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onecaliberal

(32,777 posts)
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 12:46 AM Aug 2019

What are some of the things you are doing to keep yourself from staying angry?

I struggle to move on from one heinous thing he does or says before he destroys something else. I’ve never been so anxious and pissed off for so long.

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What are some of the things you are doing to keep yourself from staying angry? (Original Post) onecaliberal Aug 2019 OP
This will end. Turbineguy Aug 2019 #1
The country is so ready for that. onecaliberal Aug 2019 #2
I'm waiting for that moment... MontanaMama Aug 2019 #54
I watch movies and paint and draw. lunatica Aug 2019 #3
Exercise, man (woman)! Watch an old comedy like 'Blazing saddles'. triron Aug 2019 #4
Exercise, cook, read malaise Aug 2019 #32
Block him if you use twitter EndGOPPropaganda Aug 2019 #5
He blocked me before he was even elected. I mute him and turn the Chanel when he's on tv onecaliberal Aug 2019 #7
:) that's the way! EndGOPPropaganda Aug 2019 #43
Take life day by day, and not let myself stay angry. Or even GET angry. Archae Aug 2019 #6
I'm going to vote, let's hope our votes count or are not changed. onecaliberal Aug 2019 #10
Long walks in my forest, and old movies... Talitha Aug 2019 #8
Sounds so peaceful. onecaliberal Aug 2019 #11
aside from banging my head with a rock certainot Aug 2019 #9
I want to stay angry...it prevents all of this from becoming "normal". BigmanPigman Aug 2019 #12
I love to hold my fur baby too. onecaliberal Aug 2019 #15
You are working a couple of jobs right now BigmanPigman Aug 2019 #19
Thank you. Just trying to muddle through. onecaliberal Aug 2019 #20
Used to have a cigarette KT2000 Aug 2019 #13
I quit 15 years ago. onecaliberal Aug 2019 #16
Back to Mother Nature PandoraAwakened Aug 2019 #14
Part of it is the continuous assault that doesn't stop. It's exhausting. onecaliberal Aug 2019 #18
Drinking a lot of craft beer. n/t customerserviceguy Aug 2019 #17
I took up crocheting again after many years yellowdogintexas Aug 2019 #21
Maybe that would work for me True Blue American Aug 2019 #29
Watch funny/interesting stuff on youtube sakabatou Aug 2019 #22
Me too! When I can't sleep I particularly like animal rescue clips.. hope for paws is great Thekaspervote Aug 2019 #24
I read constantly. True Blue American Aug 2019 #30
Do you feel it dilutes the books... cilla4progress Aug 2019 #56
I'm not cilia, but NJCher Aug 2019 #61
So far True Blue American Aug 2019 #64
anticipating... quickesst Aug 2019 #23
Mostly work out. GaYellowDawg Aug 2019 #25
Listen to Alan Watts on You Tube Captain Zero Aug 2019 #26
Sounds delicious cilla4progress Aug 2019 #57
thanks NJCher Aug 2019 #62
Binge watching Brit and Swedish mysteries, and reading mysteries. Waiting enthusiastically for emmaverybo Aug 2019 #27
Woodworking. right now I'm on my 4th variation of the Leopold bench. Its helpful. Kurt V. Aug 2019 #28
Had to look those up...they like cool! Lars39 Aug 2019 #39
keep balance handmade34 Aug 2019 #31
Gardening. Give me a weedy string bean patch these days and I'm in heaven. Vinca Aug 2019 #33
Re- cilla4progress Aug 2019 #58
Hoarse. LOL. Vinca Aug 2019 #67
There are a number of things I do to forget Trump PJMcK Aug 2019 #34
The Twilight Zone. Everyman Jackal Aug 2019 #35
I'm writing a book. Tommy_Carcetti Aug 2019 #36
What a cool thing to do. I hope we get to read it. onecaliberal Aug 2019 #48
I've been procrastinating on getting back into tracking family history... Frustratedlady Aug 2019 #37
....... Tanuki Aug 2019 #38
Thanks! Good one! Rhiannon12866 Aug 2019 #41
Borovicka, mostly. Igel Aug 2019 #40
Baking cookies and grilling hamburgers dustyscamp Aug 2019 #42
Nothing... ConnorMarc Aug 2019 #44
Indon't want to not be angry. SlogginThroughIt Aug 2019 #45
I garden, read, watch British shows. Sometimes I just take a break from the news for a day or 2. Luciferous Aug 2019 #46
Exercise and eat right. Yavin4 Aug 2019 #47
I stay mad. I pound the walls, throw stuff, yell obscenities Patterson Aug 2019 #49
I'm fine with being angry. Anger is a motivator. And it's preferable to despair. (n/t) Spider Jerusalem Aug 2019 #50
Planting plants that should be planting in the fall alittlelark Aug 2019 #51
This is one of the hardest times to be going it alone. AJT Aug 2019 #52
Oh - sending positive thoughts your way! cilla4progress Aug 2019 #59
Thank you for your good vibes. AJT Aug 2019 #71
Watch the wonderful animal videos that DUer catbyte... 3catwoman3 Aug 2019 #53
Lexapro, work, superhero movies/tv and my annoying 13-year old. RandySF Aug 2019 #55
2008 Olafjoy Aug 2019 #60
I take the long view NJCher Aug 2019 #63
Binge watching Hulu/Netflix/Britbox SoCalDem Aug 2019 #65
Cut your time down to a bare minimum on boards like this Raine Aug 2019 #66
I work ten hours a day plus care for my husband so I'm not even close to overdosing on this or any onecaliberal Aug 2019 #68
I can see you have plenty of work that keeps you busy Raine Aug 2019 #69
The Best Thing RobinA Aug 2019 #70
Great thread! cilla4progress Aug 2019 #72

