Ok my blood is boiling today!!!

[samplegirl]

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I got a very unpleasant phone call today from my brother who was a former union rep. Now retired from his steel company sold off to Bain capital and voted for Trump. We have been at each other’s throats since his vote for trump. I post things to Facebook and I use both my maiden name and married name on it. My brother is retired and has enough money to live comfortable. Somewhere around 4,000.00’a month income not counting his bank accounts and stocks and such!

Today he asked me to not use my maiden name on Facebook as people ask him about my posts. He goes to Florida all winter his income allows him the pleasure to leave the snow! I went crazy and told him I’m not dropping my maiden name...as I’m proud of being democrat, my posts, and that my mother and father would be proud of me for defending what they taught and believed in. I wonder what his union brothers would think of him? He hates all my posts...and is embarrassed of me using his last name! I told him he’ll no I won’t drop my maiden name or my core beliefs that he somehow forgot!
I can’t help it that his friends are Republicans!

I lost my job, my husband lost his job and we both had to take lower paying jobs and my husband is still paying on a student loan in order to have his mediocre job for way less pay. We lost almost all of our 401k during the Bush years as we were unable to roll ours over as he did during that time. We are both 61 years old and struggle with arthritis because neither of us ever had easy jobs. He on the other hand sat in a crane all day with a good union job. My husband needs knee replacements in both knees and and is still in the weather all day on his feet but this time works for the state a union job just way less pay as he’s only been at it 6 years. I’m mopping floors and cleaning government subsidized housing and the mop weighs more than me!

Hell no Im not going to drop my my maiden name because I embarass his trump supporting umbrella drinking buddies! I hate trump and everything the Republican Party stands for and my Dad taught me from a young age about my vote! Part of him lives on from me!!! My brother is a widower and he can’t live long enough to spend all his money. Maybe he finds delight in watching us struggle. We have never been without work but once in our lives. I was out of work at age20 when I nearly lost my life do to Guillain Barre and collect SS disability for a year or two afterward. So I’ve never really been pain free! We have 5 1/2 more years to go before we can retire.

We have a nice home and much to be thankful for but sadly I can’t have him at my table ever again! Thanksgiving will never be the same!! But asking me to drop my maiden name was truly the last straw! He can go to Flordia in December and stay there with his trumper friends live at his sons house where he fits in.... but for now he lives in Ohio just like me and he’s going to have to deal with the thorn in his side which happens to be his baby sister who is 9 years younger than him and a whole lot smarter! He can’t seem to figure out he’s in the minority!

My parents are turning in ther graves! His last comment was he’s surprised my husband puts up with this. All the money in the world can’t replace morals. He sucks on all counts! Thanks for letting me vent! Can’t take the Blue out of this Ohio girl! Swanson makes a good turkey dinner!

[MFM008]

1. so sorry

The only thing my brother and I disagree on is who hates the maggot more, me or him....
My sister is more libertarian , so as long as we avoid in-depth conversations about the maggot in chief
were ok.

[samplegirl]

9. We can't talk it alway ends up this way!

[trueblue2007]

72. i am so sorry girlfriend. i feel for you, my story is very similar.

my sister, her husband and her adult children are all TrumpLovers. He does no wrong. He has never led, he has never messed around with other woman .... and he is not a pussy-grabber. That is what they think.

They resent that I can produce the truth that proves him to be an evil "Anti-Christ" like politician. They love him for his "anti-Abortion" stance and a few other things. She thinks he will bring about the Biblical Apocalypse.

I feel sorry for them and can hardly be in the same room as them. I love them dearly but there is usually one outburst every time we get together.

I told hubby if there is a TRUMP/GOP argument, he gets "The look" from me and we are leaving.

We will leave then and go to a restaurant for Thanksgiving dinner. Makes me very say and I wish your life was better. God Bless you and your hubby.

[madaboutharry]

2. I am always sad to read stories like this.

There was once a time when family was always family and politics was put to the side. But now it seems that some people, some people who have been sucked into the right wing vortex and Trump world, have undergone personality transformations. The people we knew are no longer there, they have become someone else. I think it is tragic.

[samplegirl]

10. My parents were both staunch democrats!

[madaboutharry]

76. Hugs to you samplegirl.

Just know it isn't you. It is your brother.

