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xeodtech

(79 posts)
Mon Feb 4, 2019, 03:21 PM Feb 2019

Racism from a 53-year-old white male form a white privileged neighborhood.

I was a white teenager in a predominately white area in upstate New York. My father was a Doctor and my mother a nurse, we were surely privileged. Our high school had maybe one or two people of color when I grew up. Honestly, we didn’t dislike each other or see each other that much differently. What happened to integration?
It’s still the same way now. I guess that was only for the southern people.
Our parents taught us to not look differently at people with color and treat them the same way you would do as your best friends. I remember when I was in my teen years, we were rolling skating with 4 of our friends. One was black (or a person of color) and the other was white. We had nicknames for each other. One was the black honkey and the other was white n…. reversed of course. It shames me today to admit what happened 30 years ago.
The roller-skating rink we frequented was primarily people of color and one day I found myself yelling hey n…ger at the rink to try to get my white friend to respond. My other friends (white) took me to the side and instructed me this was very wrong and although we had a relationship with our friend you should never do this.
This is the white privilege as I keep trying to understand every day of my life since the late 1980’s I have served on a jail committee that has seen the terrible plights of AA young men without money being incarcerated in pretrial confinement for years because of their color and their economic situation. My friends and I have taken the path of understanding our privileges and do what we can to change the ways or the 70’s or 80’s…
The first instance of my privilege was in 1984 when one of my AA friends drove me down Columbus City off of Ft. Benning and I was in the back of the car. The only thing the officer asked was that was I OK? I went off and on white rant that aske him WTF was he doing pulling up over. My friends were absolutely disturbed.

You see that my friend is my privilege and I live every day to end it.
However , I could have done the same thing as Governor Northam back I 1980s.. Please look at his record.

We have to top eating our own…






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Racism from a 53-year-old white male form a white privileged neighborhood. (Original Post) xeodtech Feb 2019 OP
tl;dr WhiskeyGrinder Feb 2019 #1
Bullshit. He first said it was him. manor321 Feb 2019 #2
Racism is a generational thing? Shell_Seas Feb 2019 #3
Deep south is still racist as fuck Mr. Quackers Feb 2019 #5
I agree, still to this day there are racists down here. That being said, Shell_Seas Feb 2019 #6
Its always so interesting when privileged white guys tell us Squinch Feb 2019 #4
THIS. WhiskeyGrinder Feb 2019 #7
I agree. cyndensco Feb 2019 #9
Also, I am a white woman, grew up in a northern town bit one Squinch Feb 2019 #10
Thanks. cyndensco Feb 2019 #11
One thing is true: Very often, privilege arrives with the cops. Iggo Feb 2019 #8
... LexVegas Feb 2019 #12
I grew up in a 99% plus white affluent community and I knew it sucked. hunter Feb 2019 #13
I'll hit twice on every paragraph. xeodtech Feb 2019 #14
We (white people) don't deserve credit for owning up to past acts loyalsister Feb 2019 #15
This! Exactly! This "when I was a boy things were different Squinch Feb 2019 #16

WhiskeyGrinder

(22,326 posts)
1. tl;dr
Mon Feb 4, 2019, 03:26 PM
Feb 2019

"I did racist things back in the day. Everyone did racist things back in the day. I am not a bad person; I don't see how Northam can be a bad person. Because we aren't bad people, the effect of these incidents was probably bad but not lasting and it's certainly not like I burned a cross in someone's yard. Racism is simply the bad things, like cross-burning and hitting people just because they're black, which is what bad people do. Good people, when they do a racism, don't need consequences, because they are good. I would sure hate it if I had to face consequences for the racist things I did, even though they weren't bad."

 

manor321

(3,344 posts)
2. Bullshit. He first said it was him.
Mon Feb 4, 2019, 03:27 PM
Feb 2019

He's shown a blackface photo and first says, yep! That's me!

Then gives a press conference saying he dressed in blackface before and considered a moonwalk demonstration.

He has to GO. NOW!

Shell_Seas

(3,332 posts)
3. Racism is a generational thing?
Mon Feb 4, 2019, 03:28 PM
Feb 2019

I'm not buying it. I grew up in the 80s in the deep south, and people knew language and behavior like this was wrong.