MontanaMama

(23,295 posts)
54. I'm waiting for that moment...
Thu Aug 8, 2019, 12:47 AM
Aug 2019

The corporate shills who employ the undocumented. When they lose their employees because they’ve been deported or are too afraid of coming to work for fear of being deported...WTAF? Lazy deplorable tRump suckers don’t want those jobs! The damage done so far seems irreparable.

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
3. I watch movies and paint and draw.
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 12:52 AM
Aug 2019

I’m retired so the work grind is done. I have no use for the anxiety I used to.

triron

(21,984 posts)
4. Exercise, man (woman)! Watch an old comedy like 'Blazing saddles'.
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 12:53 AM
Aug 2019

Volunteer if you have the time or inclination. Just try to keep busy. Get therapy.
It is a challenge. I have never been so emotional in my life except when I went through
divorce.

Archae

(46,301 posts)
6. Take life day by day, and not let myself stay angry. Or even GET angry.
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 01:02 AM
Aug 2019

Because what good is getting or staying angry?

I plan on voting in the next elections. (Gee, I wonder which party I will NOT be voting for?)

onecaliberal

(32,777 posts)
10. I'm going to vote, let's hope our votes count or are not changed.
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 01:07 AM
Aug 2019

I work full time, maybe I need to walk more and try meditation.

Talitha

(6,561 posts)
8. Long walks in my forest, and old movies...
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 01:03 AM
Aug 2019

Nature and sanity.
They don't cure the crap that shitler is spewing.
But they provide a momentary breath of fresh air.

 

certainot

(9,090 posts)
9. aside from banging my head with a rock
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 01:05 AM
Aug 2019

i do things i hope will get him out sooner, and try to focus on those

that piece of shit is such an incredible waste of time and effort that could be spent elsewhere much more productively

BigmanPigman

(51,567 posts)
12. I want to stay angry...it prevents all of this from becoming "normal".
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 01:09 AM
Aug 2019

Anger creates action. I am an activist and I will fight for my country if I can. I make calls, write letters, boycott, protest, etc. My health is finally failing and I am unable to do what I would like to do and what I have been doing to stop this disaster of an administration. If I die before he is gone at least I will know I did my best. RESIST!

*To reduce anxiety I have a wonderful little dog who is hanging in there for me (I have been told this by many people). Holding her immediately reduces my blood pressure, even if CNN is on with Breaking News.

onecaliberal

(32,777 posts)
15. I love to hold my fur baby too.
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 01:16 AM
Aug 2019

I have written letters but it’s been a while. I have resgistered people to vote, driven folks to the polls, made calls and wrote postcards. I used to be an elected member of my county democratic central committee.

