In 2 Days I will be homeless

[Left Coast2020]

Getting a bit scared on this end. Trying to control my emotions at the moment. My possibility to go to Fairfield in the North Bay area fell through. Not even sure why I'm here writing this. I'm really wishing for some things that I can't have at this moment. Too numberous to mention here. Yes, I'm getting out of tea baggers house. Its has been an awful experience. Not a word of help or concern. An ignorant, selfish person who IMO is about as fake a "christian" as they come. I want to use other words to express how pissed I am but what good would that do. No concern for other people. Really makes me sick. So now that I've writen this, I wonder what the response will be. I don't have friends or family. You can't be more empty than that. And I feel really fucking empty. What else can I say. Just thought I would tell the world how I feel I guess.

[LumosMaxima]

1. I wish I could help you.

I'm so sorry. If I had the money, I would send you something.

[nadinbrzezinski]

2. Contact local social services

They might be able to help. Some cities are better than others, but do so before you actually leave that roof.

I wish I could do more than just offer what might be empty words.

:hugs:

[flvegan]

3. Regardless of the responses here, you're a DUer so you have friends.

And family.

Are you leaving this place of your own free will or by force? If by free will, that's one thing. If by force, then maybe you need legal counsel. "Homeless" sucks, and if it can be averted, then maybe that's what you do.

Regardless, I don't know what you're going through to the extent you do, but I wish you well as do the rest of your friends and family here at DU*.



*I don't speak for them, but I think they'll agree with me.

[Agnosticsherbet]

4. Online I found a Homeless Shelter (MIssion Solano) in Fairfield, California.

There is also "Heather House."

[pnwmom]

26. What would be adequate?

[LeftyMom]

44. That would be nice, but it's not going to happen by Monday.

If you're going to attack everybody on this thread for insufficient ideological purity it's really going to get in the way of spitballing ideas to help the OP.

If you want to start another thread about housing justice please do so. But if you're not contributing ideas for the OP and how to help improve her situation by next week you're not helping and you need to stop hijacking this thread.

[Gidney N Cloyd]

68. ...

[Agnosticsherbet]

92. Being homeless is an immediate problem for an individual

not a political opportunity to pass some legislation or a reason to complain about the 1%.

[Logical]

54. What are you doing? nt

[magical thyme]

58. whereas your post is really helpful.

Are you effing kidding? Welcome to ignore.

[Agnosticsherbet]

91. I don't live there, don't know anyone there, don't have any money to send.

But there are resources that can be found and I found them.

[Agnosticsherbet]

94. A solution to one person being homeless is finding that person a roof, a bed, and a meal.

I didn't see this discussion about health care, guaranteed minimum income. It is about a person who is homeless. The answer is to find that person a place to live.

We can discuss big political policy elsewhere.

[Left Coast2020]

5. By force.

I tend to believe people when they say they are a "christian". I let the tea bag shit go in one ear and out the other. And yes to the other poster, I have contacted a local shelter. Probably will go there. Was really hoping for the chance to go to Fairfield which is near Travis AFB.

[sabrina 1]

72. What would it take for you to get to Fairfield, if you don't mind telling us?

[Duckhunter935]

78. Its for vets

she stated in another part she was not a vet so not eligible.

[sabrina 1]

80. Thank you, I just wondered if it was possible to help her get there if she has someone

there she can rely on for help.

[factsarenotfair]

6. I am really sorry. Do you have a little bit of money for a motel or something?

We were homeless once and had just a little bit of money for a cheap motel until we got sort of on our feet.

[factsarenotfair]

39. We had moved on the promise of a job and had a baby.

We only had a little credit on credit cards and no money.

[Pretzel_Warrior]

7. If you have no friends or family, why not move to an area with lower cost of living

and then find a job that will allow you to at least pay rent on a small place?

Just a thought.

[Left Coast2020]

14. I tried that already.

Wanted to go back to Oregon. Still have that possibility, but not until after Jan. Was told by former associate that situation there is not good either...maybe worse. I asked about churches there, but he said they may be overwhelmed. If anyone is in Eugene, you may know what I'm talking about. Colder there too.

