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When I was a little girl, the GOP had a reputation for being planners, long-term thinkers. Slow to act, deliberate, cautious. The Democrats, on the other hand, were considered a bit on the hasty side, so anxious to advance their agenda that they often moved too strongly and abruptly before the electorate was ready for that much change.
How strange, that the roles have so thoroughly reversed in my lifetime.
The GOP now seems to have no memory, and no concept of a future that goes beyond a few days, weeks, months. Victory this minute, no matter what the cost.
But I have a memory. A very vivid memory.
I have a memory of a time when my older sister's classmate didn't show up for school one day. And then we heard she'd died from some mysterious, unnamed condition. And finally the truth was shared, only in whispers- she'd died from a self-induced abortion. She was 15.
I have a memory of a time when my mother was denied a mortgage because even though she had a stable full-time job and an income adequate to make the payments, she was a divorced woman and she did not have a man to co-sign the mortgage agreement.
I have a memory of a time when her delightful co-workers at the carpentry shop broke into my sister's locker and urinated in her work boots to hint to her that people who didn't have penises weren't supposed to be union carpenters.
I have a memory of being laughed at and shamed when the priest at the Catholic school I attended visited our class to ask for volunteers to serve at the altar during Mass, and I volunteered. I was too stupid to realize a penis was required to serve God.
I have a memory of being catcalled and hooted at when taking a walk with another woman, and holding hands, by a carload of pissant privileged adolescents who hollered homophobic slurs at us. (The woman I was holding hands with was my mother...)
I have a memory of being discouraged from enlisting in the U.S. Navy because women could not serve in the specialties I was interested in, and would not be allowed the sea duty required to qualify for promotions.
I have a memory of being told that it was okay for me to do badly in math, because I was a girl and girls just weren't good at math. I was not allowed to sign up for the summer remedial courses, as they were already full. Of boys, apparently.
I have a memory of being date raped.
I have a memory of being called "whore", "bitch", "slut", "skag", "hosebag", "dog", and other epithets and told that I was too ugly to be any kind of a success.
I have many, many memories of being told to keep quiet, not to be 'aggressive', not to be 'unladylike', not to be "bitchy", not to take offense when men commented crudely on women in my presence.
I have memories of teachers and bosses letting me know in ways subtle and not-so-subtle that if I would gratify them sexually I would be considered for better grades, promotions, etc.
I have a memory of a good friend's mother committing suicide some months after being given a hysterectomy without her permission, to cure her "mental dysmorphia" and mood disorders.
I have a memory of the woman two houses up knocking at our back door and asking if we had any burn ointment because she'd had a "terrible accident" with the stove. The "terrible accident" also blacked her eye and sprained her wrist.
I have many, many more memories of what it was like before Roe v. Wade, before women like Ruth Bader Ginsburg fought for equal rights under the law for human beings born without a penis.
I am not the only one with those memories.
We.
Will.
Not.
Go.
Back.
The GOP has NO idea what it is awakening.
None.
Because between the time of those memories, and now, millions of women have experienced a small modicum of equity... a little freedom, a little control over our choices and destinies.
And millions of girls have grown up expecting nothing less. Millions.
No, we will not go quietly.
The GOP has somehow believed it could oppress "minorities" with impunity... there would always be enough powerful white men with privileges to protect, to enable them in their evil.
But women are not a "minority."
If they thought we were uppity back in the seventies....?
They ain't seen NOTHIN' yet.
The whirlwind is coming.
determinedly,
Bright
lunatica
(53,410 posts)and Im sure as hell not going back to those days.
And I dont know of a single woman, or man for that matter, who will give up hard won empowerment and freedom for whatever shit they want to replace them with. Who the hell prefers the good old days when we had less rights? Thats nuts!
LiberalLoner
(9,762 posts)SharonAnn
(13,778 posts)Hekate
(90,793 posts)When I think of the sheer evil of those who want to send us and our daughters and granddaughters back, and how far they have advanced their agenda how tireless they are, how they are in the actual minority but hold so much power. And Mitch McConnell laughed, the evil fck.