Since my husband had a stroke almost 3 years ago, it’s a lot harder to get out and volunteer. I also work full time.

BigmanPigman

(51,567 posts)
19. You are working a couple of jobs right now
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 01:21 AM
Aug 2019

all at the same time. Good for you!!! Stay strong and healthy.

PandoraAwakened

(905 posts)
14. Back to Mother Nature
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 01:12 AM
Aug 2019

I went camping for 10 days, something I haven't done in decades. Reconnecting with nature while sitting on a canyon rim was an immense stress reliever. And then, of course, the forced disconnection (via zero cell service in the mountains I went to) was a great way to regain perspective & purge the senseless noise of the Rethuglicans & their ridiculous Putin's Puppet.

yellowdogintexas

(22,231 posts)
21. I took up crocheting again after many years
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 03:07 AM
Aug 2019

It is relaxing
I play Farmville; I am in complete control of that world and there is no stress there (besides it is cute as hell)

Play with my cats
read totally escapist fiction

I also work hard with our local Democratic Woman's Club, fundraising for the women who will be on our ballot in the November 2020 general election. We don't start giving money until after the primaries though. As soon as the weather begins to cool down I will be knocking on doors in my precinct to find the unidentified Democrats. Registering new voters.

True Blue American

(17,981 posts)
29. Maybe that would work for me
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 04:35 AM
Aug 2019

I know it did when I needed to deal with grief. The top of my closet is full.

I am seriously considering knitting. Just read a book. Two stitches. Knit and Pearl. But remember trying to knit a pair of socks. Did not do well.

But seriously it is a shame we have to find things to control our anger against the hate and rage we hear daily. The media needs to stop showing it. Or, we should turn it off. But it is really just background noise with a few good movies thrown in.

Thekaspervote

(32,705 posts)
24. Me too! When I can't sleep I particularly like animal rescue clips.. hope for paws is great
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 03:18 AM
Aug 2019

These poor animals thrown out like rubbish ....given a second chance is heart warming and appropriate for our desperate times

cilla4progress

(24,717 posts)
56. Do you feel it dilutes the books...
Thu Aug 8, 2019, 02:35 AM
Aug 2019

if you read one after another? How do you remember them? How long does it take you to read an average length book? Do you feel like you are abandoning your family / housemates, when you read? Do you find it too sedentary? Do you still work? At a sedentary job? How long do you read each day?

All questions I have. I would like to read more. I have a sedentary job, where I have to do a lot of reading and writing. My husband and I live alone together and are companions for each other.

NJCher

(35,619 posts)
61. I'm not cilia, but
Thu Aug 8, 2019, 03:21 AM
Aug 2019

I read constantly, too, even at stoplights when I'm driving.

It doesn't dilute the book if I read one after another. I record each book I read in a journal. Then if I want to remember it, I can look it up on the internet and refresh my mind.

How long does it take? I can't really say but I read numerous books at one time. Some take weeks, others, days.

No, I don't feel like I'm abandoning family when I read. I often do it in their presence while they, too, are reading.

As far as sedentary, that could be a problem which I alleviate by only reading 20" at a time. I set a timer and when it goes off, I go do something active, like vacuum or pull weeds. Then I come back and read another 20" and so on.

Still work: yes. Love my work and will never quit. I'm my own boss so I control when and how much I work. Right now I have a work project that is very demanding of my skills and intellect, so at the end of every day I am excited about what I've accomplished. It could potentially be quite lucrative at some point, too, so that keeps me interested.

Is my job sedentary? Some are, some aren't. I have one job that is very physically demanding. My other jobs require a great deal of reading and writing. I use the same 20" rule with them.

Re your last sentence, same here. I enjoy that very much.

True Blue American

(17,981 posts)
64. So far
Thu Aug 8, 2019, 04:59 AM
Aug 2019

I can open a book, look at the first page, remember I read it. Speed read, but do not skip words as many do who speed read.