[Pretzel_Warrior]

25. definitely colder. but I could probably put you into contact with some I know.

both in Eugene ( a few truly good folks) and in Portland. I'm hoping you can find some solution in the interim time.

[Pretzel_Warrior]

29. I don't agree with it. But I am also not averse to striking out into new territory. Did it myself.

When I was younger, I packed up and moved to the west coast on my own after growing up in the midwest. I wasn't starving...but I wanted new opportunities.

Countless millions migrated from the south to northern cities due to Jim Crow laws and lack of opportunity. Millions moved where the work was during the Great Depression. Considering we are undergoing a very slow and rocky recovery after an economic paroxysm of similar magnitude, it is not hard to believe that may be the best option for some.

[Pretzel_Warrior]

36. what's the point of that snark?

I'm just sharing that I am not preaching advice I wouldn't take up myself. Seriously. why?

[Pretzel_Warrior]

38. huh? seriously. what you posted made absolutely no sense.

[Pretzel_Warrior]

43. no worries. as soon as I hit reply, I will forget about you or this bizarre exchange.

see you in another life. when we are both cats.

[Lost_Count]

53. You would do well to look at your attitude...

You seem touchy...

[Logical]

56. You are really being sort of a jerk in this post! But assume that....

Is your goal!

[LiberalEsto]

86. I can't make any sense out of what you've posted so far

I get the feeling that you're trying to disrupt the process of attempting to assist someone in need.
Perhaps you should consider posting somewhere else.

[BlueToTheBone]

66. Yikes!

"Some people need to cut off other's heads in order to feel tall."
Yogananda

You might want to lighten up; you sound as though you might have a stroke because somewhere on the internet someone is doing it wrong!

[whathehell]

50. This poster doesn't seem interested in helping the OP, just in disrupting..

I'd advise you to simply ignore him/her.

[NBachers]

47. Get the fuck out of here, dipshit

[Codeine]

59. Jury results on the alert for this post

At Sat Dec 28, 2013, 08:39 AM an alert was sent on the following post:

Get the fuck out of here, dipshit
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4239616

REASON FOR ALERT:

This post is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, over-the-top, or otherwise inappropriate.

ALERTER'S COMMENTS:

Really ugly personal attack here.

You served on a randomly-selected Jury of DU members which reviewed this post. The review was completed at Sat Dec 28, 2013, 08:45 AM, and the Jury voted 2-4 to LEAVE IT.

Juror #1 voted to HIDE IT and said: Whole thread is troll filled but responses like this aren't warranted
Juror #2 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: The person being referred to in this post is, in every possible way, a dipshit. Not so much an attack as a bald statement of fact.
Juror #3 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: No explanation given
Juror #4 voted to HIDE IT and said: No explanation given
Juror #5 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: No explanation given
Juror #6 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: Yes it is an ugly personal attack but its well deserved. The person being "attacked" is trying to hijack the thread and lashing out left and right. The op has a real problem and others are trying to help. delrem is just being an ass.

For the record, I was Juror #2

[Squinch]

61. Finally, a jury that includes thinking people.

[Rowdyboy]

76. I was juror #6

Just sayin'

[rug]

82. Good job!

[Squinch]

89. .

And you know I mean that!

[closeupready]

67. Jury got it right.

[LeftyMom]

42. Parts of Northern California have very expensive housing, some of them also have poor job markets,

at least outside of very specific fields. Unfortunately in some areas the expensive housing and the lack of good jobs do overlap significantly.

I'm not totally sure where the OP is, but "north of Fairfield" sounds like the Napa/Sonoma area, and a relative of mine recently left that area precisely because the weird quirks of that area's mostly agricultural and service economy combined with it's Bay Area retiree fueled housing market meant that making a comfortable living there was nearly impossible. Yes, we should have some significant economic changes and social reforms to help people afford to live where they work but until that happens staying in a high cost area isn't always the smart move.

[OmahaBlueDog]

8. Here are some area homeless resources I could find

http://www.homelessshelterfairfieldca.com/

Our mission is to minister the gospel of Jesus Christ to the homeless and needy of Solano County; to provide food, shelter, clothing, counseling, education and job skills training and to inform the public on how to care for the poverty stricken.

http://www.bayarearescue.org/

The Rescue Mission helps meet the basic needs of hurting and homeless men, women, and children in the Bay Area with food and a clean, safe place to sleep. This protection from the elements and from the hazards of street life is essential to our guests’ health and state of mind, especially for women with small children. It also gives them the opportunity to begin addressing their problems.