[Grasswire2]

96. well, there WAS a time when families were split. Some chose the Union. Others, the Confederacy.

Brothers fought brothers in a shooting, dying war.

And before that, there was a time when some were Tories and some were Patriots in the same family. Some fled to Canada, never seeing family again.

So.....this time is not so different.

[gratuitous]

3. Sorry about your brother

When he makes suggestions for how you should conduct your affairs, give him your best butter-wouldn't-melt-in-my-mouth smile and say politely but firmly, "No."

[guillaumeb]

4. Tell him to change HIS name to Trump.

Sad that a former Union representative could be so ignorant of history, especially the history of GOP hatred for workers and unions.

[LakeArenal]

26. Beat me to it!! 😉

[samplegirl]

68. It that I've got mine

So screw you syndrome😡

[guillaumeb]

74. Sad if true.

And so much a part of the GOP mentality.

[LiberalFighter]

90. Like that idea. About him changing his name.

[democratisphere]

5. Stay your course and use whatever name you want.

If it was me, I would disown the bastard and never speak to his GD redumbliCON ass again!

[samplegirl]

11. I think I'm to that point but a life long fellow D.U.er and personsal friend is begging me not to as

Politics change.... but words don’t.

[democratisphere]

12. I have nothing to do with my drumpf loving brother and life

after brother is better!

[pazzyanne]

54. I tried for years to wait for things to change with my RW evangelical sister.

They changed, but for the worst. She told me that we could no longer communicate because we have vastly different political views. I kept trying to keep peace in the family. She began sabotaging me with family and friends. She unfriended me on face book, acted as though I was invisible at family events, and had influenced 2 of my brothers to the point that they avoided me as well. By the way, I did not talk politics during this time, but I had the audacity to be diagnosed with a fatal autoimmune disease that she told everyone I was faking. I was having panic attacks until I said "screw this!" and unfriended her. I have been sleeping well, my blood pressure is back to the normal range, and my fatal autoimmune disease is in remission. Both of my brothers have apologized for their behavior and for believing her. I feel much better and more positive. Moral of this story is do what makes you happier and healthier, and do. not. look. back. Best wishes for a happier future for you and your husband.

[MLAA]

62. So glad you held your ground and head high and your health improved!

All my relatives are evangelical Republicans except my sister. I have cut visits to absolute minimum. Once a year visit to see my elderly dad.

[LiberalFighter]

92. You don't have speak to him. And use words.

What you do on Facebook is none of his damn business. He doesn't get to tell you what you can or can't do.

Since he doesn't like what you say on FB there are two options. 1) He can block you so he doesn't see anything from you. 2) You can block him so he doesn't see what you post.

The first, I believe he would still be able to report you to FB for postings that he thinks are not right. I would go with you blocking him so that he is limited to what he could do to you.

Also, unfriend him so you don't receive messages from him. If he wants to talk to you he can use the phone or write a letter.

It is up to him to change his ways and make the effort. And don't worry about him being blood.

[blue cat]

6. I'm sorry

I have the same problem with my family. I’m the only liberal and it’s hard. It’s even harder now with trump.

[brewens]

7. Could there be a much bigger socialist than a union rep? I bet he doesn't like hearing that.

Worse than socialist back in the early days of the labor movement. A guy like him would have been called a communist by many.

[samplegirl]

13. He hated Obama

I never told him to change his name! Although I wanted to yank his plate from underneath him at my dining room table and throw the cranberry sauce in his face and tell him I hate cranberry sauce as much as his vile words!

[brewens]

15. It's a wonder some family will talk to me. I know they saw one exchange I had on FB.

Someone posted the vid of Trump saying Obama was born in the USA and that's all there is to it.

I piled on and said he basically calls his worshipers dumbshits right to their faces about every day, and the birther crap was the start of it. Look at anything that believed that and what kind of half-wit, racist, human shitstain it is!

I know they saw that. I doubt my brother-in-law or any of the rest of them will dare say a word to me about it. They pretty much know not to mess with me.

[hlthe2b]

8. I'm very sorry, samplegirl. Stand your ground, though as your own self-respect is more

important for the long term..

I know it is very painful, though. You may well have a lot of company out here with those avoiding holiday conflict with their politically opposed relatives.