The time to read depends on how busy I am. I can crotchet, watch TV and read a book at the same time. My Husband once told me it was impossible. I told him I watch the program, read the book during commercials, crotchet all the time.

A habit I formed, along with friends from the time I could read when a bookmobile came to our door every two weeks. A close life long friend does the same. I have more time now, but even when busy with a family I still found time to read.

On the other hand I can not type worth a darn and I took a course

GaYellowDawg

(4,446 posts)
25. Mostly work out.
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 03:22 AM
Aug 2019

It’s been mostly about other matters in my life, but it helps me to know that I’m doing something to improve my health and appearance. I’m also trying to get better at my job, and be better at home. Putting effort into things I can control to help my life helps me deal with the things I can’t control.

Captain Zero

(6,783 posts)
26. Listen to Alan Watts on You Tube
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 03:27 AM
Aug 2019

His students and publishers did an amazing job of recording his lectures and presentations. It's wonderful that it's public domain and out there. Obviously, he would have wanted to shorten the longer game for this purpose... He is very calming and soothing. If anyone is unfamiliar with him you might want to wikipedia him before starting in on his recordings. You can study with him. Or you can sleep, relax with him as nice ambient presence.

cilla4progress

(24,717 posts)
57. Sounds delicious
Thu Aug 8, 2019, 02:37 AM
Aug 2019

I wonder if there is audio..podcasts? Will research.

I'm looking for some new podcasts. I like to listen when I'm doing repetitive chores, sometimes when I walk. Also to fall asleep to! Must be selective.

emmaverybo

(8,144 posts)
27. Binge watching Brit and Swedish mysteries, and reading mysteries. Waiting enthusiastically for
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 04:22 AM
Aug 2019

Chicago Med to return.

Clinging to my dogs.

And following everything the Dems in the House are doing, while fervently hoping we nominate a candidate who can oust Trump.

handmade34

(22,756 posts)
31. keep balance
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 06:45 AM
Aug 2019

use part of my day to keep up on news, make phone calls, write letters, etc (get to a protest when possible) and the other part work outside... I am in the middle of painting my house and building a new porch...

the anger is always there, I do try to channel it in productive ways... sometimes it does overwhelm me

I am very worried, scared for our Country

Vinca

(50,237 posts)
33. Gardening. Give me a weedy string bean patch these days and I'm in heaven.
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 07:13 AM
Aug 2019

Yesterday morning was especially nice. (Yesterday afternoon I lost it again. LOL.) I'm also making a point of listening to oldies I love whenever I'm in the car and I always taken an hour or so in the afternoon to lay down and read a book. When I do watch things that piss me off, it's cathartic to yell at the television. Really. Fortunate for me my husband understands.

PJMcK

(21,996 posts)
34. There are a number of things I do to forget Trump
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 07:27 AM
Aug 2019

Music: Listening to it, playing it, writing it all take my mind off of Trump.

Golf: Walking in a beautiful park, playing an exceedingly difficult game and meeting interesting people all take my mind off of Trump.

Carpentry: I'm building a stairway down to the river at our mountain house. It's hard, creative work and it takes my mind off of Trump.

Food: Making good, healthy meals are goals unto themselves and they take my mind off of Trump.

Sex: I wouldn't dream of thinking about Trump!

 

Everyman Jackal

(271 posts)
35. The Twilight Zone.
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 07:39 AM
Aug 2019

Since we are living in it I am hoping that one of the episodes will show me how it will end.

Frustratedlady

(16,254 posts)
37. I've been procrastinating on getting back into tracking family history...
Mon Aug 5, 2019, 07:51 AM
Aug 2019

but, under all that is going on today, it is great to get your mind to another time period. That time may not be the most peaceful and happy, but it's a lot more sane.

I MUST get over despising this so-called POTUS or it will destroy me.

 

ConnorMarc

(653 posts)
44. Nothing...
Wed Aug 7, 2019, 11:27 PM
Aug 2019

Nothing at all.

I'm already cool as a cucumber.

I know I didn't have anything to do w/him being there.

I'm really just waiting to see what America (read white people) will do about the Mango Menace come November 2020.