Last year the Rescue Mission provided more than 85,000 nights of shelter and more than 1,450,000 meals.

Emergency Shelter & Meals Location

200 Macdonald Avenue @ 2nd Street
Richmond, California

http://heatherhouse.org/About_Us.html

Give the gift of hope this year with a donation to Heather House, a permanent homeless shelter in Fairfield. For over10 years, Heather House residents have been achieving success, thanks to your generosity.

Over 10,000 lives have been touched and changed because of Heather House. Thousands of children are in school, receiving health care, and being fed.

Heather House allows people to regroup, find work, and move into a sustainable lifestyle.

http://www.missionsolano.org/

In 1998, recognizing that many people struggling with addiction needed more than “three hots and a cot”, Mission SOLANO Rescue Mission focused its vision to develop long-term residential treatment for homeless addicted men, women and children. The Mission SOLANO Rescue Mission has successfully met the basic necessities of the homeless and poverty stricken population since 1998. Our unique and nationally recognized Nomadic Sheltering Program provides emergency shelter nights to those in need, while maintaining and managing our Community Outreach Center (COC) and Social Industries distributing food, clothing and ongoing community services.

[Left Coast2020]

9. I'm not in Fairfield. North of there.

Knew someone at VA hospital who was trying to get me in housing--but its for vet's. I'm not vet, but I volunteered at VA. Thats why he was trying to pull some strings for Fairfield.

[Lifelong Dem]

10. Last option. Let the cops drag you out

At least you will have a place to stay until court is over.

[JI7]

13. i agree with this

it will give some time to consider other options . no need to leave now .

[Katashi_itto]

48. yes, dont move out. Be packed but let the court force ir

It will buy you little time

[JI7]

11. .

[firsttimer]

12. I'm sorry to hear that and please be careful of homeless shelters

I would rather sleep in a tent than a homeless shelter.
Maybe they are better in CA , I'm not sure but before you decide to sleep in one . Go tomorrow night and check it out
with your own eyes , don't believe what the staff tells you over the phone.

If you have a backpack or duffel bag tie it to you leg before going to sleep .
And don't leave your shoes out.

[Left Coast2020]

15. The one place I talked to said they take people to local churches

I was really hoping for a transitional housing situation like the place in Fairfield. Would have give me a chance to get help and get back to work.

[firsttimer]

17. That actually doesn't sound bad

So it's first come first served .
It's tough , I know but being homeless is never permanent or even long if you don't want it to be.
The hardest thing is not losing hope , sometimes it will feel like you are almost there
then you are sent another curve ball .

I'm assuming you're guy and not female?
I know this is going to sound stupid but keep your self
clean , shave everyday , comb your hair
Just like you have always done and only focus on finding a job everyday.
Nothing else , no anger towards the asshole who threw you out .

Even if it's a job that is just a temp for a week or two .
Get some cash flow going .

I sincerely wish you the best and I know you will
be fine after all this is over even though you might not feel it now.

[ChisolmTrailDem]

16. I have a strong sense from you that you want to go to Fairfield. So, why not just

say exactly that, if that is what you need. I'm sure if someone here sees exactly what it is you need, like transportation, and can help in that regard, then they will need specifics in order to help.

I wish there were some way I could help. I can't stand the thought of you being out on the streets nearly as much as you can't. I can't stand that thought for anyone.

[Left Coast2020]

18. Well, yes. Because it would be a change of environment.

I feel I'm in need of something fresh so I can recharge. My mental status is not good. I know there are some real people out there. I just need some compassionate people near me to help me heal. Being alone makes things worse. And I feel alone.

[TheKentuckian]

34. All I know to say is that if your head isn't on right, homelessness will make it worse. It is tough

to say the very least. Too hard to maintain an even strain not enough space and peace to clear the mind. If there is another choice take it, would tend to be my advice but in any event know folks are pulling for you.