PS... just a small favor, but I have trouble reading longer posts without paragraphs... Just my worsening eyesight, I'm sure, but if you could break it up a little, I would really appreciate it.

[Ohiogal]

14. Hi samplegirl,

You live in NE Ohio, if I remember correctly? Me, too.

Nothing made my blood boil more than when my well - off relatives would make mean spirited jokes about Democrats and poor people. You have lots of sympathy here. It's unfortunate how arrogant and bigoted the right wingers have become. I'm sorry your brother treats you like that. We sure are in a dark time in our nation's history right now, but hopefully we'll be seeing the light at the end of the tunnel very soon! I would be proud of you if you were in my family!

[samplegirl]

20. Thanks Ohiogal

That means a lot to me. I’m having a sad day even though it’s my day off. I hope in the very near future I can throw this in his face when trump is either impeached, out voted, or lost his mind!

[Solly Mack]

16. Almost no one can push our buttons like our siblings.

And they can be stupid cruel in the doing. Pointless attacks simply to cause pain. Made all the worse when they are so obviously in the wrong but think they're only being honest or reasonable. Downright smug about it.

I'm sorry, samplegirl.

[samplegirl]

46. Thanks Solly

life can be tough... it’s learning how to just roll with it! Some days it gets the best of me.

[onlyadream]

17. Thankfully my sister is on the same page as me, but my mother...85...so sad

She loves Trump.

My only advice is if he EVER brings up politics, put your had up and say you can't discuss this with him (sis and I do this with mom, and she stops). This saves our relationship with her.


As for your posts, really, just block him. Him asking you to change your name is just plain rude.

[Le Gaucher]

18. Simple solution ..ask him to change his last name.

No one has the right to tell you what your name should be. NO ONE

[samplegirl]

21. I refuse to change my name

my parents were Democrats and always voted democrat! My dad and Mom thankfully were able to retire from their jobs!

[rurallib]

23. My thought also - seems like the brother is the one on the outs with thegenersl

family feelings - ergo he should change.

[grantcart]

19. excellent reason to not do facebook

why mix religion and politics with family and friends

its a concept I have never grasped.


I talk politics with friends that I know I can have an intelligent conversation with and religion with those that are interested in that kind of thing.


Most of my relatives are of the same mind. I called my niece to congratulate her on working for Tester and asked her what her husband thought and she said she didn't know who he voted for.

By the way she is the main bread winner and her husband works from home and takes care of the kids during the day.

[samplegirl]

24. Well you can only imagine🙄

[SWBTATTReg]

22. Don't ever change anything about yourself, your name, anything. It's you, period. And if ...

family/brother/etc. can't handle it, that's their problem, not yours. After all, why are they reading your comments etc. if they are so opposed to it? Obviously you're hitting a button there. Too bad for him. Like a TV, he can skip over the remarks and move on, but obviously he can't. Again, too bad.

Stay the course, be yourself, and let DU and others know you as you really are. One in a million, and a jewel in the dark.

[samplegirl]

28. Thank you

I never post on his wall he told me I was fucking crazy one time! He can block my posts if he don’t want to read them it’s just that simple!

[Farmer-Rick]

25. umbrella drinking buddies

I hope they choke on those tiny umbrellas.

My oldest brother is the only one in our family of 6 brothers and sisters that votes Trump. He keeps it to himself. Though he has his fancy Florida buddies too.

[samplegirl]

30. He's a pathetic rich

Disgruntled old shit! He won’t even take his Cadillac out of the garage if it rains! I hope he moves to Florida!

[babylonsister]

27. Is it possible to

block or unfriend him? I have two rethug brothers. We don't know what the others post because we are not friends. If I need to get in touch I can IM or e-mail them.

My blood pressure in relation to them does not spike.

Seems like a very immature request from him, also seems condescending. I totally understand your reaction.

[samplegirl]

31. I'm not blocking him

He can suffer reading my posts now! He can block me!

[bluestarone]

29. Sorry for you.

My family the same way. BUT if RUMP gets his way your brother AND my family will be ONE MEDICAL emergency away from being BROKE!!!! Wait and see! ( I hope not though, as i DO NOT wish this on anybody).

