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KamaAina

(78,249 posts)
Tue Jun 17, 2014, 06:18 PM Jun 2014

Why Is Breastfeeding in Public Still so Taboo?

https://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/why-is-breastfeeding-in-public-still-so-taboo-181911881.html

Anyone averse to breastfeeding in public would have been wise to steer clear of West 26th Street in New York City Monday morning. That’s where a clutch of 30 women were stationed in front of the studio of "The Wendy Williams Show", defiantly nursing their babies to protest the host’s dissing of Karlesha Thurman — the 25-year-old graduate whose breastfeeding photo stirred a maelstrom of criticism recently.

“I am all for breastfeeding, but do not like breastfeeding in public,” Williams had said on her show Friday. “I don’t want to see it at my kitchen table, I don’t want to see it at Target, I don’t want to see it at Starbucks, in the airplane — and I especially don’t want to see it at graduation.”

Her comments rankled mommy bloggers and tweeters across the Internet and inspired Monday’s nurse-in, dubbed “Milkies in Manhattan” by organizer Patricia Villaverde, a breastfeeding advocate. “I found it so hypocritical that she says she’s fine with breastfeeding but that she doesn’t want to see it,” Villaverde told Yahoo Shine in between nursing sessions with her 2-and-a-half-year-old daughter, whom she carried in a front pack. “Why is she making a nursing mother feel like her only option is to hide?” The idea behind the nurse-in, she added, was “not meant to be a breast-is-best thing” but simply an attempt to “normalize what’s normal.” ...

Over the weekend in Connecticut, for example, a nurse-in drew more than 50 moms and babies to a Friendly’s restaurant in Norwich. The women came out in support of Tabitha Donohue, who says she was eating lunch and nursing her 8-week-old daughter at a table there last week when a manager asked her to either cover up or stop breastfeeding. “I told them I didn’t want to do either of those things,” Donohue said in an interview with Fox CT. “What’s offensive about breastfeeding?”




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Rex

(65,616 posts)
1. Mom eats at Olive Garden, so does baby.
Tue Jun 17, 2014, 06:22 PM
Jun 2014

It has to be the most natural thing since moms started having babies. More puritanical bullshit by the right side that hates women and their bodies imo.

And for people that say they don't go to Olive Garden to watch mom's breastfeed their babies...stop fucking looking then!

MADem

(135,425 posts)
3. I don't know.
Tue Jun 17, 2014, 06:30 PM
Jun 2014

I do know that when I lived in countries where it was the primary method of feeding a child, it wasn't such an obvious thing. Maybe the mothers with those breastfeeding kids weren't hanging out in restaurants and coffee shops and things like that.

You almost never saw it--maybe at the park or the playground, but rarely. And that's even though it was the favored method.

Then, when women went to work in large numbers, the ones that didn't do the formula thing got those pumps. They were supposed to act like having a kid was just a blip, keep moving forward, nothing to see here. The idea there, for a while, was to be the Super Woman, the Careerist, and do the bring home the bacon/fry it up in the pan thing. Then that morphed into the whole "Enough of this shit, the distribution of labor needs to be more equal" movement, and now we're seeing more stay at home fathers, though the distribution of labor isn't quite yet equal I don't think ... or maybe it is, I haven't kept up (I don't think it is, though).

Even in this country...think back to the fifties. How many mothers, no matter how they fed their kids, hung out at "malls" or "Starbucks" equivalents? They didn't. They were stuck at home, climbing the walls, most of 'em. If they had their "own" car they were lucky.

People are more mobile these days--they are out and about, not sitting at home. That's why this is more visible, I think. And that is why people are noticing. And as more people notice, the more they talk about it...and people with no opinion at all, because they've never really seen much of this going on, are now asked to weigh in on how they "feel" about it.

But again, I don't know, so don't go screaming at me for not having the "right" answer.

This is just speculation on my part.

Xipe Totec

(43,892 posts)
4. I think it's based on the doctrine of dual use technology
Tue Jun 17, 2014, 06:30 PM
Jun 2014

In politics and diplomacy, dual-use is technology that can be used for both peaceful and military aims.


Although in the right hands they can be used for peaceful nurturing purposes, many feel that they can also be used as weapons of men's destruction.























 

alphafemale

(18,497 posts)
16. Mommy and Daddy also Open Carry the same genetic pool.
Tue Jun 17, 2014, 07:36 PM
Jun 2014

Or maybe the illustrator only knows one wat to draw a face.

 

Bigmack

(8,020 posts)
9. Dunno about other men...
Tue Jun 17, 2014, 07:24 PM
Jun 2014

... but I get all soft and squishy when I see a woman nursing. Awwwwwww....

To me, it's not only natural, it's like... continuing our species. It's doing what we are supposed to do... nourishing our kids.

Maybe it's just that my mind puts things in little compartments, but breasts are one thing... nursing breasts an entirely different thing.

If I was in a restaurant and the management asked a woman to stop nursing, I'd leave and tell them why.

Nye Bevan

(25,406 posts)
10. It's an American thing, and it's because Americans are weird about breasts.
Tue Jun 17, 2014, 07:27 PM
Jun 2014

Go to Europe and you will see much more public breastfeeding.

 

randome

(34,845 posts)
12. I guess it is an American thing. I used to think it was a male thing.
Tue Jun 17, 2014, 07:31 PM
Jun 2014

But until women stand up and say, "No more!" I don't see how men will 'permit' them to have the rights they want.
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randome

(34,845 posts)
15. Yeah, I don't get that, either.
Tue Jun 17, 2014, 07:36 PM
Jun 2014

[hr][font color="blue"][center]Stop looking for heroes. BE one.[/center][/font][hr]

gollygee

(22,336 posts)
11. I think it just isn't all that common yet
Tue Jun 17, 2014, 07:27 PM
Jun 2014

Women abandoned breastfeeding for a very long time, and before that women who were pregnant or breastfeeding didn't leave the house a lot.

I'm a believer that the more moms breastfeed in public, the more "normal" it will seem to people, and the less shocking it will be. I breastfed my kids in public whenever and wherever. It might have shocked people a bit, but the more people see it, the less they'll think of it.

It feels somewhat better than when my 12-year-old was a baby. Or maybe that's wishful thinking.

3catwoman3

(24,099 posts)
18. In my former neighborhood...
Tue Jun 17, 2014, 08:13 PM
Jun 2014

...there was a community pool, and a kiddie pool. There was one mom who used to sit in the middle of the kiddie pool with her young child, and just drop the top of her bathing suit and nurse right there in the pool. I found that to be rather exhibitionist.

In the interest of honesty, I am a pediatric nurse practitioner and fully supportive breast feeding. I nursed my own kids until they were each about 18 months old. Because I believe in being sensitive to those around me, even if I may not agree with their point of view, I always aimed for subtlety- it's not hard to accomplish.

Breast feeding is a normal function. It need be neither vilified NOR flaunted.

DLnyc

(2,479 posts)
20. Maybe there could be a ban on idiotic TV shows in public places.
Tue Jun 17, 2014, 08:27 PM
Jun 2014

Certainly it is much more offensive to see Wolf Blitzer cheerleading for insane wars, than to see a loving woman nurturing her child.

Twisted society, that glorifies violence and fears a mother's love!

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