[sabrina 1]

79. You might have missed my question above, but what would it take for you to get to Fairfield?

As the poster to whom you are responding said, it seems that is what you would most like to do.

How far are you from Fairfield and do you have somewhere to go once you get there, or someone to help you get settled?

As the poster said, people want to help you, but are not sure how.

I am truly sorry this is happening to you but hope it is a very temporary situation.

[freshwest]

19. This may sound stupid, but do you have a vehicle? I was homeless once in my vehicle for a couple of

weeks, and it was very cold, gales and all of that, but I was directed by a church to a safe place to stay. It was one of those highway rest stops where the state patrol had an office. So I would not be mugged.

A number of people stayed there overnight, as there was a bath and shower. Of course you have to use gas to run the engine to not get too cold and it's still a bit scary. I was allowed to stay two weeks until I got a place to rent. The patrol officers asked me after a week if I had a place to go, and I said I thought I did, but it wasn't available yet. They said okay, to stay another week, but that it was illegal to park more than a few days, and they'd let me slide.

The church also gave me fast food coupons so that I could have a hot egg mcmuffin in the morning and a sandwich in the afternoon. It was a little church, none of the major churches would even let me park in their parking lot because they said their insurance wouldn't allow it.

My only possessions were in the vehicle. I hope you are packing up and deciding what to take with you. Let us know how things go, you will likely be offline for a while.

[firsttimer]

20. For all it's faults

Another safe place to camp out is a Walmart parking lot believe it or not.

And they let you .

[ChisolmTrailDem]

30. It's true. A couple of years ago I got caught broke waiting to start a job in Orlando and

I was staying in my truck in the parking lot of a exercise trail head and was quite comfortable until a cop pulled up in front of my truck and knocked on my window. After he ran my name, etc, he advised me that the park was closed but that I could go the Walmart parking lot and stay there for the night. And that's exactly what I did for a week or so.

[Bennyboy]

51. No they don't.....

In fact they are very harsh to overnight campers now.

[Left Coast2020]

32. I'm hoping for someplace where I can change into suit and tie for interview...

If it comes up. Not storing suits or pants for this purpose. And for a shower too.

[Cha]

21. May you have all the strength and

peace you need, Left Coast, to get you through this difficult transition in your life.

I was homeless for awhile but it was way back in the '80s. Two other times I had a van to live in.. one was in San Diego County in the late '80s and the other was on Kaua'i in the early '90s. Of course, it was so much different back then. I got away with it. But, there's a kid who works downstairs now who lives in his Van.. Very surreptitiously.

Cathartic to tell the world how you feel.

[LeftyMom]

31. Unsolicited advice (worth what you paid for it): You should probably be more specific.

This isn't the first thread you've posted about this, and people have offered to help (myself included) but you've been pretty vague about where you are and what you need. If you don't want to do so for a safety or privacy reason that's perfectly understandable, but I don't know what you expect anybody to do if you're not saying where you are (other than north of Fairfield, and that you'd rather be in Fairfield of all places for some unspecified reason.) You should probably also say what you're trying to do (get an apartment, get an assisted housing placement, get a couch to sleep on for a few weeks until you find work?) and what you've got to work with, and what the complications are in your life that makes that difficult.

edit: BTW, social services in your county may offer a homelessness diversion program. You should check into that right away if it's an option. Essentially the point of it is that if you're going to lose your housing and you can document this, you have the option of receiving a lump sum payment to help you get into new housing (ie roughly enough for a deposit on a new place) as an alternative to receiving monthly assistance. Since the whole point of the program is to prevent an emergency situation from getting worse, they can generally get those payments out quickly. I don't know if that's even going to help in your circumstances (because I'm not totally sure what the deal is) but I'm throwing that out there and maybe if it doesn't help you it can help somebody else in the same boat.

[Nabbysensei]

35. Agree with LeftyMom

I would like to help but I need more info.

[No Vested Interest]

40. Have you contacted the St. Vincent dePaul Society? Are you familiar with

their work?
You can google St Vincent dePaul Society California. Under "Sacramento" a number of nearby cities, including Fairfield are listed. I did not see in your postings the name of your current town, but 27 different cities/towns in No. California are listed there, including Fairfield and Vacaville.