Thank you for being strong tonight. Somehow I am having trouble stopping these tears.
TygrBright
(20,763 posts)fierywoman
(7,694 posts)secondwind
(16,903 posts)elleng
(131,107 posts)Bongo Prophet
(2,651 posts)Respect.
Blue Owl
(50,498 posts)liberaltrucker
(9,130 posts)"They have awakened a sleeping giant
and filled her with a terrible resolve".
Hell hath no fury.....
dchill
(38,532 posts)...like a nation scorned.
liberaltrucker
(9,130 posts)GoneOffShore
(17,340 posts)denbot
(9,901 posts)I will back you for the rest of my years!
Peace.
Mister Ed
(5,943 posts)Beyond that, I'm left speechless by the power of your post. I can only repeat: thank you. Thank you.
alwaysinasnit
(5,072 posts)FuzzyRabbit
(1,969 posts)Powerful words.
UCmeNdc
(9,600 posts)ecdab
(930 posts)It's up to all of us to make sure the whirlwind forms and that some barbed wire gets caught up in so lessons are properly learned.
a la izquierda
(11,797 posts)Between this and that monstrous Geneva Consensus Declaration, my Human Rights and Women class today is going to be something else.
Burn. It. Down.
quakerboy
(13,921 posts)I think they see the future.
And they see they have no significant future.
Unless they can overthrow our democratic system and voting and prevent people from having their say.
Freddie
(9,273 posts)This is exactly how I feel. Thank you.
TygrBright
(20,763 posts)bobandrileysmom
(27 posts)Freddie
(9,273 posts)raccoon
(31,119 posts)Demsrule86
(68,667 posts)drmeow
(5,024 posts)as I do now.
My brother said (with a tone of horror) what are we going to do if Trump wins and the first thing that came into my head was "go to war" and I've lived through a civil war and know that is absolutely the last resort to be used only if the alternative is worse. A second Trump term would be worse.
TygrBright
(20,763 posts)drmeow
(5,024 posts)We're in a cold civil war and have been since Johnson
lunatica
(53,410 posts)But if it does then well have to deal with it. Well have to figure it out when we get there.
lark
(23,156 posts)Even in 1973, I was not allowed to buy glasses because I refused to use my husbands' name when signing the check. The check was in the joint name of Mr. (first name) Sweat and Mrs. (first name) Sweat. I was nearly blind without them and had trouble getting the right bus to go home (couldn't see the bus #) but I refused to write Mrs. his first name Sweat on the check because that is not my name and it wasn't the name on the checks!
Abortions were still illegal in FL, so we got a crew of women who helped out each other so no one was forced to have an unwanted baby. I almost killed myself before that trying to force an abortion when I was 17.
No one should have to go thru that now. It's just heinous what the fucking handmaiden and SCOTUS rw friends will do to American women.
PatSeg
(47,587 posts)I remember as well. A lot of younger people take so much for granted, they have little idea what it was like not all that long ago. We're not going back.
BComplex
(8,064 posts)from a botched back-room abortion. She was the kindest, most gentle soul, and she was just 18. She was never able to have children after that.
You're so right, TygrBright: they have no friggin' idea about what they've started.
MineralMan
(146,329 posts)I especially remember that, in my small California rural town, some girls, who were part of what passed for the "better folks" in town, received abortions from one of the doctors in that town. Girls not part of that set, on the other hand, had no such access to quiet D&C procedures in that doctor's office. Nobody ever bothered that doctor, by the way.
I remember that, because I knew girls in both sectors of that small town's society, who entrusted me with that information.
I and other men have your back. Truly we do.
cry baby
(6,682 posts)so its so incredibly important that those of us that lived through times like the ones you describe yell to the rafters that were in real danger.
Ive told my 20 something kids that I remember my mother trying to get a credit card. She was told that my dad would have to co-sign and it would be in his name.