[samplegirl]

34. His wife was the total oppisite.

I miss her. She didn’t take his shit!!

[bluestarone]

39. She's SMART!!

By the way i'm sure the union got him everything (MONEY, INCOME) and NOW he shits on the union!!! I hate those type people!!!

[samplegirl]

106. Me me me!!!

Until he needs something!

[tiredtoo]

32. Best advice i saw here was

Tell him to change his name. You hang tough young lady, you make me proud to be here with you and others like you.

[samplegirl]

36. Yes I think that was the best advice

I’ve read as well!!! He said he’s affraid I will get my house spray painted. Lol!!! His golfing buddies are a bunch of sorry ilk just like trump!

[TexasBushwhacker]

33. You have a right to your name, your life and your truth n/t

[Jrsygrl96]

35. So sorry!

We are a union family. I cannot understand how any union person can be a Republican! He probably knows 45 used union help in New York City--then didn't pay them!!! The contractors didn't have money to sue, or 45 would threaten to sue them for unsatisfactory work!!! He is a despicable, soulless, pile of pure greed and immorality.

I am fortunate my family all vote democratic so holidays are fine. However, I am a devout Catholic and EVERY single Catholic I know voted for Agent Orange. Many of my friends think he was sent by God! I just got back from a trip to Ohio to see an old college buddy and talk to friends of hers who are Catholic Democrats. I wanted validation because I feel so alone, but my friend tricked me. Her friends voted for 45!!!!! I was so let down.

Don't dare change your name or anything about you!!! Your parents taught you right. Your brother is under the spell of the Antichrist and his Cult 45!!!!!

[samplegirl]

42. We were all brought up devout Catholics

My sister, by brother and me all attended Catholic schools and my poor mother worked full time in the hospital to pay tuition for us. I was the youngest and fought not to go to Catholic high school and won! He still goes to mass on Sunday and my sister but I’m not practicing any longer only because I hated the politics in the school system and church. If your a big time business owner you get your name plastered on a private parking space and plagues about all you donated. I couldn’t stand the special treatment the “smell me donaters get”!
Catholic church has changed liked everything else!

[lunasun]

37. Huh? it's your name too! Did he ever think you may be the one embarrassed sharing it with him ?

Creepy thing for a brother to bring up
I don't use FB but can you add to your profile -Brother of ***(his first name)..?

[samplegirl]

43. I think I will!!!

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Bettie]

38. I avoid talking to both of my brothers

because they are right wing nutjobs.

Sorry to hear about yours.

My husband lost his job several years ago as well. He got a new one that pays much less than his previous job. Meanwhile, all of his Trump loving sisters and brothers are able to go on vacations, buy second and third houses, and all that. We're younger than them and didn't have time to be established before the economy changed.

I guess this is my long-winded way of saying, I get where you're coming from.

[Niagara]

40. I'm sorry, Samplegirl

You do not have to deal with toxic people no matter if they're family or not.

Your health is more important and dealing with a toxic family member that stresses you out can take a toll on your health.

I wish you well!

[samplegirl]

44. Toxic is putting it mildly

This guy use to lock his Halloween candy up in a toolbox when he was a kid in order to keep his siblings from taking a piece!

[Roadside Attraction]

41. Sorry to hear this . . . however . . .

You can choose your friends. You can't choose your family.

We have twins, son and daughter.

Daughter is a single lady, partner in a DC law firm, on several charitable and corporate boards, friend to all.

Son is divorced, left our daughter-in-law (I hate that term and I introduce her as my daughter) and two grandsons. The divorce came after he was charged with possession of child porn, carnal knowledge of a minor, and two similar counts. Turns out, he was getting it on with a 15-yr-old, a 17-yr-old, and a 19-yr-old at his work -- we found his hidden camera with over 400 interesting photos.

He's a rightwing nut, Fox addict, Trump voter, proto-Nazi, and all around asshole. The only reason he no longer owns a houseful of firearms is his felony conviction. He went berserk when I told him I had found all his weapons and ammo, sold the guns, gave away the ammo.

We finally cut him off. We lives two states away; we hear from him once a year when he sends his sister a Christmas card.

Most terrible thing we ever went through, still, sometimes you have to walk away.