I'm prepared for it to go either way.

In any event, I'll be cool.

Yavin4

(35,421 posts)
47. Exercise and eat right.
Wed Aug 7, 2019, 11:42 PM
Aug 2019

I've put on weight since Trump has been president. A considerable amount. It's partly due to feeling miserable all of the time.

Patterson

(1,527 posts)
49. I stay mad. I pound the walls, throw stuff, yell obscenities
Thu Aug 8, 2019, 12:14 AM
Aug 2019

at the TV and radio and iPhone. I pound the bed and couch.

AJT

(5,240 posts)
52. This is one of the hardest times to be going it alone.
Thu Aug 8, 2019, 12:36 AM
Aug 2019

I have been widowed for a year and it's been hard to find ways to not be angry and frightened. It was a lot better when I had my husband to lean on.

cilla4progress

(24,717 posts)
59. Oh - sending positive thoughts your way!
Thu Aug 8, 2019, 02:42 AM
Aug 2019

I live in fear of how I would survive without my husband! We have only one child, who we are tight with. Some family. a few close friends. But I'd be basically alone where I live. What a mess it would be to transition...

I feel you! I hope you have support.

3catwoman3

(23,947 posts)
53. Watch the wonderful animal videos that DUer catbyte...
Thu Aug 8, 2019, 12:46 AM
Aug 2019

...posts so faithfully from the Dodo site.

And check Salmon Chanted Evening's Sunday Cats first thing every Sunday morning.

Olafjoy

(937 posts)
60. 2008
Thu Aug 8, 2019, 03:02 AM
Aug 2019

I watch the complete coverage of election night 2008. All the way to the end when the whole Obama/Biden clan was on stage, waving.
Oh, and sometimes have an edible.

NJCher

(35,619 posts)
63. I take the long view
Thu Aug 8, 2019, 03:33 AM
Aug 2019

The law of probability says you're going to have some losers in any job now and then. Well, now we have him and the circumstances are just right for not getting rid of him until the next election. So I guess I'd have to say that I just look at him as one of the necessary evils in life. After all, if we didn't have bad, we wouldn't have good. If we didn't have short, we wouldn't have tall, if we didn't have sad, we wouldn't have happy, etc.

If the U.S. electorate thought all presidents were pretty good, then we wouldn't have any reason to vote. I'm an activist from way back and now I see more and more people engaged and active in the political process.

This doesn't mean I refrain from saying "You effing jerk" to him when he's on TV. But overall I'm calm about it.

Raine

(30,540 posts)
66. Cut your time down to a bare minimum on boards like this
Thu Aug 8, 2019, 06:00 AM
Aug 2019

one and others like it. All the anger here will only keep feeding any anger you already have. I don't spend much time on political boards anymore. I check in now and then but it's always nothing but rage filled posts one after the other, not good to overdose on.

onecaliberal

(32,777 posts)
68. I work ten hours a day plus care for my husband so I'm not even close to overdosing on this or any
Thu Aug 8, 2019, 07:39 AM
Aug 2019

Other board. Some people just care about things more deeply.

Raine

(30,540 posts)
69. I can see you have plenty of work that keeps you busy
Thu Aug 8, 2019, 08:01 AM
Aug 2019

relaxing might help help, hobbies, tv, reading books (not political ones). Anger takes a toll on a person physically and mentally, mindfulness meditation has helped me deal with my migraine headaches and anxiety issues.

RobinA

(9,886 posts)
70. The Best Thing
Thu Aug 8, 2019, 08:30 AM
Aug 2019

I ever did is turn the TV off about 20 years ago. I watch no TV news whatsoever. If still employed one can always turn one's ire toward one's employer. They are usually good for a couple flashes of extreme anger a day.

Read books, engage in hobbies, volunteer, find things that use your mental energy in positive ways. Trump too shall pass!

cilla4progress

(24,717 posts)
72. Great thread!
Thu Aug 8, 2019, 11:15 AM
Aug 2019

Good to know there are others here struggling...share the burden.

It can feel to me like the political situation is ruining LIFE, itself.

Though things are good, personally.

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