Posting PM's

[DainBramaged]

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Bad form or entertaining?


Sometimes the lack of maturity can cause one to post a PM, other times, and innocent PM can be twisted to mean something completely different.


hat say you?

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	Bad form, rude and reflects badly on the person who posted it.
	3 (60%)
	Meh
	2 (40%)
	I don't get many PM's so no opinion
	0 (0%)
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[hrmjustin]

1. One should always behave.

I use the PM system all the time to talk to friends.

[DainBramaged]

2. There are some who even when trying to make friends, they twist and turn a PM to embarrass

sad that they think they can do that.

[hrmjustin]

5. I PM people I know. I never Pm anyone who I am having a disagreement with.

I say keep it out in the open and try to be civil. I have at times gotten into it with a member or two but I always keep my cool. My rule is always assume if you go over any line a someone will alert on you. That includes PMs

As for PMing someone that you are trying to make nice with but it goes bad, remember to save the mail.

[BainsBane]

6. I get PMs with gunners

demanding this or that from me. I've told them to quit stalking me. Ironically, some of those people complained about my posting in the gungeon, after harassing me via PM.

[hrmjustin]

8. Put them on mail ignore. Don't get into it with them. But remember Mail alert and mail ignore is

your friend.

[BainsBane]

11. the only problem

Is then I can't be a juror on their posts. They could very well have me on their jury blacklists already, but I can't be sure about that.

[hrmjustin]

14. Are you sure about this? This might be a question for ATA.

You can always alert on their mail. By them mailing you that keeps you from sitting on a jury for them for 24 hours I believe. Also if they don't like you they may have you on their jury blacklist. Do you sit on juries for gunners often?

[BainsBane]

16. Skinner already answered it in ATA

He said any kind of ignore makes you ineligible to serve on their juries. No, I don't often sit on their juries. I did once about ten days ago and the post was hidden.

[hrmjustin]

18. Thanks I did not know that. I know if you have one on your jury blacklist that you

can still sit on a jury about them. I asked Skinner about that.

I did not realize they did that to you. You should send some to me when you get them and we can discuss it.

[BainsBane]

21. It's not that big of a deal

I told them not to PM me. It's usually demanding I provide them with evidence of some kind. I'm not sure if they send them because they are locked out of a thread or because I don't get to reading all of their posts when they leave me so damn many.
I told the last one I would report him to Skinner if he continued. If they kept it up even after that, I would use ignore.

[hrmjustin]

24. You are braver than I am. I am not really knowledgeable about guns or gun laws.

I would be happy to live in a world without them but I know we are not going to have that. So I am a supporter of gun control. I do not post in the gun room because I would be afraid of being outmatched. But you are very brave to go in there.

[BainsBane]

25. I don't consider it bravery

You might have noticed I'm not reticent to speak my mind.

[DainBramaged]

9. Well, making peace with morons is a hard task, I learned that today

When they are so utterly full of themselves they have to inform everyone of their intelligence, education, and learned important opinion, they become nothing but vapor in a fog.


And then it becomes laughable.

[BainsBane]

10. I think I may know who you're talking about

If so, it's not worth making peace.

[CakeGrrl]

3. Meh, but it'd be interesting

if some of the PM posters were also some of the most vehement critics of what they believe the NSA to be doing.

[Ohio Joe]

4. I went pass but it's really just an option not given...

I'm perfectly fine with PM's being posted. Both parties have full copies so if anyone tries to do anything funny, the truth will come out for all to see.

[bluestate10]

7. I consider a PM to be private correspondence between me and another DU member.

There is no way that I would post a PM.

[MADem]

12. I think it is a good idea to NEVER say anything in a DUmail (they aren't Private Mail anymore) that

would discommode you overmuch if it were published on the board.

It's a "quiet sidebar" of a conversation, not really entirely private.

The admins have always been able to read our names.

[defacto7]

13. You mean people actually PM each other?

Wow.... I thought that was just an unused function of board software that everyone ignores.

hmmmm... how many users are there on this site? Let me see....

[RC]

15. Never send a PM you don't want to see posted. Problem solved.

Other than that they are fair game.

[reusrename]

17. It's pretty inconsiderate.

Should get the person's permission before publishing their emails.

[loli phabay]

19. if one receives a pm that is abusive then it should be posted

I think the lack of maturity is in the one who sends other posters abuse and hides behind the sanctity of pm's.

[petronius]

20. It depends, I think:

If a DM is sent to share private or personal information, or to explore a tangent that might otherwise distract from a thread, or has some other 'good faith' purpose, then I think it would be wrong to post it.

But if a DM is simply a different style of slap in a conversation that has already devolved to a flamefest, then posting it is no better or worse than sending it in the first place.

And if a DM is sent to bully, stalk, harass, or provoke, then perhaps sharing it is the best disinfectant.

Personally, I won't put anything in a DM that I wouldn't be willing to see out on DU, unless I know and trust the recipient...

[NYC_SKP]

22. Not classy. Shouldn't be done except under extreme circumstances.

And these circumstances rarely occur.

[Apophis]

23. There's a reason they're called "private messages."

[azurnoir]

26. sorry locking could repost as a question in AtA

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