[samplegirl]

45. Wow!

Sorry to hear this. Your situation is way worse than mine.

[pamela]

47. He's lying to you.

His friends aren't asking him about your posts. They aren't seeing them at all unless you're also friends with them or you are tagging him. Fucker's lying.

[samplegirl]

64. He don't like it that people ask him

Why he’s a trumper and his sister is not most likely!

[Jim__]

48. Your brother has no right to ask you to change your name.

If having you as a sister embarrasses him to his friends, he needs to find better friends.

[samplegirl]

50. One thing you can count on is positive

reinforcement from D.U. thanks☺️

[Maru Kitteh]

49. Only a deeply sexist jackass would try to tell a woman what name she can use or sputter

similar tripe about a husband "putting up with" or "tolerating" a woman who dares to express her humanity and self as she sees fit.

[samplegirl]

51. He is a sexist but that is the least of

his faults.

[roody]

52. Family is way overrated.

Peace and quiet are the best.

[SleeplessinSoCal]

53. I hope you post this on Facebook so he can read it.

What an ungrateful soul he is.

[littlemissmartypants]

55. He was way out of line.

He must have a lot of nerve or be a bully. You are a grown woman, for pete's sake! It's also absurd that he thinks you are interested in being bossed around. Stick to your guns. Don't let his weak mindedness interfere with your right to be you. I hope your day improved after venting. Sometimes we have to let off steam and you are perfectly welcome to that. I hope you have a good Thanksgiving.

[samplegirl]

73. He might be able to hurt me even

make me sad but he can never ever take my compassion for others away!

[Tarc]

56. "Piss off" was the only acceptable response to that clod

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You did good.

[Sherman A1]

59. Eloquently stated

That is precisely my suggestion.

[samplegirl]

65. He can't ever tell me what to do

I will make him regret his words with my posts!

[Duppers]

57. Sorry.

I spent most of the last 30yrs not speaking to my 2 siblings. No regrets. I've no tolerance for irrational people.

[vishnura]

58. Be proud!

So sorry, be proud of your name, your ideas and philosophy, do not hide it.

[MLAA]

60. You go samplegirl! Don't take any crap from him or any republican!

[Laura PourMeADrink]

61. You won girl. You are not dropping your middle name but don't not

Invite him. Although he was an ass to ask you he is still your brother. It could cause a much deeper rift you can never repear.

My two cents.... Laugh it off like he's off his rocker. I find people hate being laughed at more than they hate being yelled at

[BlueInRedHell]

63. That may work for some people but don't discount the need for some people to part ways r/o

permanently. My husband's family was so politically toxic, that we parted ways before Bush even left the White House and it was *the* only way. We've been a lot healthier, too.

[samplegirl]

66. Your right.

[Ferrets are Cool]

67. Good on you AND, you were much nicer than I would have been. nt

[samplegirl]

70. Probably so

As a fellow D.U.er pointed out....He has his lifestyle do to a good paying union job! Now he votes against us!

[Ferrets are Cool]

95. That and a multitude of other things.

I have family members that I refuse to talk to. They are rabid.

[jmbar2]

69. Couple of comments...

Sorry about the ugliness. I refused from day one to get on Facebook, and I am so glad to have stayed off. So many people have fallen out on it. I am oblivious to what they say--sometimes ignorance is bliss.

Also - you can apply for reduced or income-based payments on your student loans. If you qualify, you just recertify each year. It doesn't make sense to starve yourself to pay it if you don't have the income. Just be diligent about reapplying so that you don't go into default. That will screw up your credit report and possibly even future social security.

Good luck on Thanksgiving. Even if it is Swanson's.

[samplegirl]

71. I won't be eating Swanson

But he will! Or McDonalds.

[shanti]

75. I'm so sorry that you have to go thru this

I'm going thru the same thing with my oldest son, who loves him some Chump. My other three sons are apolitical (not a good thing in itself, imo), but they aren't Trump-humpers, so we're ok. DS has 3 of my 4 grands however, so I have to find a way to relate to him if I want to see the kids. At the moment, we aren't communicating.

Both of my sibs are diehard Dems, just like we were raised by Mom and Dad. However, all of the rest of my extended family are Reps.

I hope you have an enjoyable Thanksgiving anyway!