St. Vincent dePaul helps with rent payment. They make a home visit, so you would, as suggested above, need to stay in your current place at this time. They do not proselytize, so your religion or lack of religion does not matter.

In Sept. a DUer was looking for assistance with his expenses. I recommended St. Vincent dePaul and he was able to contact them and get needed assistance, even though he said on DU that he was not a religious person.

Best wishes to you over the next few days and weeks.

[Left Coast2020]

46. Well I didn't mean to be vague

I always thought that giving specific locations online was not a good idea. Its just been a habit I've had for protectional purposes. At least thats what I was led to believe. I think you can understand that. If you need specifics, I'm currently in Rocklin--east of Roseville which is up the freeway from Sac/Citrus Heights area.

And I am familar with St Vincent, but not their programs. I will call in morning. Being in this situation is overwhelming. It has an adverse affect on yout mental ability's from too much stress. I hope you will understand that.

[kelliekat44]

55. If you have a skill, offer it in return for a place to stay temporarily. Somtimes giving is getting

I know this is hard on you but never believe you are alone. We are all pulling for you. What looks like a bad situation right now may be launching you into a much better situation than the one you were in. Hope!!

[Blue Diadem]

69. Roseville has a transitional program

http://www.rocklin.ca.us/depts/develop/housing/housing_assistance/transitional_housing.asp

There's an emergency overnight housing link on that page should you need that.

[No Vested Interest]

71. I do understand that being under duress as you are now

can lead to too many thoughts, ideas swirling around in your brain, making it hard to zero in on one at a time to figure out the best choices available to you.

It's good that you are reaching out via DU, borrowing some of the best minds (!) around.

It might help every few hours to sit or lie down and try to clear your mind, by breathing deeply and repeating one or a few calming words over and over.
Ex. "Peace".

I'll have you in prayerful thought as you work through this problem over the next few days.
Peace.

[riderinthestorm]

73. Rocklin to Fairfield is 64 miles down I-80. Can you locate the nearest Greyhound station?

There's a Greyhound station in Roseville that seems to run to Fairfield. I didn't research how much it would cost since I'm not sure how much "stuff" you have to transport.

If you contact OneGrassRoot here on DU, she can guide you on how to set up a donation site for paypal. I'd happily donate to get you on a bus to shelter in Fairfield.

Or maybe you can find a ride through Craigslist?



It seems as though its close enough that we could get you there with some coordination.

[Lady Freedom Returns]

74. You can have a carry on that is 25 pounds and a check in that wieghs 50.

That is from my experience. You can also tack the bags in the day before to weigh them if you are unsure.

[riderinthestorm]

81. A 50 lb bag is usually a very large suitcase in my experience.

That plus a large carry-on would certainly get him/her out of the house with enough clothes for the moment. If they can get to Fairfield and get the help they believe is there, then they can maybe arrange help to get the rest of their stuff from Rocklin to Fairfield.

I hope LeftCoast checks back in. I think there's a lot of help here on DU for him/her....

[Lady Freedom Returns]

83. I hope so too!

This is not going to be easy.

And to Left Coast2020: if you need any advice or just some on to vent to, Please DU mail me!

[defacto7]

49. I'm really sorry Left Coast2020

I also wish I had the ability to help. These are time I had hoped America would not have to revisit. But here we are and the answers are a long time in coming for all of us.

Stay well and hang in there...

[toby jo]

52. Don't know your travel options, but the midwest is good for jobs in the

oil/gas fields. The technical training is generally not too long. Here in Ohio there is a 4-week program, the job placement rate is about 85%, and the starting pay is $60,000 and up. One vet got a job welding, another painting, there is electrical work, etc., and knock-off work,such as security. Other jobs are picking up, too, like in the service sector with equipment maintenance, food service, etc. If you don't want to work in that industry, well, just use it for awhile to get some cash up and move on. The training can serve you well in other industries. I think SD is the biggest right now. Not a good place to head off to in Jan for sure.

Don't hang me on principal here, folks. Joblessness, homelessness, are serious issues. Unless you've been there, stfu.

Good luck, Left Coast. (Parks are good places to find showers if the weather where you are is warm enough ) .

