got those pumps. They were supposed to act like having a kid was just a blip, keep moving forward, nothing to see here. The idea there, for a while, was to be the Super Woman, the Careerist, and do the bring home the bacon/fry it up in the pan thing. Then that morphed into the whole "Enough of this shit, the distribution of labor needs to be more equal" movement, and now we're seeing more stay at home fathers, though the distribution of labor isn't quite yet equal I don't think ... or maybe it is, I haven't kept up (I don't think it is, though).
Even in this country...think back to the fifties. How many mothers, no matter how they fed their kids, hung out at "malls" or "Starbucks" equivalents? They didn't. They were stuck at home, climbing the walls, most of 'em. If they had their "own" car they were lucky.
People are more mobile these days--they are out and about, not sitting at home. That's why this is more visible, I think. And that is why people are noticing. And as more people notice, the more they talk about it...and people with no opinion at all, because they've never really seen much of this going on, are now asked to weigh in on how they "feel" about it.
But again, I don't know, so don't go screaming at me for not having the "right" answer.
This is just speculation on my part.
Xipe Totec
(43,892 posts)In politics and diplomacy, dual-use is technology that can be used for both peaceful and military aims.
Although in the right hands they can be used for peaceful nurturing purposes, many feel that they can also be used as weapons of men's destruction.
hunter
(38,345 posts)Even in church.
Alas, my man boobs were useless.
GeorgeGist
(25,326 posts)alphafemale
(18,497 posts)Or maybe the illustrator only knows one wat to draw a face.
Mnemosyne
(21,363 posts)seveneyes
(4,631 posts)Average intelligence has a low and a high side.
Bigmack
(8,020 posts)... but I get all soft and squishy when I see a woman nursing. Awwwwwww....
To me, it's not only natural, it's like... continuing our species. It's doing what we are supposed to do... nourishing our kids.
Maybe it's just that my mind puts things in little compartments, but breasts are one thing... nursing breasts an entirely different thing.
If I was in a restaurant and the management asked a woman to stop nursing, I'd leave and tell them why.
Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)Go to Europe and you will see much more public breastfeeding.
randome
(34,845 posts)But until women stand up and say, "No more!" I don't see how men will 'permit' them to have the rights they want.
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Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)randome
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etherealtruth
(22,165 posts)It is an American "thing" ... and sadly pretty gender neutral
gollygee
(22,336 posts)Women abandoned breastfeeding for a very long time, and before that women who were pregnant or breastfeeding didn't leave the house a lot.
I'm a believer that the more moms breastfeed in public, the more "normal" it will seem to people, and the less shocking it will be. I breastfed my kids in public whenever and wherever. It might have shocked people a bit, but the more people see it, the less they'll think of it.
It feels somewhat better than when my 12-year-old was a baby. Or maybe that's wishful thinking.
Skittles
(153,262 posts)GET WITH THE PROGRAM!
3catwoman3
(24,099 posts)...there was a community pool, and a kiddie pool. There was one mom who used to sit in the middle of the kiddie pool with her young child, and just drop the top of her bathing suit and nurse right there in the pool. I found that to be rather exhibitionist.
In the interest of honesty, I am a pediatric nurse practitioner and fully supportive breast feeding. I nursed my own kids until they were each about 18 months old. Because I believe in being sensitive to those around me, even if I may not agree with their point of view, I always aimed for subtlety- it's not hard to accomplish.
Breast feeding is a normal function. It need be neither vilified NOR flaunted.
blueamy66
(6,795 posts)Just be subtle. Cover up with a blanket.
DLnyc
(2,479 posts)Certainly it is much more offensive to see Wolf Blitzer cheerleading for insane wars, than to see a loving woman nurturing her child.
Twisted society, that glorifies violence and fears a mother's love!