About an hour ago my mom died.
She was receiving hospice care and I have been with her all week.
Right now I am alone in a hotel room in shock and grief.
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No matter how old they are or how sick they are, it hurts real bad. You need this 
situation. It still hurts. I hope you have family you can be with soon or at least talk with tonight. 
sometimes these are the times to reopen channels.
i understand sometimes that is just not possible, but if you think it may be, pick up the phone.
condolences. deaths in families w turmoils is double hard.
family. We are here.
I feel for you.
Take care.
My mother died a month ago, too quickly for me to travel to be with her, and I'm still reeling.
The feelings come in waves, and it doesn't help to hold back the tears. But over times the waves don't hit as hard as they do at first.
It must be awful to be going through this alone and in a hotel room. I hope you can return home soon and be with people who care for you.
The first few hours are so hard. Please be gentle with yourself. Do you have help and support through this? 
so sorry for your lossI was at work when I got word my mother died. I had to drive about 30 minutes to get to the house and cried the whole way. Even knowing it was coming was no comfort.
It will get better.
of your mother to you that you can. They will bring you much happiness over the years, but you need them now of course.
My heart goes out to you. I hope you can find some supportive friends or family to lean on during this time. It's a very difficult thing to go through alone.
My 93 yr old mother is still hanging on...barely.....
Loss of a loved one is never easy...
Once you pass this grief stage, you will look warmly back on the times you've spent with her, knowing that you were there right up to the very end. Just typing this brings back tears from when my parents died. I was there with my father, missed my mother passage by minutes. My father passed back in 1987 and my mom 7 years ago, and I can still cry when I think about it. The memories you have of her, and the sacrifices you've made to make your mother's last days as peaceful as possible, while providing crucial companionship, will fill your heart forever. These are feelings that never go away and can be fully recalled at a moment's notice.
Please accept my deepest condolences. Stay strong my friend. The next year will be the roughest, but eventually it gets better.
I have been there.
who loved your Mom.
I remember the day. I remember the shock. I remember the grief. It is overwhelming. You have my heart felt sympathy. Take the time you need to adjust to this new reality. Try not to make the mistakes I made in rash judgments or decisions. It will get better with time. It has been 14 yrs since my Mom passed and I still miss her everyday, I don’t think that will ever go away but the pain and the grief have. Once again I am very sorry for your loss. Try to stay strong.
I'm so sorry. I went through the same thing with my mom and dad, and it's definitely the lowest point in life.
The silver lining is (if you can call it that) that the lowest point in your life is now behind you, and it can only get better. As for your mom, she's been liberated, and is in a better place. 
I so know what that's like.
My mom passed away a few weeks ago.
I've been there, so hard to lose parents ...
I was also not in my home state,so I know a little of how out of sorts the whole experience can be not being close to home, besides just the overwhelming grief that comes with death and being wiped out emotionally from this last week..
Please take care
I'm so sorry about your mom. I'm glad you know there's support here for you. Pretty sad day when you lose a parent. I hope you'll be ok.
normal now...one you may not particularly like.
I still have both my parents, but I will never forget the kindness of coworkers who showed up at my apartment when my fiancé died. I'm glad you reached out to us. It is too hard to go through it alone.
Here's a hug.
Here's another hug.
And another hug.
I wish we could all be there with you to give you hugs in person. I guess something like this is kinda the "next best thing." I'm remembering how many DUers here have posted when a loved one died - and how many others here stepped up to comfort and sit vigil. Happened to me the night my mom died. I was alone because it was late and everybody else had gone to bed and it was just me, up all night and unable to sleep. It's hard even when you're expecting it, as I was. We knew she didn't have long, very elderly and very ill. In and out of the hospital again and again for the last two years of her life. I didn't feel so alone after I posted about it.
I guess I feel compelled to bring that up whenever someone here is in mourning, to just share that there's a really wonderful community here that will buoy you up. It's a way to say thank you. It meant a LOT to me and got me through this, especially over the ensuing days when I had time to reflect, and would re-read the replies to my thread. It meant THE WORLD. May you find it equally as consoling.
You do not mourn alone.
know anyone in that city that you can ring up and get together with. This is not a time to be alone.my heart is breaking for you and I’m sending you all my luv, wishing I could be there to put my arms around you.
You were there when she needed you most. I hope that brings you peace eventually.