Pathwalker
(6,598 posts)Always remember, never forget, ever onward!
crickets
(25,983 posts)We will NOT go back. We will not let the girls of today go through all of that again. We won the battles to get where we are today, and we will not cede those victories.
WE WILL STAND STRONG.
RobinA
(9,894 posts)a couple years ago who was maybe two years older than I am. I'm 62. She was not good at math in high school, so she went to the guidance counselor (Do NOT get me started.) to ask for help with math because she wanted to go to college. The guidance counselor (a woman) told her that "with those looks, honey, you won't ever have to learn math." Grrrrr
Atticus
(15,124 posts)"opening a vein" and letting truth flow.
TruckFump
(5,812 posts)Your post is outstanding. One of the best, very best, I have read on what it was like before Angels like RBG fought for our rights.
Whatever I can do: WE WILL NEVER GO BACK!!!
This is war!
yonder
(9,674 posts)lambchopp59
(2,809 posts)Fight with all activist groups I had time to join, pour my heart and soul for equality, fairness and eracism just to have it all rolled back to regurgitated 1960's KKK style nutjobbery now, in da name ub Jeebus.
We've come too far, fought too hard, lost our brothers and sisters in arms, lived through a previous ignored pandemic by some of these same fux, shamed the Westboro idiots into irrelevancy, made common and scientific sense all along
Just to have it all torn down by blithering, hate filled idiots now.
MFM008
(19,818 posts)I have a number of those same memories.
Your right.
We arent going back.
bdamomma
(63,922 posts)and sadly written.
We will not go back. Plus we have women in Congress who will not move out the way. Nancy, Maxine, Barbara Lee, Sheila Jackson Lee,
Amy Klobachur, Elizabeth Warren, Jackie Spier, AOC, and the list goes on and on.
There will be a sea of pink in DC, we did it back in 2017 we will do it again.
WE WILL RISE!!!
Karadeniz
(22,572 posts)MizLibby
(289 posts)tiredtoo
(2,949 posts)Going to copy and paste on my Facebook page.
Botany
(70,581 posts)After Russia, Trump, many members of the GOP, and Fox installed Trump it was the Women's marches all over
America that put the resist back into the resistance. And yes all "those pissed off women" are going to get their
pound of flesh from Mr. Trump.
wnylib
(21,606 posts)Helen Reddy's words again, which gave me so much courage in the 1970's.
I am woman, hear me roar
In numbers too big to ignore
And I know too much to go back and pretend
'Cause I've heard it all before
And I've been down there on the floor
No one's ever going to keep me down again.
Yes, I am wise, but It's wisdom born of pain.
Yes, I've paid a price, but look how much I've gained.
If I have to, I can do anything.
I am strong.
I am invincible.
I am WOMAN.
You can bend but never break me
'Cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal.
And I come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
'Cause you've deepened the conviction in my soul.
Yes, I am wise, but it's wisdom born of pain.
Yes, I've paid a price, but look how much I've gained.
If I have to, I can do anything.
I am strong.
I am invincible.
I am WOMAN.
I am woman, watch me grow
See me standing toe to to
As I spread my loving arms across the land.
But I'm still an embryo,
With a long, long way to go
Until I make my brother understand.
Yes, I am wise, but it's wisdom born of pain.
Yes I've paid a price, but look how much I've gained.
If I have to, I can do anything.
I am strong.
I am invincible.
I am WOMAN.
BlueSpot
(856 posts)PatrickforO
(14,587 posts)and now, I hope to God, they will reap the whirlwind.
This evil thing the Republican party has become - we still have the power to get rid of it, to excise it, but only just.
canetoad
(17,184 posts)I share similar memories and experiences and flat-out refuse to go back to those days.
Grace72
(1 post)I've been a long time reader here but never registered until now because of this post. This is so powerful and as a woman and a mother of three daughters I cant thank you enough for being able to write such an empowering post.
The Magistrate
(95,255 posts)It deserves a full=page spread in the Times.