[samplegirl]

80. Thank you

Same to you. It’s hard just trying to figure it out when we all were raised with the same values. It makes me feel like he lost all respect for my Mom and Dad. I guess money trumps everything!

[Zing Zing Zingbah]

77. Why are his Republican buds seeing your posts to begin with?

Seems like they wouldn't unless you are also friends with them or you are tagging your brother in your posts or you are making public posts.

[samplegirl]

82. I'm not sure he's telling the absolute truth.

But yes we have a few mutual friends but the ones that are mutual are democrats. I would be hard pressed to find any Republican friends especially on fb.

[Vinca]

78. You make me happy my family is dead. LOL.

I never bought into the whole family getting together on the holidays routine when the entire rest of the year they can't stand each other. Forget about him and enjoy a pleasant, peaceful day with your husband.

[samplegirl]

83. I know your right.

I still should be free to post on my Facebook whatever I see fit! I don’t share it with him...so it’s none of his business in the first place!

[vlyons]

79. hang in there Samplegirl

No one can tell you what to do but you. You get to decide what's best for you. Just laugh at your brother's request and tell him what a silly ol' thing he is. Don't let his his selfishness darken you mood or ruin your day.

[samplegirl]

84. It just angers me

that he has no concept about anyone else’s livelihood or the worries about even seeing S.S. He made his money and unions helped him to keep his job and retire from it!

[vlyons]

87. Anger is poison

Anger will not make you happy or give you peace of mind. Do your best to calm down and level out emotionally. You cannot change your brother, or anyone for that matter, to live up to your expectations. We can only change ourselves. If we don't control our negative emotions, they will control us.

[IADEMO2004]

81. Happy to be the 100th Rec. My PITA will be here for Christmas.

[JohnnyRingo]

85. As long as I can still come to Thanksgiving.

...but if he's not coming, does that mean I'll be the one to make you scream? At least the stupid shit he said took attention away from me.

hahaha

[samplegirl]

86. You will always have a seat as long as I can still cook!

Just don’t make me scream! ❤️ Oh and call me by maiden name from now on. When you see him out make sure you let everyone know I’m his sister! 😡

[INdemo]

88. I cant understand why or how a Union member or rep vote

for a damn Republicans

[samplegirl]

89. He doesn't need a union

anymore I guess.

[demosincebirth]

94. His union is paying his pension. Thank God for unions - someone should tell him

[demosincebirth]

93. I retired (1999) from the Teamsters union after 40 years - shop steward for 25 years, organizer

off and on for 15 years. I have met many teamsters who, despite their good wages and benefits, have continued to vote republican in every election. My conclusion, after all these years is that they have ingrained ideas that they hate to see , hear or read about people getting welfare, or any kind of help regardless of their situation. Mostly, I think it's an ingrained racism which mostly all deny. They are ignorant about History and mostly about the history of the Labor movement in this country.

[Honeycombe8]

91. I would have asked him to drop HIS last name, because it was embarrassing me. nt

[samplegirl]

97. He does embarrass me

that he’s so greedy!

[KY_EnviroGuy]

103. That was my immediate thought as well, Honeycombe....

and suggest he do it in honor of their Democratic Party loving parents!.......

And, suggest the surname Trump is available for a small fee.....

[FakeNoose]

98. My suggestion, take it or leave it :-)

Hi SampleGirl, I feel your pain and I understand how politics can cause a rift in families.

If you really want to stick it to your brother, here's a suggestion. Make your sign-off on your Facebook page say something like this: "Yes I'm [sample girl] and my brother is [real name]. We grew up together but we don't share political views. You can let him know you saw this."

Of course if you do this, your brother will probably never forgive you!

[samplegirl]

107. He told my sister I hate

him. Hate is strong words. I try not to hate anyone because it does you no good. At a time in our life when we need each other it’s really sad that someone who could give two shits about him like trump could ruin families. I save my hate for Trump!!!!It does me no good either but it can’t be helped!

[samplegirl]

113. Just might have to!

[samplegirl]

116. Thanks😌

[TNNurse]

99. Continue as you see fit.

Do not get ugly, just be yourself and use your whole damn name.

[PoindexterOglethorpe]

100. Too fucking bad for him.

Personally, I don't think women should change their last name when they got married, not if the person they marry doesn't also change the last name.

