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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsSomeone said that in the South, saying "with all due respect"
as Nikki Haley did, this means something that could not be said on network TV...
Anon-C
(3,430 posts)LastLiberal in PalmSprings
(12,601 posts)Example: "Mary Lou just can't keep her knickers up when she's around the football team, bless her heart."
I learned about this from a friend who lives in South Carolina...bless her heart.
KY_EnviroGuy
(14,498 posts)and "bless his/her heart" are all precursors to saying someone is totally wrong or full of shit.....in the South. It's the ladylike or gentlemanly thing to do.
After any one of those precursors, any quantity of gossip, rumor, or criticism is OK.
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moriah
(8,311 posts)"That's mighty interesting, what makes you think that?" is also politespeak for "And just what crack are you smoking?"
Solly Mack
(90,795 posts)much.
Otherwise, the very limits of respect you're due, which could be none but will never be as much as you think you deserve, yet you do outrank me in some way, so I'll preface my coming less than respectful comment with the ambiguous "with all due respect".
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Solly Mack
(90,795 posts)We often polite someone to death. Meaning, we're so sugary it's actually insulting. The victim is flattered because they don't know we aren't sincere. Later, we'll laugh about it. After the unwanted visitor is gone, that is. Would be rude to openly laugh in their face.
Generally, such treatment is only meted out to those who stop by uninvited (and are unwanted) or who once present, behave in a superior fashion.
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Solly Mack
(90,795 posts)And I mean Atlanta proper. In the actual city.
raven mad
(4,940 posts)I miss hearing that one!
Funtatlaguy
(10,892 posts)With all due respect.
And Im as as southern as a dope and a moon pie.
JNelson6563
(28,151 posts)I'm always a little surprised that it's a point of pride.
Blue_true
(31,261 posts)hlthe2b
(102,468 posts)Especially when newcomers to the South experience it and don't realize it isn't really that Southerners are being so very nice, (who they tend to view as being stupid). I'm a Westerner through and through, but during my time in the South over many years, I did tend to find a lot of condescension on the part of newcomers that tended to be answered by this little tactic. And to be honest, I found it a bit funny.
Solly Mack
(90,795 posts)Tipperary
(6,930 posts)oberliner
(58,724 posts)kedrys
(7,678 posts) I love it when someone starts a sentence with with all due respect because it usually means the opposite.
oberliner
(58,724 posts)I think it's a polite way of implying something less polite.
question everything
(47,551 posts)the one with Ruhle.
GulfCoast66
(11,949 posts)Of Louisiana and Arkansas.
Had she said Bless your Heart...well, we do not say that phrase unless really called for.
obamanut2012
(26,165 posts)That is exactly what it means, in the parts of the South I was born and have lived in. "You're an idiot, but I can't say that, so..."
DemocratSinceBirth
(99,717 posts)When a person says "with all due respect" or "no harm intended" someone is about to get disrespected or harmed in some way.
Sancho
(9,070 posts)you can politely "kiss my ass".
I don't know if it's something from SC, but I've heard it used that way many times. I've often heard it right before you curse..."With all due respect, you can go to hell (or whatever you want to say)."
I suspect that old Nikki was just leaving off the ending.
Iggo
(47,581 posts)But it means what it says it means: I'm about to disagree with you, while giving you the full amount of respect that you're due.
What it doesn't say, but often what's implied, is that the amount of respect you're due isn't all that much.
B2G
(9,766 posts)This isn't a southern thing at all. It's universal.
Wounded Bear
(58,757 posts)So, "With all due respect (you fucking idiot)..."
Gidney N Cloyd
(19,847 posts)AllaN01Bear
(18,616 posts)brewens
(13,636 posts)idiot!" Or whatever is appropriate.