[JNelson6563]

57. I sure wish you were closer to MI!

I have pretty modest digs but it's warm and clean and you would certainly be welcome to crash here! Sadly I am in northern MI which would probably be impossible for you to get to.

I've been in similar situation to yours and it is VERY hard! I made it through simply because I would not give up! I think you don't want to give up either or you wouldn't be reaching out to your DU family like this.

Please know you are not alone! Have you considered a post on Wishadoo? Many of us here barely get by (like myself) but we do our best to step up when there's a problem.

Hugs and encouragement!

Julie

[panader0]

60. If I was faced with your situation,

I would get some good camping gear, a tent, a down mummy bag, a fishing pole, etc., and go to a national park.
This is not for everyone, especially when it's cold. There are some beautiful places with natural hot springs and pure water.
It might even be a great experience. No offense intended.

[Chrom]

62. check ads in paper for older people looking for companion/care provider

There are so many lonely old people out there, living in huge homes, who have small needs that you might fill.

Being a certified nurse isn't a requirement, I see ads all the time, room in a home, person just needs someone to do chores, grocery shopping etc.

You get somewhere to live, they get to stay in their home with freedom.

[sunnystarr]

63. Actually you may have time

If you want to use it. I know in TN once you've lived with someone for two weeks they can't just kick you out. They have to give you 30 days notice and then if you don't leave they have to go to court to evict you. This could buy you some time to arrange a better living situation for yourself. Check into local laws. If the person you live with gets violent in any way you can get a protection order and the court will remove them from their home until the court date.

This actually happened to my son, who owned his home, there was no lease he was just being a good Samaritan. He didn't get violent at all but there was an argument and she called the police and accused him of assault (which never happened). He was arrested and then out of his home for about 6 weeks until he could get the eviction order executed and the other charge resolved.

[woolldog]

90. wow, kind of makes one think twice about offering a strranger a place to stay. nt

[sorefeet]

64. What are your talents

The oil patch is crazy with jobs. That is North Dakota and eastern Montana. I mean thousands of jobs. Can you drive a truck? They are paying 80-100 thousand a year to drive a stupid truck. McDonalds pays 18 bucks an hour and cannot get help. Places to live are extremely hard to find BUT there are many, many people doing it and are making huge once in a lifetime money. It's the oil patch. The wild west atmosphere. Right now it's really cold in North Dakota so it isn't easy. I don't know how old you are but if I were a younger man or woman looking for an adventure of a life, I would head for the patch. And you are welcome to flop at my place until the weather gets a little better. I live about 300 miles from the oil fields. You do need a car. Combined time I probably have 2 years living in a car. I know what you have to do to survive. If you have your health things aren't as bad as you think.

[NMDemDist2]

88. southern NM and west Texas too n/t

[Katashi_itto]

65. Set up a paypal and ask the admin if you can ask for donations here on DU

[Lady Freedom Returns]

70. First of all, you are doing the right thing trying to control your emotions!

Getting really upset right now is natural, but it is not going to help you right now. It can actually block your ability to think right. Right now you will need your head clear.

Next, start to call shelters, also find out if there are what is know as walk in centers in your area. These places can help you with mail and with many, laundry and showers.

Also find out where they give lunches out in your area. That is where ( I know this sounds weird) most of your networking will happen to find out many programs that some places may not know about that can help you right now.

At this point, you can get started doing this so you can have some of the info ready.

And hang in there! It feels pretty dark right now, but as long as you keep your head, there can and WILL be light at the end of the trail!

[msanthrope]

75. Are you renting a room? You may have legal recourse to stay and I'd like to help you

but I need to know a few things...

One...are you renting a room? Staying in a house? Do you have a way of locking your door? You are in California, right?

[grasswire]

84. that's very kind of you to offer your expert help, msanthrope

I was wondering if he/she had received lawful notice to vacate.

[ohheckyeah]

77. I hope you'll come back to the thread...

and give some more information so people can help you.

[No Vested Interest]

85. Hopefully, Leftcoast is busy making phone calls, etc. this morning

using some of the info provided on this site yesterday and today.

[ohheckyeah]

87. I hope so. n/t

[Liberal_in_LA]

95. yes, I wish the best for him/her