Shell_Seas

(3,332 posts)
6. I agree, still to this day there are racists down here. That being said,
Mon Feb 4, 2019, 03:51 PM
Feb 2019

people know racism is wrong. If they are still being racist, knowing that, it's because they have a heart full of hate.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
4. Its always so interesting when privileged white guys tell us
Mon Feb 4, 2019, 03:45 PM
Feb 2019

the story of their lives as a way to explain to us that racism isn't really racism.

I was riveted. Really.

cyndensco

(1,697 posts)
9. I agree.
Mon Feb 4, 2019, 04:12 PM
Feb 2019

It has been interesting around here the last few days hearing DUer Racism Confessions. I have experienced racism countless times - from the other side - and have found these anecdotes disturbing.

While some may applaud the posters for sharing their childhood racist ways but eventually seeing the light, their stories are making me cringe.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
10. Also, I am a white woman, grew up in a northern town bit one
Mon Feb 4, 2019, 04:27 PM
Feb 2019

that was really a hotbed of racial unrest. I am a few years older than the op, but somehow I managed to understand that one should never consider wearing blackface and never shout racist things in skating rinks.

Maybe I was just a prodigy.

Iggo

(47,549 posts)
8. One thing is true: Very often, privilege arrives with the cops.
Mon Feb 4, 2019, 04:11 PM
Feb 2019

That's got nothing to do with Northam and why he has to resign, though.

hunter

(38,310 posts)
13. I grew up in a 99% plus white affluent community and I knew it sucked.
Mon Feb 4, 2019, 05:29 PM
Feb 2019

My parents knew it sucked too, but as artists with day jobs they pretty much had to go where the work was. We occasionally lived as hungry children of starving artists, but it wasn't too frequent.

My middle and high school experience was Lord of the Flies, not because I wasn't white, I am, but because I was a weird autistic spectrum kid of indeterminate sexuality the bullies called "queerbait." Getting beaten bloody was a regular experience for me.

I quit high school in the mid 'seventies and fled.

My siblings fled.

My parents fled soon after my dad retired.

Never looked back. As an adult I've escaped life in majority white communities.

My wife and I explicitly chose not to raise our own children in affluent white U.S.A..

I know many good people who grew up in affluent white U.S.A. who had begun to recognized the intrinsic racism of their own community even as protected children, but Northam isn't one of them.

Northam had every opportunity to make this right, but he's fucked it up in a most spectacular way.

He needs to go.

And btw, your posts would be easier to read if you hit "enter" twice at the end of every paragraph.

 

xeodtech

(79 posts)
14. I'll hit twice on every paragraph.
Mon Feb 4, 2019, 05:50 PM
Feb 2019

I still live in this town and my wife it town clerk.. A republican?? Not at heart but we need to keep her job and live in the poor area of town. I really do understand my privilege. I am just saying that 35 years ago it was a different thing and what you have portrayed or striven for in the years since should make you are. The Gov did respond poorly and if he just said it was a different time and please look at my record since then maybe we can gain a little trust. If not I would happily ask him to resign. Please understand this history he have may responded poorly but look at his record and judge him against the repubs.

loyalsister

(13,390 posts)
15. We (white people) don't deserve credit for owning up to past acts
Mon Feb 4, 2019, 06:27 PM
Feb 2019

Our social position is what it is because of slavery, Jim Crow, and the KKK among other forces that solidified and continue to perpetuate white supremacy. At least we could not pretend it's a thing of the past that can be forgiven with a confession. The bigger picture is uglier than an instance of racism and the pathology is exacerbated when we don't listen to the voices who are oppressed for our benefit.
A Democratic governor did something despicably, callous and revealed a lack of consciousness of the white supremacy that is denies the humanity of Black citizens. Pretending that that didn't happen because it wasn't his intent denies the experiences and ignores the voices and effectively repeats the original act.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
16. This! Exactly! This "when I was a boy things were different
Mon Feb 4, 2019, 06:52 PM
Feb 2019

so we should all get a pass" is making me sick.

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