Two years and three months.
For two years and three months I have been doing 24/7 home care for my mom. It is just my sister and I. It has been the hardest job in my life.
It was lonely from the beginning and now devastatingly so with the pandemic and my sister going through a second surgery. I am isolated caring for two. I am exhausted every day. I sleep (sort of) with a baby monitor in my bed and a cell phone at my side. Mom knows to call me when she needs me so even in my awake hours the phone is in hand or at my side. I plan showers and chores around her nap time and even then I check the phone every five minutes.
When the pandemic started we let hospice workers go. We had no choice at the time. We were trying to keep mom safe. We started up again this week with HHS coming in to shower her three times a week. She was evaluated today to see if she still qualifies for hospice. She is mentally aware, yet weak and on oxygen 24/7...congestive heart failure. She has suffered two strokes and blind in one eye. If they decide to drop her, we lose everything.
If mom had been in a nursing home she would be dead. Fact.
Mom will be celebrating her Birthday tomorrow. She will be 94.
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You are so very kind.
If only...
And may the Goddess of Caregivers shine light on you!
It wouldn't be so hard this go around if it weren't for the pandemic.
My sisters last surgery, we had HHS and another care giver that mom's insurance covered most of. She was here 8-10 hours a week. She did showers, lunch and laundry. I could go out, see friends, do chores and sleep! 
Thanks, sweetie.
You are a blessing to your family.
And Happy Birthday Mom!
She finally called in a home care worker to help because my grandmother fell and broke her hip and wrist. I will have you in my prayers and I commend you for the tough job you and your sisters are doing.
Oh, and Happy 94th birthday to your mother too!
been there, done that... I know
and "Hang in there, you're fantastic!" to YOU!
I did what you are doing, and I know, boy do I know.
My mom made it to 94. Somehow that made this post of yours feel even more personal.
It's been eight years since Mom finally got to exit this world. I still have the baby monitor. And so many other things that helped me take care of her, and my dad.
As someone further up-thread said, I wish I could come and help you.
I remember it being the most stressful and exhausting time in my life. And I would have done it for 20 years more if that's what it took. I did it for seven years.
In addition to being stressful and exhausting, it was also the most love-filled and rewarding time of my life.
I cherish every minute I got to spend with my mom and dad.
Every time I thought I couldn't take another step, I would remember that it was all about love.
May that same love surround you and your mom and your sister.
From one daughter to another; one day at a time, one hour at a time, one minute at a time. And always remember to pat yourself on the back. Whether you believe in them or not, you are doing the work of angels.
You are a good daughter and sister.
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Caring for elderly parents is hard enough but with the pandemic it’s been a source of major stress for many.
You’re amazing, sheshe.
Try hard to find ways to take care you within your hectic schedule. I know that is almost impossible, but it is necessary for you to stay healthy. Blessings on you, sheshe2! 
