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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsRacism from a 53-year-old white male form a white privileged neighborhood.
I was a white teenager in a predominately white area in upstate New York. My father was a Doctor and my mother a nurse, we were surely privileged. Our high school had maybe one or two people of color when I grew up. Honestly, we didnt dislike each other or see each other that much differently. What happened to integration?
Its still the same way now. I guess that was only for the southern people.
Our parents taught us to not look differently at people with color and treat them the same way you would do as your best friends. I remember when I was in my teen years, we were rolling skating with 4 of our friends. One was black (or a person of color) and the other was white. We had nicknames for each other. One was the black honkey and the other was white n
. reversed of course. It shames me today to admit what happened 30 years ago.
The roller-skating rink we frequented was primarily people of color and one day I found myself yelling hey n
ger at the rink to try to get my white friend to respond. My other friends (white) took me to the side and instructed me this was very wrong and although we had a relationship with our friend you should never do this.
This is the white privilege as I keep trying to understand every day of my life since the late 1980s I have served on a jail committee that has seen the terrible plights of AA young men without money being incarcerated in pretrial confinement for years because of their color and their economic situation. My friends and I have taken the path of understanding our privileges and do what we can to change the ways or the 70s or 80s
The first instance of my privilege was in 1984 when one of my AA friends drove me down Columbus City off of Ft. Benning and I was in the back of the car. The only thing the officer asked was that was I OK? I went off and on white rant that aske him WTF was he doing pulling up over. My friends were absolutely disturbed.
You see that my friend is my privilege and I live every day to end it.
However , I could have done the same thing as Governor Northam back I 1980s.. Please look at his record.
We have to top eating our own
WhiskeyGrinder
(22,326 posts)"I did racist things back in the day. Everyone did racist things back in the day. I am not a bad person; I don't see how Northam can be a bad person. Because we aren't bad people, the effect of these incidents was probably bad but not lasting and it's certainly not like I burned a cross in someone's yard. Racism is simply the bad things, like cross-burning and hitting people just because they're black, which is what bad people do. Good people, when they do a racism, don't need consequences, because they are good. I would sure hate it if I had to face consequences for the racist things I did, even though they weren't bad."
manor321
(3,344 posts)He's shown a blackface photo and first says, yep! That's me!
Then gives a press conference saying he dressed in blackface before and considered a moonwalk demonstration.
He has to GO. NOW!
Shell_Seas
(3,332 posts)I'm not buying it. I grew up in the 80s in the deep south, and people knew language and behavior like this was wrong.
Mr. Quackers
(443 posts)And yes, it lessens with each successive generation.
Shell_Seas
(3,332 posts)people know racism is wrong. If they are still being racist, knowing that, it's because they have a heart full of hate.
Squinch
(50,949 posts)the story of their lives as a way to explain to us that racism isn't really racism.
I was riveted. Really.
WhiskeyGrinder
(22,326 posts)It has been interesting around here the last few days hearing DUer Racism Confessions. I have experienced racism countless times - from the other side - and have found these anecdotes disturbing.
While some may applaud the posters for sharing their childhood racist ways but eventually seeing the light, their stories are making me cringe.
Squinch
(50,949 posts)that was really a hotbed of racial unrest. I am a few years older than the op, but somehow I managed to understand that one should never consider wearing blackface and never shout racist things in skating rinks.
Maybe I was just a prodigy.
You made me smile. I was beginning to wonder.....
Iggo
(47,549 posts)That's got nothing to do with Northam and why he has to resign, though.
hunter
(38,310 posts)My parents knew it sucked too, but as artists with day jobs they pretty much had to go where the work was. We occasionally lived as hungry children of starving artists, but it wasn't too frequent.
My middle and high school experience was Lord of the Flies, not because I wasn't white, I am, but because I was a weird autistic spectrum kid of indeterminate sexuality the bullies called "queerbait." Getting beaten bloody was a regular experience for me.
I quit high school in the mid 'seventies and fled.
My siblings fled.
My parents fled soon after my dad retired.
Never looked back. As an adult I've escaped life in majority white communities.
My wife and I explicitly chose not to raise our own children in affluent white U.S.A..
I know many good people who grew up in affluent white U.S.A. who had begun to recognized the intrinsic racism of their own community even as protected children, but Northam isn't one of them.
Northam had every opportunity to make this right, but he's fucked it up in a most spectacular way.
He needs to go.
And btw, your posts would be easier to read if you hit "enter" twice at the end of every paragraph.
xeodtech
(79 posts)I still live in this town and my wife it town clerk.. A republican?? Not at heart but we need to keep her job and live in the poor area of town. I really do understand my privilege. I am just saying that 35 years ago it was a different thing and what you have portrayed or striven for in the years since should make you are. The Gov did respond poorly and if he just said it was a different time and please look at my record since then maybe we can gain a little trust. If not I would happily ask him to resign. Please understand this history he have may responded poorly but look at his record and judge him against the repubs.
loyalsister
(13,390 posts)Our social position is what it is because of slavery, Jim Crow, and the KKK among other forces that solidified and continue to perpetuate white supremacy. At least we could not pretend it's a thing of the past that can be forgiven with a confession. The bigger picture is uglier than an instance of racism and the pathology is exacerbated when we don't listen to the voices who are oppressed for our benefit.
A Democratic governor did something despicably, callous and revealed a lack of consciousness of the white supremacy that is denies the humanity of Black citizens. Pretending that that didn't happen because it wasn't his intent denies the experiences and ignores the voices and effectively repeats the original act.
Squinch
(50,949 posts)so we should all get a pass" is making me sick.