I actually resent being asked if "Oglethorpe" is my maiden name. Its the surname on my birth certificate. Let's start asking men what their bachelor name was.

[samplegirl]

108. That's exatly how I feel!

I like my maiden name and it’s part of me forever and always!

[Ilsa]

101. Tell him he would have to pay you to not use your maiden name.

How about $1,000/month?

[samplegirl]

109. I'd like to

but he’s to stinking cheap to.

[Onyrleft]

102. Ugh, 9/10ths of my family are Trump puppets.

You know what else? I hate fucking turkey. Why couldn't Ben Franklin have gotten a hardon for goose or duck? I'm just gonna fill a crockpot with wings Wednesday night, cook sweet potatoes and a peach pie the next morning and enjoy TV and bourbon all day Thursday.

[KY_EnviroGuy]

104. Now that's a happy Thanksgiving!......

especially the peach pie!.....

[Lochloosa]

114. I did a Mexican Thanksgiving a few years ago. Huevos rancheros for breakfast to Churros for dessert.

Everyone LOVED it and no one missed the Turkey.

We are having a good grilled steak with all the trimmings this year.

Screw the turkey.

[LittleGirl]

105. I'm so sorry

about your brother. I have a brother and a sister like that.

My sister had a stroke a few weeks ago and is in FL too. She's going to survive but it's going to be a long recovery and I can't even call to wish her well. Her daughters have kept us up-to-date on her progress and she left ICU yesterday. But she was a raving lunatic against liberals and I had to unfriend her years ago. The only way to keep in touch with my 86 yr old mother is through facebook and calling since we left the states.

I know how it goes. Hugs.

[samplegirl]

110. I'm hurt and I'm

sad over this. His life does not change by who he voted for but mine does. 😔

[LittleGirl]

111. That's the thing too

They don't understand how their way of thinking affects us all.

My family was in a serious mess during the Obama years. One of my brothers lives about 100 miles from my Mother and when Obama got re-elected in 2012, he simply stopped calling her. Said that he didn't want to talk to her. And didn't for nearly 4 yrs. I don't know what made him change but my Mother was destroyed by his silence. Every time his name came up, she'd cry and my other liberal brother wanted to hunt down my brother and kill him for what he did to our Mother. He will never forgive him but I have and my mother has and my hateful brother speaks to Mom every week again. It's pathetic how this separated my family. My oldest brother died in Sept and they had a memorial service (which I couldn't attend because I'm abroad) and I called my liberal brother that day and asked him if he was going to beat up our brother. He said, the memorial is on Mother's 86th birthday so he will live another day but he would not speak to him unless spoken to first. I can only imagine the tension in that room.

We never discussed politics growing up and I wasn't active until 2006 when Obama came on the scene. He was the first one I voted for since Carter lost to Reagan. I had to ask my mother which way she voted. She's a solid Dem. Dad died in '75 so I'll never know how he voted.

[samplegirl]

112. I've never been a

big poster on D.U. but I’ve been here what seems like forever. 14 years coming up here soon! But read here daily for all those years. I’ve never been on a plane, train or had a vacation since I was eighteen. I took care of my Mom for ten years in my home. I would think he would hope that when we retire we could afford to do something besides sit home and watch tv. He’s been everywhere! But he only thinks of himself and his vote proved it!

Anyway no one can take my hurt or troubles but it’s good and it’s also reassuring that the people in D.U. support each other whenever we can! Thank you everyone.

[samnsara]

115. i blocked one of my t party sisters ages ago on FB...

..I figured I would do her a favor by keeping her BP low

[geardaddy]

117. That sucks big time.

[calimary]

118. Your brother. Aw damn, samplegirl. I'm so sorry about your having to go through

something like this. And with your brother, no less. And with the holidays coming up fast (although this is hard to deal with, ANY day or season of the year).



And btw - There's nothing wrong with YOUR name - and YOU'RE the one to decide what it should be. Why shouldn't it be your call anyway? YOU decide what to call yourself. NOT somebody else deciding. Now, you can certainly decide to concede the point on any argument, of course. As long as it's YOUR choice to do so, that is.

[samplegirl]

119. Thank you❤️❤️❤️