Losing your Mom hurts a lot, I know from experience. I wish I could provide you comfort, but I know nothing will help right now.
May your mom rest in power.
That's a loss like no other.
You were there for her and comforted her.
I hope support is on the way?
My thoughts are with you tonight.
I was right where you are now, last year. It does get better. My heart goes out to you in your grief.
I hope you have someone to be with you.
Peace, strength and healing to you and your family
The loss of a parent changes our whole reality in the world. I'm so sorry for your loss and your pain.
May your mother find rest and peace in the hereafter.
After 2 months on hospice. I was numb when she finally died. I knew it was coming but it's still surreal she is gone. I think I came to the acceptance about 4 months ago.. that was the hardest for me. Now I'm hitting the missing her stage and can't call her etc..
It's amazing what a process it all is. I hope your mom passed peacefully and I send you lots of strength to get through your journey with all this. Hang in there
So sorry. Been there and I remember how much it hurts.
Did you have time to make a plan w your ma? Are you holding up ok? Thought about you again.
The answers will come. take care of your Ma. All those things will be there after you honor her passing.
You've just experienced one of two of the most awful moments a person will live through. The deaths of your parents. You see lots of people saying their sorry here above me. From the things I see here, you can be rest assured that those sentiments are coming from a group of people very capable of, and vulnerable to, genuine kind emotions. And we mean every word.
May 'the power' that is amongst us, be merciful for you and your family in grief. 
Hospice Counseling is free. It makes a big difference. If you get overwhelmed, maybe just calling for a session would be helpful. At least schedule one, don't you think? It's going to be ok. Crying is really good. 
you're not as alone as you think you are.
Is there someone you can call or be with? I hate for you to be by yourself right now. I wish a DUer could be with you.
May she rest in peace.
It is so hard to lose your Mom. May she RIP
She’ll always remain with you in both...
My deepest condolences....
And I have been there, too. And you've turned to the right place - DU is here for you 24/7 and so many of us can empathize. In many ways, it is the toughest loss. So don't hesitate to reach out as long as you need us. You aren't alone.
i felt the same way with my mom.
but i managed. and i continue to manage. and you'll do the same.
i hope you have an easier time of things than i did. if the hospice offers bereavement counseling please take that step and go. i am certain it would be helpful for you.
years and years ago, after my dad died, his church offered a two month weekly counseling group session to family members who had lost a loved one. even tho i wasn't a member of the church, and i'm not religious (in the traditional sense) i went. it helped me a great deal. years later, when my mom died, i had no professional help and it took me years to get back closer to being myself. (actually, i'm still not completely back.)
i read that you told her you loved her over and over. we are both so fortunate that we were able to do that. remind yourself of that once in awhile when you need some comfort.
my life's journey picked me up and dropped me on a new path after my mom passed. it was an unexpected turn, and a very unwelcome path and i didn't want to be there. if i had a choice i'd go back to my old path where my mom was physically present. but the time finally came where i was supposed to learn to live without her. it's one hell of a lesson to learn, that's for sure. can't think of anything harder i've gone though. and i'm sorry that you are going through it now. just go slow, and take it easy. one step at a time. the fog eventually lifts.
"Your Mother is always with you.
She's the whisper of the leaves as you walk down the street.
She's the smell of certain foods you remember, flowers you pick and
perfume that she wore.
She's the cool hand on your brow when you're not feeling well.
She's your breath in the air on a cold winter's day.
She is the sound of the rain that lulls you to sleep, the colors of a
rainbow. She is Christmas morning.
Your Mother lives inside your laughter.
She's crystallized in every teardrop.
A mother shows every emotion .......... happiness, sadness, fear,
jealousy, love, hate, anger, helplessness, excitement, joy,
sorrow... and all the while, hoping and praying you will only know the good
feelings in life. She's the place you came from, your first home, and she's
the map you follow with every step you take.
She's your first love; your first friend, even your first enemy, but
nothing on earth can separate you.
Not time, not space...not even death!"
--author unknown
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I hope there will be some other family--or friends-- there soon to support you as you grieve.
You know DU friends are sending you hugs...
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My Dad is in a home suffering as I type.
I know your pain.
This is real hard.
I hope things will get easier soon.
hugs
Been there -- just take one step at a time. Just one step, and may a candle light each step as you take it.
